i was his first girlfriend. I always think that we end up together. but we lose communications and he called me. we have a nice talk, remembering the past life we shared. He told me he's still single but after few months of sharing love thoughts he told me he was married, deny it at first because he don't want to hurt me for i'm still special. I told him that i can't let him go, i don't want to give him up. it's very hard, it made me sick just thinking of him and the memories we have. help!!!
2007-09-26 07:48:25 · 51 answers · asked by rhodz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he really loved you he wouldn't be pursuing a relationship with you while he is still married.
married men are off limits, something that True, Real, Good people know.
2007-09-26 08:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen I can understand he was your first love and you are so in love with him and that you want it to be him and you until the end of time, and I am sure it is hard. I mean he may have this connection with you but he got married to someone else and he loves her and he may not wanna hurt you but he is not about to up and leave his wife whom he married not regretting it, he would of not of married her if he was not in love with her and wanted to be with her at the end of time. He may of thought you would never be in life again but the first love is always there but sometimes it is not meant to be. You need to leave that man alone and walk away. Be the bigger person, trust me you will feel a lot of pain if you don't. It may even lead to you and him starting an affair but it is no good. You will be hurt because he is going home to his wife and he will be hurt that he is cheating on his wife and the wife would be hurt if she found out. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot, that you were his wife and he was acting this way with a ex girlfriend because honey that is all you are right now. I am so sorry you are feeling this pain but you got to walk away, trust me it will be for the best!!
2007-09-29 15:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not okay unless your name is homewrecker!! So what if you have feelings for him.....it's called an old flame!! Of course you'll feel all 16 again, you both have changed and grown up and your relationship may be all good at first then you'll realize it was all just memories that you loved. Seriously this is nothing special, just two people who had a connection, went their seperate ways, and ran into each other later in life. Having memories is one thing acting on a fantasy is another. Oh and by the way this is soooo selfish, ever thought of his poor wife or the fact that you're "in love" with a person who could do this to their current wife???????
2007-09-26 08:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by I got answers! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should let him go, my father did the same thing (when I was only 15) with another woman and now our family is a complete mess. Think about his marriage not just yourself. He might not want to be more than friends, maybe he just wanted to see how you have been in a regualr friend relationship way. Honestly if he is married he must be happy so I think you should be the big one and let hime be with his wife and move on. And the memories are the past,,,,, PAST!!! People, change, feelings and much more things.
2007-09-26 07:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by jae 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am going thru this right now, my husband is cheating in me with an old flame, she keeps sending him text and picture messages on his phone, he is calling her from inside the house and changing the number on the redial so I don't know the number that he has called, and I am trying to figure out why also. It makes me sick to my stomach to think about this, the only thing they share together is a daughter that neither one of them see. We have been together 6 years and married for 4 of them, I have been thru more with this man than she can ever dream of doing!! Why do they do this to us, do they think we are stupid enough to never find out?? Maybe just stupid enough to stick around!
2007-09-26 08:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by Jess 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you're asking our permission to date and flirt with a man that is married.... HHhhhmmmmm.... ummm....
N O ! !
Get a grip, the guy got married and you're just so special that he lied about it to you, because he didn't want to hurt you... Do you hear how that sounds? You need to back off. You're an easy target for a lay honey. He isn't going to leave his wife, and are you honestly willing to have a man who only comes around for a booty call??? Find another man, put yourself in his wife's shoes. How would you feel if the man you wanted to spend the rest of your life with was messing around with an old girlfriend? Grow up...
2007-09-26 08:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends. If you don't mind he's married and just want some cheap sex, I say keep doing it. If you're looking for a real relationship then stop messing with the married guy.
And don't give this christian based monagomy that goes against every biological instinct of man. The male of the species is wired to want as many partners as he can have.
2007-09-26 08:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by Bull in a china shop 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are being played! He already has a wife and is trying to use you as his side piece because he knows you are still into him! It you were just looking for a little hot sex, that would be one thing but it is clear that you want more. 70% of married guys NEVER leave their wives for their side girlfriends and even if they do wind up getting divorced (get caught), they normally leave the girlfriend once they get back on their feet!
Have some self respect and find your own man. This situation will only lead to even more heart break for everyone involved!
2007-09-26 07:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
No, it wasn't kewl for you to do that from the moment you learned he was married. It's certainly not okay for you to keep doing it. How would you feel if your husbands ex was sending him "sweet" messages and calling him? Hmmmm? Would you be comfortable with that?
He's married so he's not available. Leave this situation alone. He's not a good-guy if he's encouraging you to keep this type of contact, and/or lying about being married. His wife should be the primary female in his life, and no other woman should get any of his romantic attention...if he'd do it to her, he'd do it behind your back too so don't be fooled. He's NOT that great of a guy.
2007-09-26 07:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Has he mentioned that he made a mistake marrying his current wife?
If not, please leave him alone. He is married and is committed to someone else. Do you want to be the cause of problems in his marriage? Or how would you feel if your husband was receiving messages from an old flame?
Don't be selfish and think about how his wife might feel. If he's going to cheat, he's going to cheat be it with you or someone else. However, if you don't want that bad karma around you...leave him alone. Move on and find someone else to shower with love messages.
2007-09-26 07:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by trysh_mc 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He lied about not being married, where is the trust in that? Move on, find yourself someone who is NOT married, and be happy with the thoughts of having had a nice boyfriend years ago. It is over. You have good memories, be happy with those; find a nice guy for yourself!
2007-09-26 07:55:01 · answer #11 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋