Away from 6 month old for the first time and anxious...?

Question

My husband has gifted me with a much needed break; a 3 night trip to Puerto Rico. I should be thrilled, but we leave tomorrow and I am so uptight about leaving my baby girl. She will be in excellent hands with my mom and older sister, but I stillI cried last night at the thought of not seeing her for 4 days. Have you felt this way and how did you deal with it?

Answer 1

First, that little one is simply precious! You are a mom. You love your daughter. YOU WILL WORRY! Trust me, it won't be the only time! Perhaps if you schedule phone calls home to talk to the sitter. Take pics along with you. But for God's sake, whatever you do, DON'T CANCEL THE TRIP! It sounds to me like you have a fantastic guy there and he realises the two of you need some time to reacquaint. Do so. You have the rest of your lives, but most of that will focus on your children! Enjoy yourself, and allow yourself to miss her. It's so normal!

Answer 2

I went through this. My son was 13 months when my husband & I left him overnight with my in-laws, just one night though. I had known about this wedding (I was a bridesmaid) since I was pregnant and stressed about leaving him all year.

Same thing here, I knew he was well taken care of, but I just MISSED him. I wasn't worried about him at all. I just wanted to hold him. I had missed betime before (at my office late, wedding, 10 year reunion, etc.), but I had never not been there when he wakes up in the morning. That was the hardest. BUT we got through it and we've even done it another time since then. It gets easier and easier. I know he's ok, but my husband and I need a night away every once in awhile, ya know? He's 15 months now, and we'll probably go away again for a night next month for hubby's 30th. I'm already anxious about it, but excited at the same time.

Answer 3

My husband and I went to Spain(we're in US)when my son was 6 months. I felt totally confident leaving him with my parents but I was very anxious too. I cried when my mom dropped us at the airport, I cried on the plane...it's all normal. What helped me was to remind myself that my husband and I needed some alone time and he was going to miss our son just as much, so we talked about it while we were gone. It felt good to talk about it and have someone else understand how I felt...we just didn't let it dominate our conversations. Also, never underestimate that our kids sometimes need a break from us!!! It's good for them to look at new faces and experience new things too. The best part about leaving is the homecoming....it's that much sweeter, so go, have fun and look forward to seeing that cute little face! I'm so glad I went and you will be too...have fun!

Answer 4

Of course. Speration anxiety is incredibly normal and common. The only real way to get past it is by having time away. It's going to be harder for you since you will be gone for so long but bring a cell phone and call your mother every five minutes if you need too. She will understand since she left you once before. If it's possible, ask them to send you picture messages or videos on your phone so that you can see her. Your baby is so young at this point, that as long as she was well cared for in the past she will have to problem adjusting to the new care-givers in the space of a few hours. And she will still remember you when you get back.

Answer 5

maybe your husband should just buy you a day trip somewhere. when my son was that age i didn't like to leave him for more then a day.

i don't think you will have too much fun without your baby because the whole time you will be gone you will be thinking about baby.

when my son was 2 i took off to jamaica for 1 week. the first 2 days i was having a blast. after that i kept on worrying about my son. i must of called home like 3 times a day. so now when i go on trips without him i try to make it for 3 days or less.

Answer 6

Wow! a trip to Puerto Rico?? lucky girl.... :)

i have 3 children and it's probably one of the hardest thing for a mother to do. Leaving your children for the first time is extremely emotional. you have to trust that she will be fine with grandma and auntie. try to focus on the alone time you will have with your husband and the fun you are going to be having relaxing on the beach, full nights sleep and the uninterupted "play time" with your husband. it does get easier each time. the first time is always a tough one.

Answer 7

well, just think - its a lovely gift from your husband, how romantic! But with your little 6mnth old - when you come back (I advise you to go! TOTALLY) Give your sweet little baby a BIG hug, and smother her with love- : ) Let her be given notice that you are her real caring mum - and to deal with - make the most of your time there, and it will go fast- Im telling you. How adorable is your little baby in your picture! Id hate to leave my baby, but make the most of the love Puerto Rico holiday and relaxx!

Good luck - bst wishes!

Answer 8

You are very lucky, in that you have your daughter, and a husband who thinks enough of you to get you away. Most couples with a new born can't afford this. Your baby will be fine, and you are only a phone call away. Relax and enjoy the trip.

Answer 9

I SOOOO felt that way also, the best thing to do is bring a pic of her, a blanket of hers, or something you can grasp on too!
Make sure you live up your much needed r&r time, you as a mommy need it!
When I was away from my lil men, I brought the shirt they last wore so it smelled like them, and at times, I would grab it and smell it deeply!
Hope this helps!

Answer 10

well i live next to my mom and theres been times when shell take her to sleep wwith her and me and m hubby miss her so much b/c she sometimes sleeps with us in the bed bht i usually miss her even more b/c ill wake up and be like "i havent heard my baby for her feeding" then i realize shes with my mom. so yes im sure every loving mom feels just like you do