I have a loving husband that I know loves me to death. He does not go out with his friends and of he does he takes me along, in the other hand i go out with my friends clubing without him. I notice a lot of changes we dont kiss as much as we used to and is not because he doesnt want to but because i dont want to most of the time, is not only kissing but hugging ect. I know I love him but why is this happening to me? is it normal? what im i doing wrong? any ideas?
2007-09-26 05:27:06 · 12 answers · asked by BabyDoll8 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you have to think marriage isnt all hugs and kisses sometimes you will go through phases of no sexual interest. It is completely normal it doesnt mean you do not love him. It happens to everyone but please do speak with your husband tell him you do love him and your sorry for the lack of affection.You just are going through a phase it is normal .
2007-09-26 05:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by hispregnantwife! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is probably normal. During our 15 years of marriage I've noticed that we are sometimes less aftectionate at times. It is kind of like you get out of the "habit" for a while. I have to remind myself to kiss goodnight/goodmorning for example and then it becomes a habit again. It has nothing to do with falling out of love. Just kind of like flossing your teeth. You just don't get around to doing it all the time! You are probably doing just fine. Also, you will not always be as physically affectionate as you are in the first couple of years of your marriage. But you will have to work harder at showing your appreciation for each other in other ways. Like doing thoughtful things for each other and being selfless and supportive. After being together awhile it isn't as easy as just hugs and kisses. That's what they mean when they say that marriage takes "work".
2007-09-26 14:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by I39 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Happen to me before when I was going in the clubs with my gfs. I have to say we were also far as distance. Just lost interest and felt I have my own world that he does not belong..doesn't fit.. He did not like clubs. So I quit and we just spend most of the time doing things together as a couple. Things are perfect now!
2007-09-26 12:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by LMH 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you sound bored with him. That happens if not to everyone to most people. You sound like you love him though.
Why not try to do something really unlike yourself? Like paint yourself up and just pounce on him. Or maybe you both can just go do something you've never done before.
When I feel like something is missing I try to think of something he used to like to go and do and hasn't done in a while and I never wanted to do and go and do it with him. Like going and shooting paintballs. I found it was kind of fun... painful but fun.
Or ( I know it's trouble if you get caught) but pull the car over one evening and make him take his clothes off. Tease him some. Just spike up some unusual things and remind yourself he is your bestfriend.
If it flops then you can laugh together. If it works out then you have a new game.
My husband and I wrapped my bosses house once ( with t.p.) then he was brave enough to ring the doorbell as we ran off.
Just try to bring some fun into it between you guys not just out with others. Make some prank calls. Take on a new hobby.
Spend more time in bed with him.
Your concern over your feelings deserves some really big hugs. No one should come down on you for this. You aren't just walking out your asking for advice on this. I commend you!
2007-09-26 12:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by Emily 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop going clubbing! After all you are a married woman...right? Stay home with him, get to know him...maybe there are things that you haven't learned about him yet. Make him the important one in the relationship....not yourself.
2007-09-26 12:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Behavin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong is your taking his love for granted! and you are pushing the boundaries to see how far you can push! Time to grow up and start showing your husband the same respect that he shows you. Unless you have a death-wish for your marriage???
2007-09-26 12:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by cautious 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your getting tired of him. there is a reason why you dont take him out with you and your friends, when he likes to take you out with him and his friends. You guys need to sit down and talk about this. Your probably having a change of heart. Maybe you need more excitement or something.
2007-09-26 12:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by J. Lee 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're married and clubbing without your husband???? Sounds like you're leaving out the most important part of this story...
2007-09-26 12:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
maybe you just felt out of love
2007-09-26 12:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by ♫♥♪♬♥♪Try Me♫♥♪♫♥♪♬ 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think what you need is a bad boy. One who will tell you what to do and how to do it.
2007-09-26 12:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by ranger33 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋