My man doesnt like using toys in bed. I try introducing a vibrator but he says that he doesnt want to use it. When I ask him why he says he doesnt know. Dont get me wrong....we have used handcuff and other things before but when i want to try something different he says NO. I dont understand. Why is he like that?
2007-09-26 07:10:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
ohh and by the way....I dont want to use it on him I want to use it on me while we are doing it!!
2007-09-26 08:35:46 · update #1
He probably feels as though he cannot compete with it. Why walk into something you know you can't win sort of thing. In fact, You probably have him questioning his role and how he has played it with you thus far. This could be very bad for the relationship if not approached properly. I think the best way to approach this would be to forget about it for a while and work on his confidence in bed. Like looking at him in awe and making him feel like a GOD in bed. Let him know he is blowing you away. I think most men like to think they are sex gods. Then maybe build it up by using your hands on yourself and slowly working it in its presence from there. Patience is a virtue.
2007-09-26 07:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Panther 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. some straig8 guys think it's "gay" to use vibes or toys in their rear. it's not - "gay" is a sexuality and doesn't denote something being good or bad.....anyway, he may never be comfy with this just like you don't want everything done to you sexually -- it's his body and his choice....if you want to keep trying I would start by getting him REALLY hot with oral and then using your finger back there with lube on it. that should help him become more loose along the way. also don't try shoving anything up there, lol go slow! you will have to work on getting him to be secure with you during sex in order for him to relax more and maybe accept trying this but as I said he might not ever. good luck.
2007-09-26 08:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by camillabrightside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably afraid, or afraid of what his (sexual) response would be when trying something new. If you are able to talk frankly, ask him to explain why he doesn't want to try and don't accept "don't know" for an answer. You might also try to introduce new things slowly, Or maybe his "no" really means yes.
2007-09-26 07:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by William 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may think you want to use a vibrator because he's not satisfying you. Tell him this is not so. Maybe start small with other toys that wont replace his member. Good luck!
2007-09-26 07:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by inquirygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No guy wants competition in bed. A toy or whatever that can give you a better orgasm than he can is competition. It's an ego thing for guys.
2007-09-26 10:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do u need toys when u have a man? Is he not good at it?? He must be thinking the same thing.
2007-09-26 19:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels emasculated. He feels a vibrator is replacing his role in sex. You need to show him that its not a threat but something that can be fun for both of you.
2007-09-26 07:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by Chris C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to feel the pleasure from him not the vibrator.
2007-09-26 20:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by GH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is independent and has a right to his opinion, for starters. So leave him alone.
Now, as to reasons why, I suspect that he might worry that is is too artificial.
2007-09-26 07:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beats me. That kind of thing is fun and hot. Find a better guy.
2007-09-26 09:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋