4 years ago my parents got a divorce. I have been tossed around back and forth like a football. My mom is my best friend and i strongly dislike my dad. i live at my dads right now, going to an exemplementary school. But i want to be at my mom's but their education isnt that great. Should i be happy and in a poorer school or should i be depressed in a good school that i hate everyone at????
2007-09-26 07:12:11 · 18 answers · asked by Ella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How old are you. If you are close to graduating I would just stick it out, finish school and then move in with mom.
If you have a long time, speak to you mom, see if you can figure out a way to go to a school that is not so bad. If there isn't a way, then you have to decide if being depressed is worse then being with your dad. Then do what is best for yourself.
2007-09-26 07:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go live with your mother. You can get an education anywhere. You just have to be willing to learn. Just because a school has less money it does not mean that you will learn less. The will still have good teachers. People that want to teach are not in it for the money. Why have you been thrown back and forth? How did you end up living with someone that you strongly dislike? Good luck.
2007-09-26 14:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would definately go to your mom's! I know how that is..my parent's are divorced too and I lived with my dad. We didn't get along at all and I wished to live with my mom but my dad was more financially stable. (Even though my mom and I were and still are like best friends!) I would not worry about going to a "exemplary" school while in middle/high school...what really counts is college. If you do great in high school (no matter which one it is) you can get into any college you want! Especially if you don't like the kids you go to school with, I would ditch out of there! :) Good luck with whatever you choose!
2007-09-26 14:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anna 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is all in your outlook, if you commit yourself to being miserable, then you will be.
While your mom is your best friend, ask yourself how can you improve the relationship with your father. Are you giving him a chance or do you feel you are betraying your mother if you got along with your father?
As far as school goes, it is difficult starting over, but in time you will find new friends. Talk to your parents and seek counseling to work things out if you need to.
It sounds like you have both parents that love you and care about your future. You are fortunate to have this.
Good luck.
2007-09-26 14:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ella, I am so sorry that you are experiencing upheaval. As I am a single mom I tell my daughter "it's not your fault, that the adults in your life couldn't pull it together". And let me repeat that to you as well. I myself go for the "happpiness" factor. If you are a good student you will excell anywhere. I went to a high school that was very good and my college roommate went to a school that was "the poor side of town". She was extremely intelligent and did very well at college. I said "how did you do so well with so many students that didn't care?" She said she ignored them and the teachers would give her extra stuff to work on if she got bored. Whatever decision you make, please continue to stay in touch with the non-custodial parent. Right now that doesn't seem important, but as you get older it will. Hopefully your parents aren't in a tug of war over you. It's not easy, but it's the life you have(as I tell my daughter) look at the positives and God Bless. I'll pray you make the best decision.
2007-09-26 14:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by inkster7 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Take a good look at your situation from the outside. Are you unhappy with your Dad because he is uncaring or not there for you? Or because he has rules and expectations? Try to imagine if an adult on the outside would think you would be better off with your Dad or your Mom.
Don't go with the parent who will buy you whatever you ask for and give you 100% freedom. Kids shouldn't have such freedom because they make bad choices with it. Strong guidance is what young people need. Go with whoever will give you that.
2007-09-26 14:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
you should be happy in a good school and make new friends. It's rough I know, but you will do yourself a great service by getting the most out of your education. Education equals money......good education = better college = better job = more money.....
surely you can find some kids at school you like.....
2007-09-26 14:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My parents got divorced when I was young and I disliked my dad as well and I ended up staying with my mom... My opinion is if your not happy then go to your moms...... give it a shot and see how things work out for you...
2007-09-26 14:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by adever23 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Be with the parent who will put you in the right direction.The one who you can talk to about anything,the one who disciplines you when needed,the one who cares about what you are doing.School is not a reason to be with one parent or the other.The way you are being brought up in this world is.
And the reason you are being tossed around is because you are choosing to leave.my guess is when things dont go right you move to the other parent.Stop doing that and appreciate what you have.It will hurt you in the end.Stay with one.
2007-09-26 14:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by shadowmonkeyblue 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you really need need to ask your self this question. no one can tell you the right thing to do. go to whichever you feel will be the best for your grades AND happiness. you should not have to pick between both. or if you are that concerned. go to your moms house and ask if you guys can move to a new school zone.
2007-09-26 14:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋