If you husband/boyfriend cheated on you would you do it back?
I love my husband and I'm with him because I still feel like if his the one for me,but I can't stand the fact that he cheated on me,
he has been the best guy ever seens then
2007-09-26 04:06:54 · 21 answers · asked by smiley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would you doing something bad, make this better? Cheating on him will only make you feel bad about yourself, and make him feel bad about you.
Let him be the one who cheated. Let him be the one who suffers the consequences of hurting you. Don't let him have an excuse to say "see your just as bad as I am"
2007-09-26 04:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't do it back because why lower your self in that way. If your trying to work things out doing it back would just cause more conflict
I am married my self and if my husband cheated on me I would have no choice but to end the marriage because I would feel as if he couldn't be trusted and I can't stand cheaters or liars.
If the love was there he would have never cheated. If you think you can get past it and you want to work it out and stay together then you might need to seek marriage counseling.
2007-09-26 04:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by 女性ウルバリン 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated, he obviously does not think the same way you do. There is no excuse for cheating. My husband and i have made a promise that if we get to the point in our relationship that we need to look elsewhere, than we need to end our relationship first. Cheating only leads to hurt. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Do yourself a favor and get out; for your own self esteem and self respect.
An eye for an eye only leaves the world blind -- it will not solve anything or make you feel any better. Don't do it
2007-09-26 04:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by rookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because I'm better than that. The act of cheating has nothing to do with the person that was cheated on and every thing to do with the cheater. I am a good loving wife and a good woman, if my husband cheated on me we would either work on it and move on or if I couldnt get over it divorce. Why compromise yourself over someone elses bad actions
2007-09-26 04:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by sarah W 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that cheating on him and making him feel like he made you feel will actually mend your relationship? His actions had tough consequences on you and your relationship, if you cheat on him, you will only add more damage to the relationship. If you feel like you can forgive him, then do it and forgive and forget but if you can't forgive and forget, then don't hurt him back by cheating on him. If he is really sorry for cheating on you, then the fact that you can't forgive him will be enough pain for him to deal with. Be the better person here. Best of luck!
2007-09-26 04:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by onlinetherapist.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That of course would be a thought, WHO did it first and then you have to remember WHO did it last. Two wrongs do not make a right. I guess I should answer your question, I would contemplate it and it will only go back to the obvious--NO!
I do not see what you will get out of it. You may feel like you are getting revenge but then you are using someone to do it and will only feel worse. Besides aren't you divorced?
2007-09-26 04:14:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it, you should be doing things to make the relationship stronger and cheating on him will only break it down further. I know you can't stand it, I wouldn't be able to stand it either, but if you are going to be with him, then BE WITH him 100%. It will get easier - I promise!
Good luck
2007-09-26 04:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe in second chances. however, i do not believe in third chances. one is a mistake, he's human, anything after that is habit. my hubby cheated on me and it is very hard for forgive someone when they put you through that. however, if you really want to work it out, the only two people that can are you and your hubby. it takes a lot of work from both people.
2007-09-26 04:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i would not cheat on him because it would be impossible to cheat on him if he is already out of the picture. i would leave him and be on my own, that way i am not cheating on anyone and am free to do who i want, when i want. No cheating involved.
2007-09-26 04:18:37 · answer #9 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that once to a boyfriend many years ago. I still regret doing it. I used the other guy cuz I was truly in love with my boyfriend. It was just a mess and I was so unhappy. I would be alone for a while, or go to therapy to help you deal with it.
2007-09-26 04:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by Maria 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋