I have a friend that I hung out with since kindergarten, and I am in 8th now. We have been slowly growing apart, and I really just want to be acquaintances now. Like we just say hi and bye to each other in the hallways. What do I do to let her understand without being mean? My other friend is going through the same problem. What kind of advice can you offer her?
2007-09-26 09:39:34 · 5 answers · asked by . 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I went through this in college, actually. My best friend from 7th grade on decided she was done with our friendship and treated me very badly. It has been about seven years since we spoke in person, and I'm still hurt by the way she treated me...and the loss of our friendship. She did try to approach me again about three years ago, but I couldn't find in myself the desire to trust her or the possibility of healing the damage.
Why are you growing apart? Because you don't spend as much time together? Because you don't agree on the same things, have different friends, or have different interests? Here's the thing: you won't ever be acquaintainces. You were friends, and you'll always know more about each other than acquaintainces do. Treat your friendship with the respect a friendship deserves. Be kind to her, treat her as a friend, and do the best you can to remember who she was to you once.
If your friend (or your friend's friend) want to spend more time together than you can, try to say with as much friendship as you can that you have other plans. This is an incredible challenge in your character: do you throw people away when you're done with them, or do you become the sort of person who has affection enough in her heart for all the people who have earned it?
2007-09-26 10:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't call her any more.
Don't say anything about it, but just don't don't call her.
If she asks why you never call any more, plead busyness. When she asks to get together, plead other plans most of the time. It will take a while, but the friendships will fade naturally.
Don't be mean or rude, or tell her you don't like her any more, or don't want to be friends.
Frankly, I think you're making a mistake in wanting to end the friendship completely. Not hanging out as much seems reasonable, but there's no reason people have to be identical to each other to be friends.
Some day, if you remain friends, you'll be glad for her friendship.
You're both at an age where you change a lot. If you let it, the friendship might grow again.
2007-09-26 20:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know there is no nice way to do this. i hate telling people i cant be their friend anymore. its heartbreaking and really makes both of us cry. i tell them the truth, and maybe you can both work it out! good luck sweetie :-D
2007-09-26 16:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a drifting that you must respect and move on.
2007-09-26 16:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let your friend know how you feel.If he is your friend he should understand and care about your feelings.
2007-09-26 16:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋