he hit me back!?

Question

I had a big arguement with my boyfriend and i got so angry that I punched him in the face. i didnt think he would do anything back but then he swung his arm round and struck me on the top of my arm and now its starting to bruise. do u think he shouldnt have retaliated because he is the man or did i deserve it??

Answer 1

Dude, you hit him first. How do you expect him to react. I don't care if you're a woman or not. You have no right to hit him in the face.

Answer 2

You PUNCHED him in the face. You are extremely lucky all he did was hit you in the arm. Not only were you wrong for putting your hands on him in the first place, you did it in a degrading way, punching him in the face. He shouldn't have hit you back, but it was definitely a reaction because he only hit you in the arm. You are worried about your bruise, how is his face, did you do any damage there? I agree that a man should never hit a woman, but WOMAN, you hit that man in the face. You cannot expect a man to walk away, when you can't even walk away. Grow up already.

Answer 3

Any form of abusive behaviour for no matter what reason is wrong. You and your boyfriend were both wrong, you started it but it was still no excuse for him to retaliate. You both need to seek help in anger management before this abusive reflex during conflict continues and escalates to a more dangerous situation for you both. It is against the law to hit anyone. Being that you hit him first, you must first go to him and tell him you were wrong, then you make it clear that he also was wrong. If he refuses to admit his part in this, then I would say you created the beginning of a real serious problem. He and you need to admit and see the situation as wrong and be willing to get help for it. If he doesn't admit he was also wrong and is not willing to seek help and you stay with him, you will be unknowingly be letting him know that it is alright for him to hit you. In other words, by you hitting him first and he hitting you back you have opened a door towards resolving conflict between the both of you by being physically abusive. Now you must do all you can to close that door and be sure it remains closed. Seek professional help, do not take it lightly, and good luck to you both.

Answer 4

Well I know you know this by now but I have to say that was your fault. I mean punching someone in the face, wow that's pretty harsh. I would suggest some anger management classes. You know, if you are resorting to violence in this relationship you might want to think about getting out of this relationship. It does not seem to be healthy for him or you. Get some help and learn how to use your words to avoid any further injury to you or anyone else

Answer 5

I think this is a tricky area. My brother in law was repeatedly beaten, punched and attacked with a variety of objects by his partner over the course of their relationship and never retaliated. His girlfriend knew that he wouldn't and so felt free to beat on him as much as she liked without any fear of getting a taste of her own medicine. I think using any form of physical violence unprovoked is wrong but I feel very strongly that women who think they can go around punching men and getting away with it are taking advantage of the fact that alot of people think 'you should never hit a woman'. If I punched a man I would expect to get it back. Women want to be considered to be equal to men in everything and so, really, can't then turn round and say 'you can't hit me back because I'm a woman.' Surely that is double standards. I think you should just thank your lucky stars that he didn't punch you in the face.

Answer 6

Don't think that you could get away with hitting a man just because you are a women. You should not have ever hit him. I do not think it is right that he hit you back but I do not blame him for reacting the way he did. If you hit someone, expect to get hit back regardless if it's a man or a women.

Answer 7

You got what you deserved.

If you hit him in the face, you're lucky all he did was hit you in the arm. He probably was caught off guard that you hit him in the face and wanted to "shock" you from doing anything else stupid. You could've made him go blind if you hit him in the eye hard enough.

You don't hit anyone in the face unless you're NOT the aggressor and are hitting back out of self-defense.

Answer 8

My personal opinion is that NOBODY should hit another. But I must admit that I can imagine that in a reaction/reflex he did hit you back when you punch him in the face. If he did hit you (lots) later there's no excuse because he could have controlled it easier. But... YOU shouldn't hit him either, it doesn't matter that you are female. Aggression is a lack of words and is NEVER a solution.

Answer 9

You were out of line for hitting him. I don't know how old you are but mature individuals don't resolve issues by putting their hands on the other person. I don't think that it's right for a man to hit a woman but he's still human and is going to react. How would you feel if you had a son and his partner was hitting on him?

Answer 10

Did you know that he could have called the police on YOU for hitting him and they would have gladly hauled you off to jail? And you punched an ANGRY man in the face and are surprised that he swung back? No man should hit a woman. And NO LADY should ever hit a man!! Why don't you keep your hands to yourself!!

Answer 11

I'm sorry but you deserved it. Domestic abuse doesn't just happen to women, men can be victims too. What made you so angry that you lost control and thumped him? Where you testing him? Sounds like you have anger issues which you MUST resolve. Your man may have not made the best choice by retaliating but it was probably his initial instinct. Talk about with it and try not to lose control again.