very weird and bad nerves?

Question

im 13, through out my life ive been really bad a nerves, but it's not just like when you get infront of people, this is weird. I start feeling ill and really sick when i do the simplest things such as, going to a friends house, go to a family party for dinner, and things like family dinner parties always make me feel bad because i just cant eat because i feel sick so i just have to watch . but i know this is all sycological (sp?) but i still get it, and it really upsets me sometimes. e.g, my friend is having a sleepover for her party and she has invited me, she is like one of my bestest friends and i really wanna go but these are the sort of things that sets all the nerves off, and i dont want to go there, start feeling really sick and just watch them all have fun while i just sit down and try feel better, but also, normally when i have fun i realise everything is ok and stop feeling ill but its just the part of getting the confidence to go, because i am afraid i might not feel better

I was hoping i might grow out of this but im 13 now and it hasnt improved much.
I also am hoping experiance will overcome it but ive done many things like school trips (that sets all the nerves off) and enjoyed them in the end but i still get no better when acctually doing something else

Plus, it was a hard choice but i really wanted to do it but this whole nerves thing was the only thing stopping me so i decided i would just go for it but now im worried, i took up the duke of edinbourough award and that includes like camping in a forrest for 2 days, and now im really waorryign about that

Answer 1

you really should talk to your medical doctor about this problem. It's possible that you could use antidepressant medicine or Anti anxiety medication. Many times these problems can be helped medically.

Drink Chamomile Tea, which can be purchased at any health food store, for relaxation. drink this before you have to do something that will make you nervous. I think you will find your nerves calming down when you use this Tea on a regular basis.

Answer 2

You sound sound like a very brave girl, you have recognised that you have a problem with your nerves and you are doing something positive about it! I think that it is fantastic that you have signed up to do The Duke of Edinburgh Awards, this shows that you want to move on and gain more confidence. Have you spoken to your parents about this issue and if so what did they say?, you have to start feeling good about yourself and the person that you are, if you worry all the time what people think then i think that i would lock myself in my bedroom, but you have to learn that life is about growing as a person and finding yourself and being happy with the person that you are. When you look in the mirror, what do you see?, do you smile when you look at yourself? If so start doing it more often, tell yourself i am beautiful and i have confidence. Try talking to one of your close friends and let her know that sometimes you feel stressed when you are asked to stay over, i'm sure she will understand and will try to make you fell more included. You are 13 years old and sometimes when kids reach the teenage stage, your hormones can mess about with your emotions and this can make you more stressed.
Try speaking to your school nurse or educational welfare officer as they will be really sympathetic towards your situation and sometimes it helps if you realise that your not the only one with a problem ( i work in a high school so i know this).
You will feel better and you have to start telling yourself this, YOU ARE NOT A WEIRDO EITHER!
when you start to get that sick feeling in your stomach, try to chnage your chain of thought by diverting your attention to doing something else, e.g read a funny book. But if the feeling overwhelms you, talk to somebody close to you about it and they can help reassure you!

Answer 3

Hi Claire.
Your whole problem sounds like anxiety and possibly social phobia.These are treatable but you must confide in parents and see the doctor.

By the way 13 years of age is far from being too old to grow out of anything.

I am from a medical background and can send u a message about this problem,but your profile does not allow emails.So email me if you wish and I will reply with my knowledge on this area.

This feeling sounds like a panic attack,albeit in a small way and is pretty common.I know because I suffered them for a period and the feelings u describe

Paul

Answer 4

well done to you for facing up to it and trying to deal with it, you sound like you have a very mature attitude.id say that you maybe need to learn some relaxation exercises, and try to do things that boost your confidence.often the way that we view ourselves is completely different to the way that others see us.you obviously have friends and are invited places,so people obviously like your company.try to concentrate on the positive sides of your personality, and though it sounds silly, practice at being confident when youre on your own.imagine being in a social situation, and what you will say to people etc.people can put on a confident front, though really feel nervous underneath it all.my daughter went to theatre school and i found this was great for boosting her confidence and speaking in front of others.it will get better, believe me.i used to be the most nervous wreck id ever known, but i used my mind to overcome it(mind over matter and all that stuff!) and eventually it worked.theres always hope, especially if you recognise the problem,as you have, and work on improving your self esteem.good luck, i wish you all the best in the future.

Answer 5

Poor sweetie, I know exactly what you mean. I suffered from nerveousness and social phobia for over a year. (I'm 24) My doctor prescribed me citalopram which helps calm that panicky feeling down, plus I went to anxiety management classes at college and that really helped me. It was good to meet people like myself. When you feel nervous, try taking deep breaths. Take a deep breath in, count to 3, breathe out and count to 3 again. This helps calm you down but please go to the doctor if this continues becaues I missed out on so much of my own life before I got some help. Good luck xxx

Answer 6

Ask your doctor about an exercise routine. Regular exercise, such as walking three times a week, may reduce neuropathy pain, improve your muscle strength and help control blood sugar levels. Gentle routines such as yoga and tai chi might also help.