Do you think it is right that my husband got writen up at work because he missed a day to take me to my fathers funeral? One of his bosses got fired for stealing hours from other workers and now they are getting mad at everybody and writing people up for things they did like a 2 weeks to 2 months back. 5 people quit, Do you think my husband should quit? They are really mean there, He works at coca cola. He doesn't want to but i can see he is stressed and always complains about work. The only reason he stays is because of the money.
2007-09-26 04:22:20 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am pregnant and was bleeding so i had to go to the hospital but they told my hubby he could not leave till he finished his work. They are very mean there and my husband works hard 15 hours a day sometimes longer. They are always hiring there because people quit everyday. 5 people quit yesterday. Not to mention my husband and alot of other workers were missing hours and they found out a boss was adding them to his own and none of the employees will recieve there hours back.
2007-09-26 05:22:25 · update #1
This is the first time he has ever missed. So it is not like he misses all the time
2007-09-26 05:23:55 · update #2
Does this company not acknowlege the death of immediate family members? Most company's allow time off for the death of a spouses parent. Cold hearted son of a bit**es!!! I know the money is good but is the money worth sending your husband to an early grave from the stress? I know what you are talking about cause my husband was in the exact same spot as your husband. I know it might be scary leaving the financial secuity of his job but maybe he should consider looking for employment elsewhere....It is not fair to him or his family that he should have to be miserable going to work every day.
2007-09-26 04:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by pennylanegal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do think it was unfair for them to write your husband up for missing one day in order to attend your father's funeral. Does this company your husband work for have a union? If so, he should seek advice and help from the union so that his rights are not avoided and he can have that write up letter removed from his file. If there is no union, then the reality is the money is needed and so there fore he cannot just get up and quit, not only that it would not look too good on his employment record. Being that your husband is experiencing job related stress is a very good reason for him to consider finding employment elsewhere. Suggest he begin looking on the inter-net for other jobs that are available in the close area of where you both live. He can even submit a resume. Or he might be able to use time off from work in order to seek employment elsewhere. Either way, there is no law that says he has to continue to work for a company he is obviously not happy in. Best of luck to you and your husband.
2007-09-26 04:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Quitting a job may not be the answer. I think it is wonderful that he took you to your father's funeral. He shouldn't have been written up for that! They are being petty. If they don't have a paid leave policy regarding something like this, maybe he could use vacation time. If he belongs to a Union, which he should if he works for such a large corporation, he should contact them! My hubby is always stressed at work and doesn't like his job, unfortunately, te money and benefits are too much to loose and it is that way with many people in these hard econimic times. good Luck, I hope things get better for you.
2007-09-26 04:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by chefddr 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would quit, just because I would rather have a good job than put up with crap like that.
However, if he needs to stay (for the money or other reasons), most big companies have funeral benefits and a grievance process. He should check his company policy handbook. If he truly should no have been written up he can appeal it. If he is fired out of retaliation get a lawyer and sue.
2007-09-26 04:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I worked somewhere like that and it almost destroyed me after enough time, but to just quit could be equally detrimental. Suggest that he start looking for a new job and try to make everything at home as stress-free as possible. Also, I would suggest that he schedule a meeting with HR to discuss this - see exactly what the write up was for and challenge it. I mean I'm sure they didn't write him up for attending a funeral, they probably worded it differently. It may not make any difference, but it might make him feel validated.
2007-09-26 04:34:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you need money, then quitting isn't the answer unless he has another job lined up. I would say to just weather the storm. they are all fired up right now, but give them some time and everything will get back to normal.
I don't think they should write him up for attending your fathers funeral. It was his father in law and most places of employment count that as immediate family and excuse the absence, unless he didn't call in and let them know. then it's on him for not calling.
2007-09-26 04:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all this is very wrong of them to write him up. Telling some one they should quite a job is hard to do when he has a family to support but if he is stressed out and unhappy he may want to find something that makes him happy with the same pay. You should not tell him to quite because if things don't work out he will only point the finger at you. Just talk to him and see where his head is at. Good luck deepest sympathy to you and your family.
2007-09-26 04:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most companies have a bereavement policy for certain family members. He should not have been written up if there is a written policy. Have him check with human resources and the eeo office. If he has a union, he should check with them. Make sure he gets all documentation.
One important thing to consider is how he approached his boss and how he took the day off. Did he ask and was denied? He was written up for a reason. How did he handle the situation? If he didn't do anything unprofessional, he should have been allowed to attend the funeral.
2007-09-26 04:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
MOST companies give bereavement pay for a death in the family. Did the company know where he was and why he was absent? While I haven't heard of being written up for attending a funeral, I suppose it happens. He could start looking for another job - no harm in that - I don't recommend that he quit before finding another one though.
2007-09-26 04:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think I would quit my job over this.... just take the write up and start looking for another job. Don't quit this one until you have something better lined up.
Later, after this all cools off, tell your husband to go talk to someone in the personell department. Talk to someone there about the write up. Tell him to say that, "I understand there has been a problem with absences, but I feel that the day I miss was justified because I had a death in the family and needed to support my wife through this tough time." Have him to ask that the write-up be thrown out. If they refuse to do it..... then he takes the BETTER job that he has lined up for himself.
Don't ever quit a job until you have something better.
2007-09-26 04:25:39 · answer #10 · answered by pink 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋