Does he refuse to clean up after himself, whine when he doesn't get his way, etc.?
And mine won't help me with our kids when we are both home. I was busy doing something, and he was sitting watching TV. Our youngest wanted a bowl of cereal, so I had to stop what I was doing to get it for her. Curious, I asked her why she didn't ask her dad to get it for her, and she said, "I did....he told me to ask mommy." Why should I be the only one doing stuff for the kids?? I was busy, he wasn't.
2007-09-26 04:40:29 · 26 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not a controlling person AT ALL. I try to sit down and compromise with him, like an adult, but he may as well be sticking his fingers in his ears and saying, "lalala, I can't hear you, lalala"....that is why I compared him to a little kid.
2007-09-26 04:55:23 · update #1
Greg, explain to me how I am a disrespectful little twit? Is it because I don't want to do all the work where the kids are concerned, while he sits on his @ss and does nothing? yes, he works outside the home, but that doesn't preclude him from helping take care of HIS kids.
2007-09-26 05:00:09 · update #2
Are you sure you aren't married to my husband? lol
This happens in our house a lot. I just tell the kids to ask their dad again, and to tell him I told them to ask him, because I'm in the middle of something right now. He will usually get it then.
If I ask him to do anything around the house, he does it, but I have to ask. If he sees a mess in the living room that needs to be picked up, he'll do it if I ask him to, but he will walk over it if I don't.
2007-09-26 04:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It usually ends up this way. The only reason my husband and I argue is because I feel like I am taking the majority of the work load with our daughter. We are on equal playing fields-we both work full time outside of the home-he does most of the cleaning and I do most of the cooking. BUT I do 99.9% of the child rearing (which in it self is a full time job, especially w/a toddler.) After I go beserk he will help, for a day, and then go right back to his old ways. If i didn't love him so much - he would be gone!
2007-09-26 04:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by ashley g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes my husband is about like that. Him clean the house? hahaha Men seem to think mommy is the one that should do all the taking care of the kids also. If any sports are on TV, WATCH OUT. They don't even respond! The only time they take care of the kids is when it's "their turn" and they have nobody else around to help them.
2007-09-26 04:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by jennbabe8476 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I hate that marriage & divorce are the same topic.
BUt to answer you question, does he work during the day while you're at home? How many kids are in school during the day?
How long has this behavior been going on? Since before you had children?
If he's always acted like this, why did you expect change to occur without a need or reason for it?
2007-09-26 04:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by Phil M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some men think that ***-sitting and tv watchin are "doing something". Whats worked for me before is to just stop what im doing when the kids are going nuts. Sit my own butt on the couch ( right next to him) and ignore everyone and be like "oh sorry but im busy now". The chaos soon drives him nuts and he HAS to do something. :)
2007-09-26 04:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by undone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why I voted my husband out of the house many years ago. While I have had to do everything for myself including raising 2 kids, earning all the income, and maintaining my home, it was still easier than doing it all while dragging the dead weight of my husband and all the anger along behind me.
Now I am free and independent and base my relationships on desire, not need.
2007-09-26 04:51:25 · answer #6 · answered by ruby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG- YES!!!! it's horrible and the worst part about it is- we are not even married yet. We got engaged last Christmas and it's getting progressively worse. and it's the little things that get me so mad. If you open a bottle - put the cap back on! if you take a shower- put the dirty clothes in the hamper. And all in all- he will STILL look at me and be like, "I'm hungry- can you make me this and make me that". Now i just say... "you have two legs, two arms- get off your butt and make it yourself". I clean, i cook, do laundry and even take the garbage out- time to put the foot down and make him start doing the things we do!
2007-09-26 04:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by mynxnyc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We don't have kids, but we have a puppy and when football is on Sat, Sun and Monday he is like a kid where you have to stand in front of the TV to get his attention and he doesn't listen, he wont do anything and he just sits there and watches TV all day for three days straight.
2007-09-26 04:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-02 17:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him to counseling.... did anyone warn him that after having kid(s) there was gonna be some work shared around the house like feeding the kids.
i think most guys act like little kids, but if you tell your kids to ask daddy also make sure that you don't give in and end up stopping everything to do your husband's part too
2007-09-26 05:05:23 · answer #10 · answered by Adrienne L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋