2007-09-26 05:49:42 · 9 answers · asked by Tyronne Biggums 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's a form of outpatient institutionalization. When it feels like one can't make a decision on one's own, without talking about it with one's counselor, then it's time to get free and live real life again. When the difficulties that led one into counseling come to weigh a bit less heavily, and the need for some autonomy begins to be felt, this is a good sign. But some people seem not to feel this need. What to do about this kind of person?
___Perhaps offer a reminder that the therapeutic relationship is professional, paid, and artificial, and that one of the goals of counseling is to prepare someone to go out into the real world and to meet his or her emotional needs without it. Ask if the person ever feels any needs for autonomy, and work on the related issues. Stretch out the intervals between sessions from every week to every two weeks or a month.
___Work on practical issues outside the usual therapeutic domain, but always with an eye on autonomy. How are work relationships going? Maybe the underlying therapy-dependence is seeping into the workplace, and the shielding from normal stressors is eliminating one of the usual motivations to take a more proactive approach to shaping his or her career. The same could happen in personal relationships. People need to have some sort of stress-toleration level, and to be able to face issues head on, and to allow the related stress to act as a motivator. Many counselors have an over-protective bias that can be counterproductive to a client's growth.
2007-09-26 06:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by G-zilla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Co dependancy is also a risk. The counselor can become addicted to being needed. If the two are a pair then it is a dangerous combination.
Your second question is an interesting one. How do you treat them? Is this a catch 22?
I would hope that a counselor worth his salt will address this issue HEAD ON and make no bones about the issue. Once a person is called on their addiction, they will often switch therapists. They feel too exposed once you have called them on it.
2007-09-26 13:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the counselor is worth their weight.. they will pick up on this. So don't worry about it and let the counselor do their thing.
If I were the counselor... I would just straight up address it... and start shortening the sessions and lessening their frequency (ween them off)... all the time probing to make sure their focus isn't just being shifted to something/someone else.
2007-09-26 12:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by pip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert, but maybe some good old reverse psychology. If you keep coddling them they will come back seeking more love and attention from you. Throw them in the deep-end so to speak and they'll learn to float to the top...
2007-09-26 12:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by tiffguam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is that, this does happen, quite often. and the counselors feed off it. it means they have a job! i had a therapsit once, totally useless to me. she woudl jsut liek talk to me for an hour every two weeks. i had to stop seeing her cause she was wasting my time. but it was hard cause i liked giong in there and talking aobut myself and bragging about my accomplishments liek that lol
2007-09-26 13:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by the Bruja is back 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people can and do become addicted to everything under the sun....there has to be a point where you must let them go..sure they may seek help elsewhere ...but you won't be enabling them
2007-09-26 12:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by jazzy l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, obviously more counseling wouldn't be the answer.
2007-09-26 12:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by 2¢ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, but its ok because you can keep counseling them and getting more money!
2007-09-26 13:42:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
reassure them
2007-09-26 12:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by hari prasad 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋