Why, then, are there so many divorces? Why do people cheat? Why do we get the urge to cheat?
Just want to hear your thoughts. :o)
2007-09-26 09:26:39 · 11 answers · asked by Linz ♥ VT 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I'm not sure many people cheat becuz they don't get the same satisfaction or protection from their partner. I would never cheat i absolutly love my b/f , and so far my b/f and i have lasted 2 years :)
2007-09-26 11:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by Dollface;) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
but that's another story
The explanation for the majority of divorces is simple: selfishness and pride
I know I'm opening up a huge can of worms here, and I understand the need for divorce in the face of abuse.... but the simple formula is: no commitment means an easy out.
If a couple is not totally committed to each other - no matter what - it's extremely likely that the marriage will not last. Once selfishness and pride take hold - it's extremely difficult to turn back.
Joining together in marriage is not simply a partnership - it is a merger on EVERY level. Once the couple understand and embrace that, you know the marriage has an excellent chance of survival. That's not to say that you totally lose your individuality either. It's what makes things interesting. It's simply a different way of looking at someone. It's why being "in love" changes to "love you forever, like you for always".
them's my sentiments.
blessings Linz :)
2007-09-26 10:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's natural, yes. We do it, don't we?
Divorce has nothing to do with nature. It has to do with immaturity and a lack of understanding of what commitment and marriage truly mean.
People cheat because it's easier than dealing with the root of the problem (which is usually self esteem).
Getting the urge to cheat is an entirely different situation. We are naturally inclined to be sexually attracted to other human beings no matter our relationship status. If we weren't, there'd be something wrong with our wiring. Acting on it is the problem. But anyone who goes into a relationship or marriage thinking neither their partner nor themselves will be attracted to another person for as long as they live . . . . they're kidding themselves.
2007-09-26 10:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Humans are a patchwork of sexual behavior impulses, an example of evolution taking random different directions and abrupt turns.
Here are some of the evolutionary influences on our reproductive behavior:
Our closest cousins are the chimpanzees, but there are two distinct lines of chimps. The greater chimps are a typical pack animal, with 12-30 males and females living together, and the males competing for access to whichever females happen to be in estrus at the time. The bonobo chimps are part of the next point.
There are three species in the world in which the female is always receptive to sex, regardless of her estrus cycle: Dolphins, humans, and bonobo chimps. Dolphins and bonobos are also pack animals, but they use sex as a social glue, mating frequently throughout the day with random members of the pack.
Humans are very dimorphous. Dimorphous species tend to form groups with one adult male, a group of females, and their children. Male children are ejected from the group upon maturity and may later attempt to depose an alpha. Females join the pride (or whatever) upon reaching maturity. Lions are an example.
Humans have a romantic bonding mechanism. Although we are not the only animal capable of forming a monogamous bond, our mechanism to accomplish it seems to be unique and chemical-based. Although it is a powerful chemical addiction, it is temporary, lasting anywhere from months to 5 or so years. It may have arisen as an offset to the complete and prolonged helplessness of a newborn human, which would be difficult for any one person to successfully provide for.
All of these influences express themselves to varying degrees in our societies. There are cultures and times where wealthy men accumulated many brides and the average man had none. We definitely tend to form packs (tribes) with varying degrees of promiscuity and monogamy.
2007-09-26 09:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People cheat because they have lost all respect for their mate. If they had love and respect, they wouldn't even dream of cheating no matter what walked into the room. It is natural for us to pair up, but we have to have respect for the person for it to be long lasting.
2007-09-26 09:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by jacquie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, for most people it is natural. There are some who are more inclined to polyamoury however.
People get divorced for a variety of reasons. People cheat for a variety of reasons. I really doubt very many people get married thinking one year later they are going to get divorced.
2007-09-26 09:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure thats one of those things that varies from person to person. I'm pretty glad I didn't marry the person I was with 6 years ago (I came pretty close)- I'm not even the same person I was back then.
My parents have been married as long as I've been alive (my mom since 19). They're happy.
2007-09-26 09:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Linz....you sound like getting married is becoming less attractive right now.
Is he the one making wear a crew neck?
Squirrels are monogamous, but they only live three or four years...
2007-09-26 10:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by FROGGIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't natural. Our instinctive drive is to promote genetic diversity by being with multiple partners. But we're socialized to believe that we're supposed to be monogamous and to do otherwise is sinful or even criminal. So all of us have this internal conflict to contend with that we handle with varying degrees of success.
2007-09-26 10:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
sometimes ppl just marry the wrong person
2007-09-26 09:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by ¬¬ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋