Most of my friends do. What I mean is, they no longer keep in touch with you, they could care less now that they are married if they even have any friends. They do the same with their family almost.
Is that going to happen to me too when I get married in this upcoming February? Does it happen to all couples? Does this happen just to young couples?
2007-09-26 07:33:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when people first get married, they are very involved with each other... it will wane.
meanwhile, if you want to do something with one of these girls, give them a call and ask.
2007-09-26 08:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 18 my husband was 21. We didn't give up our friends, or social lives, just melded a lot of it together . It does not happen to every couple. You don't have to end up like that, and you wont if you don't want to. There is no reason to give up your life after marriage. we've been married almost 6 years, and still have our own friends and such.
No marriage is the same as any other and yours will be different from you friends, you will be fine dont worry.
2007-09-26 07:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by Cebsme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happened to me but it doesn't happen to everybody. I stopped calling all my friends because no one matters but my wife anymore. I don't even feel like drinking socially anymore. I am 23 years old and have been married for four months, and loving it. I even put my family aside, the ones whom I trusted the most while growing up. I think it is just a part of life honestly.
2007-09-26 07:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by Dr S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think it is a personal choice. I do think couples get weighed down with the adjustment...combining households, creating new relationships with in-laws, learning to compromise, but other than that, you choose how to spend your time. It takes a little more effort, but you can still have a social life.
Also, you may want to socialize more with couples once you are married. So your friends who are now married may want to go out with you both now.
You don't have to give up your friends to be married. You just have to adjust.
2007-09-26 07:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by allforone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 19 when i got married and friends are very important to the both of us. although we only have couple friends which were all single before but they all are married now so that is great and i great friends with the wives of his friends so we spend more time with our friends now than ever before. you can't go on living a happy married life without friends because although you have a spouse that hopefully is your best friend you still need someone else to talk to and hang out with on some occasions. i so look forward to the weekends when me and my husband hang out with all our friends cause thats when we wind down and party a bit and i couldn't be happy with out this combination of home life and fun with friends on the weekend. i think alot of people start to pull away from single friends because they have different things they might want to do like the single friends want to hang out with the opposite sex and have fun but the married person can't do that anymore with out there spouse so i think that is why you might think married people become unsocial. and you know at first yall might be totally cool with just each other all day every day but after a bit yall will both need a friend other than each other to talk to. good luck on your upcoming marriage and i hope yall are very happy together and with your friends and family
2007-09-26 07:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by stt143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what happens is, you are no longer one person, you are now two people, and your old buddy can no longer curse and talk dirty about women anymore, and i'm sure he still wants to.... so.... he dosen't call yo u, because then if he hangs with you and her,,, her has to be at his best behavior! what a DRAG!
So, your new friends are also married with no kids.... now, once you have kids and your new married firends don't ... they will be out of the picture too... cuse the last thing they want to do is go to your house and get mobbed by a bunch of screaming KIDS! lol
So in the end,,,, all your friends will be married with children...
thats life.....
But if you don't get married...... then slowly, you will have no firends, cause they all got married!!!
what a twisted life.
2007-09-26 07:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may, depending on YOU. Keep your personal hobbies and interests. And your friends. Just because you get married (I'm assuming that you're not too young or immature), you can and should have a fulfilling social life, as should your spouse.
2007-09-26 09:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will happen only if you choose to. I chose to distance myself from my friends and from the things I used to do when I was single - simply because socializing with my husband is mostly enough for me. But it's up to you if you want to take the time to nurture your friendships in addition to your marriage. Marriage is not a social death sentence.
2007-09-26 08:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens in the beginning you want all the time you have as new couples to be with your spouse but after a while they get old and boring then you venture out but take it slow and see
2007-09-26 07:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have a lot of strange friends.......you only become socially disable and isolated if you choose to (which in the newlywed stage can happend).
2007-09-26 07:37:07 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋