Is calling men or others who critique feminism cowards constructive ?
2007-09-26 07:51:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I really had to ask myself if I should bother to answer this question. I am indeed a man, 51 years old, and a child of the civil rights movement. Was one of the first black children sent into what had been an all white elementary school in my home town in New York. From that experience, I have continuously prodded for a more intelligent conversation about the rights of women and the means to achieve it. And all you have to do is look at my last question to see just how hateful some of these women can be! So much so, that I was called a wuss. I would like to know how many of the (white) women here have had to endure conditions throughout their lives comparable to what I have experienced and continue to, and then tell me how much of a wuss I am.
So let me say at this point, if the women here don't want to support the men who advocate for them, you, all of you deserve everything that you experience in life. And I hope that you will continue to have that until you realize you can't go through life seeing all men as enemies, or unqualified to ask substantial questions about the status, thinking and actions of women.
Shingoshi Dao
2007-09-26 12:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Who is it supposed to be constructive for;? The female giving it? Or the male receiving the critisism? For no person can really be 'made' to think,talk,or act differently. And the critism will only be seen as an poor attempt at controlling someone elses behavior, crazy really when you think about it. The person that is feeling offense to dumb comments made by a dumb boy might feel better to know that names or hurtful things people try to say and break us down really have no energy, until we let those words in and then allow it to fester in our own minds, with our own ideas and concepts that are attached to the hurtful words. To put it even simpler, words are literally nothing more than expelled oxygen. Only becoming something in our minds. Rethink your ideas about why you get offended when you do. It has taken some time and alot of practice but I am never hurt by things people say or do, for really I only have control over my own self: mind body and soul.
2007-09-26 08:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by dingydarla 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would go with no.
You can't have an irrefutable dogmatic standpoint and expect to evade criticism, and I think that that attitude reflects somewhat ironically the beginnings of the movement of feminism.
As a white middle class male I probably have an unfair view on this type of thing but the way I see it is that as a world there are certain things we have to adjust to-
1. Women give birth!! We need you to replicate the species. There is an innate caring instinct that is to a higher degree within your role as mother and carer
2. Men have to adapt to the changing circumstance of more women working and help out on the caring side. We can adapt our instincts to help, much as women can compete in finance or whatever
3. They are not cowards for disagreeing with a point, however seemingly irrefutable. I don't think all feminism is good, or coherent- much as I don't think chauvisnism or macho behaviour is all good.
The truth is things are complex now and we all have to adapt- when it finally comes to it though- women are still conditioned (whether physically or sociologically) to be more caring and thus some criticism against feminism may be fair
As a male you are expected to defend and women are expected to care and both now in modern society seem to be interchangeable somewhat.
However in the long-term inspite of the recent shriekings about totally equal treatment the truth is it isn't necessarily going to be possible- don't get me wrong though I find blokes who consider you gay just because you give a **** about something to be just as annoying as feminists.
2007-09-26 08:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by James J Turner esq 3 · 4⤊ 3⤋
It is immaturity.
It is an attempt to shame when reason fails.
Children call names in place of discussion whereas adults reason.
It is not constructive. It is an attempt a character assassination in place of argument and it applies in application to feminists, non-feminists and anti-feminists.
Above all, when one resorts to name-calling, they have just conceded the point and lost the argument.
2007-09-27 03:09:38 · answer #4 · answered by Phil #3 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The people that this post refers to are the ones that hide behind the anonymity of the internet to stalk, harass, name call, threaten and impersonate in attempt to embarass and discredit. I think this person is likely quite aghast that there are people (who freely admit to being antifeminist) engaging in this reprehensible behaviour. I have been called a wh*re, sl*t, b*itch, dyke, lesbian, satan worshipper, witch, and baby killer. All of this because I disagree with another opinion. Now is that constructive compared to identifying anothers behaviour as cowardly?
2007-09-26 08:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 7⤊ 2⤋
No, it's not. Name-calling is never constructive and never mature. We all have to rely on sound, adult arguments.
2007-09-26 09:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
name calling is never constructive.
2007-09-26 08:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ember Halo 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Name calling is childish. It is true for anyone.
2007-09-26 09:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Calling anti-feminist men cowards? lol
I, a woman feminist, was called a coward by an anti-feminist man on this very forum.
LOL never ending
2007-09-26 09:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by Devil's Advocette 5 · 4⤊ 7⤋
I do agree with Kinz. Calling wrong names and name dropping is bad. I can say what I want but say it without names. Its not nice.
2007-09-26 07:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 6⤋