when women fall in love, do men fall in love the same way, or?

Question

does sex=love for men, once they think you're sexy, that is love

Answer 1

Sex is not love, and most men know this. If a guy is getting free sex, he doesn't even need to love the girl giving it away. Sometimes a guy will know that he's just using the girl for sexual gratification, other times he wont even notice until 2 years later and you're asking him when you're going to get married and he has a look of shock on his face or he never even brings it up.
Pretty much, if a guy loves someone, he'll stick around without having to have sex. It's the ultimate test... and it works.
I was friends with my husband for 7 years before we got married... and the sex is awesome.

Note: Studies show that communication isn't really the key to a successful relationship. Any woman knows it's almost impossible NOT to communicate. What really makes a couple successful is their "knuckle down" attitude and persevering through hard and devastating times. As we see today, most couples get off the boat when it gets too hard... and their marriages/long-term relationships fail.
You like them for their good qualities, and Love them for their imperfections.

Answer 2

While women are generally believed to be more emotional and less physical in their love for a man than men are in their love for a woman, that generalization doesn't hold true for everyone. One major cause behind the way people love is how their role models showed (or did not show) love when they were children.

For example, If a guy's dad was a womanizer or came across as though the physical were more important than the emotional, odds are that's how the son will be, too. On the other hand, if the father showed a strong emotional attachment to his partner (not necessarily the guy's mother, could be stepmother etc.), that's likely how Junior will behave as an adult.

Although I don't know for certain, I would imagine that this makes no difference whether parent or child is gay or straight.

Answer 3

It's amazing what happens as we get older (and start having children). Young men generally don't equate "love" the way women do -- or so I thought. Men are attracted visually. I'm now seeing that women are as well. My 15 year old daughter could care less about his personality so long as he has "gorgeous" eyes and shabby hair. This was reaffirmed during my force feeding of The Teen Choice Awards when they had "The Hottie Award." Poor Zak Efron got up to accept the award and everytime he opened his mouth the girls would all start squealing. Didn't matter if he's the nicest guy or the biggest piece of crap to walk the face of the earth.
My wife (mother of my children) has put on a considerable amount of weight, is nolonger the svelt, sexy little racing machine she was in her younger years. I have not gained weight nor have I lost my hair... Still, she is my very best friend and I would be completely lost without her. Slowly, she is beginning to fade away (Alzheimers). I wouldn't give up the pain of losing her for all of the finest looking babes in the world.

Answer 4

its said that men fall in love harder than women
and all the men i know certainly fit that
men seem to get their heart throughly broken very badly when they were totally in love and it fell apart

i think sex and love are intertwined for us all not just men OR women

people think your sexy,
they get to know you and find you more sexy
they get to love you and find you more sexy

when they fall out of love they seem to be less attracted too
so you become less sexy to them
attraction is definitely a part of it but not the reason

those who were attracted and who found you sexy and dont love you,
those who dont know you well, were only attracted to you by what ever they saw at first, the initial attraction
aka lust
it feels like love
but

lust is not love
lust will never sustain a really good relationship
its is just the excitement of newness, attractiveness feeling sexy finding the other person sexy and not knowing the person fully yet

Answer 5

There are three essential conditions for a man and woman to fall in love:

a) Perception of physical attractiveness

b) Perception of similiarity of thoughts and attitudes

c) Locational proximity to each other


(Please note I have used the word 'perception': which is very different from reality.) Perception could later be found to true or untrue upon passage of time.

Answer 6

Just because a man thinks a woman is sexy or wants to have sex with her does not mean he love her.

Just look at all the single mothers out there. Just ask my mother. Just because he loves having sex with a woman doesn't mean he really loves her or loves her period.

Answer 7

sex does not equal love , someone with a healthy outlook on relationships knows that sex is just a part of being in love. This goes for both sexes. I used to have the problem that sex equaled being in a deeper relationship which I was ofcourse wrong. Its how you connect and physically is only a part of the pie.

Answer 8

pretty much...
I think Men do confuse Lust with Love...and initially are attracted by it...but after that the friendship, mutual interests and general compatibility comes into play.

Answer 9

There are two definitions of love: 1) what is considered infatuation, or "lovesickness", and 2) then the stage beyond that, which is primarily focused on affection.

"falling in love" is when two people enter the stage of infatuation together, and their cumulative energies combine. Men and women fall in love the same way in terms of the heart, but in terms of genetics, the act of finding a compatible mate to "fall in love with" is radically different.

Sex does not equal love for men. Sex simply establishes a deeper connection and underscores affection. It is a critical aspect to any relationship about a 1/3 of the value. The rest is communication and affection (both another 1/3).

But men and women locate targets differently, like i said. In terms of genetics, men go after women who remind them most of their mothers, generally, because that helps to guarantee compatible genetic matches (remember you get this from your mothers genes. Who best to figure out your next girlfriend! Thats a joke.). Aside from that, men find women most attractive when they have not yet had children. A perfect match for a man is a woman who has not year bore children for another man. This helps to ensure a stable parental environment. It also means that the woman has the visual features that please our genetic matching.

Women go after men that have attained status, because in terms of biology, men who have attained status are more likely (but not guaranteed) to stay and raise the child. Men who have more status, get more women and have more sex. The worst case scenario for a woman's genes is to have a man leave to have her raise the child by herself. The worst case for a man's genes is to have his woman cheat on him with another man. A man has significant investment in his woman in terms of "genetic" love and must be guaranteed his woman is loyal. Because a man can only be in love with one woman at a time. A woman can be in love with more than one man at a time. Remember there are various levels to consider here. The universe does not care about fidelity. But as a society, and as human creatures, we do care. We have the concept of monogamy. The universe does not. Genes will find a way to reproduce any way they can. So when I say the situation about being in love is different for men and women in this aspect, I am talking about the deepest levels of our structure. Loyalty and cheating are equal at the level of the person as a whole, and of society. Although the reasons why men and women cheat are different. Women cheat to regain companionship, affection and romance. Men cheat because they no longer find their women attractive.

So does love equal sex for a man? No more than it does for a woman. But each person has grown up with their own viewpoints on life, so this is a personal issue: many people may have that equivocation, but it is not built into our genetics. Beyond the genetic and biological issues that we barely understand, we have to add on parental, societal and person filters on top of this.

Personally, I dont think too much about why i fall in love. I believe when the time is right, the universe puts people together for us. Its like a door opening. Either you walk through it, or you close it. Every time i've fallen in love, its been a compelling force I dont understand that I feel drawn too. Its not based on SEX, its not just based on LOOKS, but thats how the act is started. Falling in love is much deeper than that, and requires the involvement of forces we do not understand.

Answer 10

women take longer to fall in love
men dont