Best way to avoid friends who drink?

Question

One of my best friends is kind of screwed up. She's had a really hard life, she's dark, and she's fallen in with the wrong crowd this year, and she's dragging me down with her. Well, I've never been known as a "good girl" and most people at school expect me to drink and do drugs and stuff, but I don't and I don't want to.
Well, she tells a lot of stories about all her weird hangovers and stuff, and recently she's invited me unofficially to go with her to a party where there's probably alcohol. (she said they were having a hard time getting it) I don't want to stop being her friend because she really needs me, and I don't want to lose my other friends (most of them drink and stuff and if I outright refuse I'll lose my rep... yeah I'm a bit concieted like that), but I don't want to get all drunk and jacked up, either.

So what's a good excuse or a way to avoid her?

Oh, by the way, we're in eighth grade. Kinda sad, I know. :(

Answer 1

It is sad! Yikes!

First thing you could consider, is that you can't "save" your friend from drinking or hanging out with the wrog crowd. What she NEEDS is some therapy. She has issues and you can't help her.

Please use common sense when you are at these parties. Take something non alcoholic to drink. and please don't start drinking now. alcoholism is a terrible, destructive illness.

You don't have to use an "excuse" to avoid this particular friend.. you can simply thank her for any invitation and let her know you can't do whatever it is... We don't OWE anyone else a "reason WHY"...
take care of yourself, hon.

Answer 2

Nowadays there is so much peer pressure to drink and do drugs. If you don't want to drink or do drugs try to avoid the scene where its going to be at such as parties. Your worried about losin your rep, well if you start drinking and do that a lot your guranteed to do stupid things that you'll regret later. Eighth grade especially is too young to mess your life up. You can still be friends with your drinking friends just do things that dont involve drinking. It may seem cool to them but its not. Its good that you respect yourself and have morals for yourself. Always stick to your values in life and don't change them regardless of what your friends say. Your only in eighth grade so there is plenty of time to make new friends and hang out with people that have a better influence on you.

Answer 3

Your friend has a serious problem. She needs some one to tell an adult that will help her. And you don't need to become a drunk or drugy. Tell someone or write an note to her parents and mail it to them without your name. If they are not worth it, slip a note to a teacher or counselor. If she ask you if it was you say no. She needs help now or she will pay for the rest of her life. Don't ruin yours too. Drunks and drugies forget friendship they just want their drink or fix !!!!!

Answer 4

The friends I hung out with drank and smoked, yet I never did. They were my friends so I always looked after them. We all were very close. If you're a strong-willed person, peer pressure shouldn't even be in your vocabulary. And if your friends are true, they wouldn't pressure you into anything. So if your case is like mine, you don't have to worry about what ANYONE thinks. Be yourself, don't do things you might regret, be there for your friends and have fun!

Answer 5

When I don't want to go somewhere and don't want to get involved- I call out sick. Just say yeah, I am going and then the night before- tell her you not feeling well and then the next day say your too sick to go.

Your a smart girl staying away from all the crap.

Answer 6

tell her ur mom wont let u go. blame ur parents and tell them ur not going to disobey them.