My husband and I are married and I have honestly never cheated on him. She is crazy and claims its my ex boyfriends. For a while she was ok and kept the baby now she started this again. Should she pay for the dna test or should we?
2007-09-26 07:08:41 · 28 answers · asked by Retired Punk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask your husband, if he has no doubts HE needs to tell her to F*** O** and mind her own business and if he doesn't care regardless, ditto to the above. But honestly, I'm kinda nasty, if there's no doubt and she wants to spring the $ for it, let her, and when it comes out she's the idiot, I'd tell her, take a picture since you won't be seeing your grandchild for quite some time...afterall, it's just a sponge/swab on the inside of the mouth, so your child won't get hurt, as long as he's still to young to understand I would NEVER tell him what an @ss his grandmother is.
2007-09-26 14:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by Dolly J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to have your mother in law pay for the DNA test and then let her feel like a heel when the test proves that the child is your husbands. I hate when mother in laws get that way. My mother in law told me while I was pregnant with my daughter that it wasn't her son's since her sons don't make girls. There hadn't been a girl in his family in MANY YEARS!! She even told me if it was my husband's baby that it was a BOY not a girl and that if it were a girl she would want a DNA test. Once our daughter was born she couldn't deny that she is my hubby's daughter, my little girl resembles her grandmother. Don't pay for the DNA test, make her do it. Good luck!
2007-09-26 14:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by Drea Z 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who wants a DNA your husband, mother in law or are you doing this to shut her up? If your husband wants a DNA then he apparently thinks his mom is right I would do it to satisfy him but would not tell my mother in law anything even when it shows your husband is the father she would be cut out of my life. I think if your husband question this child being his he could have talked to you on his own with out his mother putting her 2 cents in and he should have been man enough to
put her in her place as it takes more then donating sperm to be a father.
2007-09-27 09:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you want to prove to your mother in law of how wrong she is in saying that your son is not the son of your husband. But unless your husband believes her, don't let her cruel accusation take a tole on you. She sounds very vindictive and cruel and something tells me she was this way way before you came into the picture. Let your husband deal with his mother, stay out of it and ignore her. If your husband backs you up on this just tell her, "if you wish to believe that my husband is not the father of our child, then you are denying being his grandmother. I know the truth and feel no need to have to respond to your cruel accusations".
2007-09-26 14:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you having a DNA test? I would not even consider it. Does your husband also wants one? I would leave him if he was agreeing with her. You do not need to take that from her and your husband should be telling her like it is. I feel sorry for you.
2007-09-26 14:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does your husband say about all this? Does he have any doubt about it? If he doesn't doubt that the child is his then there is no need for you to have the DNA test done.
It sounds like your husband needs to have a chat with his mother about her behavior. It shouldn't be up to you to deal with her.
2007-09-26 14:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ya gotta love mother-in-laws! Are you really going to get a DNA test based on what this crazy woman is saying??? I wouldn't give her the satisfaction, but if you must, than I would definitely make HER pay for it! This is her problem not yours!
2007-09-26 14:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter what she thinks. As long as your husband trusts you, then don't do anything. Demand some respect out of this woman. By getting tested, you will surrender to her. If your husband does want you to get tested then do it and once the results are in, make sure that he knows that that was the first and last time you will ever let yourself be humiliated by him of his mother. If you get tested and prove them wrong, make sure they apologize for accusing you under false pretense.
2007-09-26 14:20:36 · answer #8 · answered by onlinetherapist.com 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she wants it so bad let her pay for it. Mine is the same way. Always trying to discredit me to my husband of 10 years as well as my children. If your relationship with your sweetie is strong you will make it. Sorry you have to put up with it. Move at least 800 miles away and make sure you don't have a place for her to sleep if she does come to visit. That's what I am doing.
2007-09-26 14:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could either let her pay for the dna test, or you and your husband could just ignore her and not let her be around her grandson, cause she's probably saying stuff to the baby as well or giving off bad vibes.
2007-09-26 14:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by Hopethishelps! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋