2007-09-26 03:28:08 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't want to suffer no more. I've been with him for 4 years. He wasent like this when I met him. He was nice and romantic,sweet and kind . I don't know what happend to these pass years. He is treting me like trash but I love him. I don't want to leave him.
2007-09-26 04:03:19 · update #1
Leave him!!
2007-09-26 03:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Maria S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will not tell you to stay or leave him that is up to you. Let me just give you some situations which I hope could help you in deciding. If we are to settle down, let us say in a marriage, it is a must that you and your partner love, respect, and protect one another. You as a girl should be shield from any harm by your partner but if now that he is just your boyfriend and he is already hurting you what will happen if he is already your husband? Do you think what you have is really love? Or you are just challenged? I've been in the same situation before after several months of being blind and numb i have awaken. I left him for he can't after all, give me the life that I am dreaming of. A life with love shared between us and most importantly respect that will strengthen our relationship. Girl, it is not only love that is important but also respect.
2007-09-26 03:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by mitchell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT OF THERE NOW!! all the others who said many positive things are right, he may say he loves you, he may believe he loves you, but obviously he doesn't love you! Protect yourself, get a protection order from your local Court, don't think of not following through with prosecuting him because you feel sorry for him, he will only continue to do this to other women in the future. Move on with your life. I was a battered wife for 4 miserable years while believing that re-hab and our faith in God would make a difference. It didn't, I ended up loosing my hearing in both ears and have permanent damage to my jaw. Besides the fact that the jerk *** could kill you, you deserve better. There are always shelters to help protect you, leave now! Do not stop, do not pass go for $200, just go!
2007-09-26 04:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by chefddr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be one of those answers you might not want to hear but im going to keep it honest. I have no idea how old you are for starters to be dealing with this non-sense. A man kicking your *** isnt love, its not respect its not healthy. Love only takes you so far, the rest is your decision if you stay. Im going to tell you leave him. He's going to promise to change, promise to get help and baby girl he's not changing. He might change for a day a week but you need to leave the situation.
If you have kids then yes id be scolding you for staying and allowing your children to see that kind of behavior and if you dont have children ill tell you thats no way for your children to grow up, or lets suppose he'd hit you while you were pregnant are you willing to take that chance? If you are then thats pretty ****** up. If you are extremely fearful of him not because he talks it but if you really deeply believe him capable of hurting you then find out ways to get a restraing order, and shelters if you need them. Don't allow some man to beat you and make you feel less worthy of what you are. Dont you feel you deserve a good man who treats you well and truly loves you?
After its said and done maybe you should seek a counselor to help you thru whatever residue this situation will leave. Good Luck and I pray you leave this bad situation
2007-09-26 03:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by Queen of the Scene 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all...you don't love him. You've been beaten and brainwashed into thinking you love him. Your self esteem has gone down the toilet and you now think that you somehow deserve these beatings, which you don't! What should you do? Leave him. Get the heck out. He's not going to change, abusers rarely do. Go to a friend or family members, don't let him know where, don't call him, and don't accept his calls. Get a restraining order, get on with your life, and find someone who will treat you with respect and dignity.
2007-09-26 05:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by A R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is very addicting isn't it...he treats you bad, but you still love him, he beat the crap out of you, but you still love him...You love him so much that if he beat you so bad that one day you might end up in the hospital in critical conditions, but don't worried because you might get better in days and still love him..See you can put up with a lot of stuff when you love someone death, because loving someone to death will always hide the pain that you have within yourself...Choose life sweetheart and get some help..Call 1-877-448-8678 or 1-877 4 it to stop...Good luck and do it now before it's too late....
2007-09-26 04:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by bert bert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does getting beaten up have in common with love? Can you tell me? There is no room for that sort of treatment within the boundaries of love by any means. If you hang around and tolerate that from your boyfriend then you get what you ask for by doing so. That is not love. That is intimidation and control, backed by a lot of anger. Your boyfriend needs professional help. And you don't need to allow him to treat you that way. It is wrong! Get away from him before you get yourself badly hurt!
2007-09-26 03:55:08 · answer #7 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you probably stay because you think he loves you and he ll change. i am sorry to say that but he wont.
do you like being beaten up? do you think that this is a sign of true love? what would be your advice if a friend of yours was in the same situation? to stay with him?
if you dont respect yourself noone will do it .
are you willing to spend the rest of your life like that? what will he do later when you have serious problems? send you to the hospital? can you live in fear?
you cant trust a man who beats you up as you cant trust a man who drinks a lot.
you dont want to know what a friend of mine suffered by his boyfriend and everything started with a slap.
be careful and good luck.
love is supposed to make us happy. are u happy?
2007-09-26 04:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by Lina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your own safety you need to build up the courage to leave him. But i think you know that don't you? Get family or friends to help you, stay with one of them until you find a new place of your own. And stay away from him. It will be hard at first but in time it will get easier. Good Luck. You deserve better.
2007-09-30 02:58:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can love more than one person in a life time. You need to get out of that relationship, probably seek some counseling, and then meet a nice boy who would neve hurt you. A real man who loves you, because I promise this one doesn't.
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
www.loveisrespect.org
2007-09-26 03:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me!!! Get out of it!!!! There are plenty of nice men to love who wouldnt lay a hand on you. Geez...really, obviously he doesnt love you. Come girl...you know thats not right. Leave Now...before he kills you and you dont get the second chance to find true happiness. I will even come help you leave...no man scares me and I would like to see him try raise a hand to me. I am here for you...I will help you.
2007-09-26 04:48:29 · answer #11 · answered by lsstarbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋