Can you have one without the other? How do people not get hurt? I find it hard to separate the two and I have the somewhat cold outlook of a man!
2007-09-26 09:32:18 · 22 answers · asked by Red Phantom 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I am speaking romantic love or love making (duh!) People have Friends with Benefits, sex without love, does that work or is someone getting hurt everytime?
2007-09-26 09:42:26 · update #1
yes when you have sex it might not for love even if it is ok
2007-09-27 05:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally at this point in my life I could not separate the two.
However, yes you actually can have one without the other. Is it good, personally I don't think so. It's impossible for people not to get hurt....especially if one of you have developed feelings and the other person just wanted to tap it an go...
You are right to realize it's hard to separate the two..good for you....especially having the cold outlook of a man that you have expressed!
2007-09-26 16:41:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's quite obvious that most people think they can separate them. Look at all the promiscuity going on today. Sex, however, was intended to be a form of intimacy shared between a husband and wife. A married couple is usually indicative of a supposition that they love each other. Thus, the two should not be separate from one another (sex and love), though they oftentimes are.
2007-09-26 16:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by Joshua B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have sex without love but you can't have love without sex. Loving someone means having an intimacy with that person. Intimacy by definition is "something of a personal or private nature". Love and sex must be a part of that personal private place in a relationship. Without the sexual part there can be no intimacy, because sex is the closest two people can physically (and sometimes mentally) be. And that is intimacy in a personal private nature.
2007-09-26 16:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a lot of people can do it; for me, No. The are one in the same. I could never and have never had sex with someone I was not in love with. That tells ya why at 30 I have only been with two people. I don't think that sex should be taken as lightly as it is these days. It makes me sad and scared for the future
2007-09-26 16:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by The Voice Of Reason 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can, but it just becomes "scratching an itch". I think that how we treat each other sexually is a reflection of how we feel about each other as people. If you are only in it for the sex, than the special extras are not there. The fire, the passion, the ability to be turned on simply because you've pleased your partner and gotten into their reaction.
And yes, you can get hurt if one starts to care and the other stays in it for the physical.
2007-09-27 00:35:03 · answer #6 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't separate them but in my case I need to have love and marriage to have the sex. There are many levels upon which to become acquainted with someone and that is something to be treasured.
2007-09-26 17:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by Lexy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awwww! all the mushy answers are taken!
well, i agree with mr.diamonds and stacy or whatever. you can love someone and not have sex with them and it works way better than if you were having sex with them.
as for the other way around, well, i think that it really depends on each different person. for example, a prostitute might really and honestly say that she doesn't associate sex with love. but a prom queen might say the same just to be popular and she would be lying. then after prom she'd be crying cuz her boyfriend said he was gonna go after her friends after he was done with her.
i personally think that when you love someone in an intimate kind of way, like boyfriend-girlfriend, girlfriend-girlfriend or boyfriend-boyfriend, you SHOULD have sex with someone.
BUT out of love for your children you should have reproductive sex only with people who they might like to be children of. For example, don't have kids with someone who has hereditary baldness and AIDS and three boobs.
Even if that means having sex with someone you don't really love. Cuz otherwise you won't be affected by it, but your children will.
Just my personal opinion.
2007-09-26 17:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by its_just_me! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have sex without love but it's not as good as it is with love. You can also have love without sex, but sex is a great part of being in love.
2007-09-26 16:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can have one without the other.
I have a friend with benefits. Its still pretty early but the first sign of him showing any romance or love::I'll be out of there.Both know what we want and nothing more.
2007-09-26 21:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by § dreamer § 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are two different things. You dont have to love someone to have sex with them, and you dont have to have sex with someone just because you love them.
2007-09-26 17:06:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋