2007-09-26 03:22:58 · 19 answers · asked by Rita 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
pluto2007 came closest to what I would have asked, or said.
Yet, in whatever (or any) way we define success & failure: Social, career, love, personal insight & growth & so on--the way we relate to people in our lives is a very substantial part.
We learn (succeed) by being aware of all apparent disparities, with patience & understanding; listening for new perspectives; becoming aware of the measure of our courage & strength in helping, & of our own needs. If someone is close minded, or mean spirited--the best we can do is disconnect from them in whatever way we are able, NOT to be combative. "Acceptance" or "rejection" is superfluous.
How we relate to, & transact with others has much to do with who we are, & how we feel about ourselves.
2007-09-26 13:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Rena... I think you have really come up with a deep one!!
As expected, the shallow interpretation that people are generally jealous of those who are successful, seems to come first to the mind.
On a deeper thought, however, it seems to be actually the other way around. Our successes give us self-esteem and confidence which leads to a generally positive attitude and approach towards people and issues. On the other hand, failures make a person irritable, impatient and cynical. Obviously then it is the first type of people who would generally get along well with others.
Either way, indeed there seems to be a high correlation between our successes and failures on the one hand and how we get along with people on the other hand.
Great question!!
Further......
I suddenly realized later that the correlation is true the other way around as well... that our successes and failures are influenced a lot by how we get along with others... our ability to get along well with others is an essential ingredient for a majority of our successes.
2007-09-26 03:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by small 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If one is successful in their occupation, they tend to feel good about themselves and are willing to share thoughts and be upbeat. If one is out of a job, however relevant it is, they tend to be depressed and non-productive because of a loss of finances. Failure and unemployment runs hand in hand and can be devastating to ones psychic. If one has had many jobs and just can't seem to succeed or achieve in life, this has to be a very negative effect on them. I have seen executives plummet into a deep hole when they can't find a position and have been very successful in the past. Success vs. Failure are very powerful to the positive and negative. All of this can effect how we interact with people on a daily basis. If you aren't happy, down and out, you are not going to be a very positive person in life. Have you ever met a bank manager that is not very nice or pleasant? Have you ever been asked to give someone money on the street? Are they positive, upbeat individuals?
2007-09-26 03:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of that depends on how you define 'success' and 'failure'. If you only count making lots of money, being popular, and being admired as 'success' and anything short of that as being 'failure' then yes, I suppose a great deal of that does depend on how well you get along with others.
But that's a rather self-centered, materialistic, and shallow definition of 'success'.
Doug
2007-09-26 03:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by doug_donaghue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree Rena,If i meet people with high success rates,This type of vibe can rub on to me.I would have a lot more in common with them,A lot more to chat about.And i could also relate to someone going through failures too.If they were similar to mine.Like things with a common back ground.
2007-09-26 12:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Rena:
Getting along with people is part of our life. Man by nature could not stand alone. We need to interract with others for it is one of the human needs in life. Success and failures in life are coincidental to the life we live through. Life on us has been made imperfect. We have to deal with life with challenges. I think it is the noble way for us to learn the upside and downside of life. Otherwise life will not be worthy and boring without all the strugggles we have to undergo. These are all part and parcel of our life.
Thanks to your question. Have a great day!
Third P
2007-09-26 03:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by Third P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Our success and failure are measured with the ways we deal with people around us. They contribute tons of significance in the tasks we take up everyday to make life as wonderful...or as miserable.
No matter how intellectually capable we are, if we make more enemies than friends, then we're more likely to drop from the ladder of success.
When people see goodness and kind heart in us, they back our plans up;..Lend their hands;..Offer their support. Then we can do our climb more securely...in God's presence as well.
2007-09-26 15:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I am completely sure about the link between success or otherwise failure with our social interactivity and how we use or treat others in order to succeed...
We as humans will necessarily interact with other humans in order to get what we want and give what we have.. including material goods, services, or even love...
We must know how to treat others in order to receive something from them or how to use psychology to our benefit and do as advertisers do, and convince people to do what we want or give us what we want...
Other way we might interact or get along with others is just by friendship and mentoring which really comes into play in knowing and learning how to live or how to manage a business... We always need advisers, wise people, successful people in business to guide us in the right path... We must know how to treat those people and how to be thankful to them in order to get advised or guided by them...
Only by having good relationships with the wise and knowing how to handle the enemies for our advantage we will succeed... if we don't do such things then we will fail...
"Keep your friends close and your enemies" closer they say.. and this is merely to be successful....
I would add to that >>> "know the people you must know in order to succedd"
Meaning... there are people out there, perhaps across the street, that in a way can help us succedd... or even in businesses you must know the people involved in the indutry in order to really succeed... therefore we must go out there and look for the people we must know and be familiarize with them in order to get what we want.... Every person can be helpful, therefore we should never stop meeting new people...
Hope that helps in any way!
CHRIS
2007-09-26 06:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by CRA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, but it can be complicated, one would think that positive interaction with others would lead to success, and negative to failure, and while that happens alot, the opposite can also occur
meaning that sometimes its necessary to not get along with others, to stand for your principles, and this sometimes causes you to not be "one of the group", often getting along with others means just that, being part or them feeling like you are part, of the group, similar , etc. you may feel like you get along with others well, yet they may not feel they get along with you at all!
the best successes come from balancing that, getting along with others who are different then you, and creating a situation where they feel they get along with you
2007-09-26 03:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it affects how we get along with others, but our successes and failures definitely affect how we present ourselves to others.
2007-09-26 03:36:03 · answer #10 · answered by tiffguam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋