My husband and i decided to switch partners with two of our good friends. We were all drunk on new years and said we'd like to try something new. It was too good to be true. I ended up getting pregnant. I don't know for sure who the dad is. My husband or our friend. My husband asid he would leave me if the baby isn't his. How can he do this to me? Didn't he do the same thing? Can anyone justify his thinking?
2007-09-26 03:15:42 · 12 answers · asked by noname 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You've asked two questions in the last hour -- both about being pregnant. One suggests you were swapping with your husband's knowledge, while the other implies you were simply sleeping around.
And is this the same husband who was out smoking pot 8 months ago while you were lusting after your best friend's Ex?
Are you real? Or are you just working the site?
What is your deal?
2007-09-26 03:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jack07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not possible to justify his thinking. You need to learn from mistakes. Not possible to have that kind of event happen and move forward and never get hurt. Now a child is being born because of it. You need to get priority in your mind that child is #1. Figure out who the father is with a paternity test. If the hubby is a good guy he will raise child with abundant love no matter. You also need to check w state because some states have laws making the husband be on birth certificate even if another man fathered child.
Stay positive and try not to fight with hubby. Remind him that you love him, both of you made stupid mistake and that you want to move on from that with him. His choice to man up or not.
Good luck!
2007-09-26 10:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by #2 in the oven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeze, why the heck would you switch partners, especially drunk? This almost always comes back to haunt the couple, as it aparently did you. And, didn't you use protection while sleeping with another man? Personally, I'm not surprised it turned out like that. I don't blame him for not wanting another man's child. You should have used protection, despite him doing the same thing as you.
2007-09-26 10:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decisions such as swapping should never be done until well thought about, you both decided on this while intoxicated. And you both did not even think of protection when doing so. I am not here to judge, but why would any couple in love want to share that with others? Lets just hope the baby is his and that you both make important decisions in the future while sober. Best of luck to you!
2007-09-26 10:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an idiot and needs to deal with the consequences of his and your own actions.....this is what happens when you do not think things through thoroughly before acting on them. You both made the conscience decision to partake in such activities so you both need to deal with the subsequent consequences that have followed it is not fair for you to have to do it alone.
2007-09-26 10:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh...I see....another 'twist' to the story. Look....having the morals of a dog is no justification for anything. You engage in promiscious, drunken behavior you run the risk of certain consequences, hence your present situation.
No one needs to justify 'his' thinking or 'yours'. Its apparent neither of you WERE thinking when you did such a moronic thing.
2007-09-26 10:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he was o.k. with drunk is not what he is o.k with sober.
That was a really bad idea!!!
I would get paternity testing. Talk with your OB/GYN to see if you can have it done with the baby still in you. Did the other lady get pregant? Why wasn't condoms used?
2007-09-26 10:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by Summer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I wouldnt even beable to imagine my man asking me to do something like this.And why the heck was there no protection being used??? You had to of known this could happen. I guess i dont blame him but i still wouldnt have done it.
2007-09-26 10:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by Gemini 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are being honest about how you got pregnant....your husband is a lousy bastard. It was dumb thing to do...having sex with your "good friends"... but even a dumber thing to not use protection.
2007-09-26 10:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both F---ed up. I think he is regretting it. Now my question to you is why weren't you on birthcontrol or him use a condom?
And how does this other man and woman feel about it?
2007-09-26 10:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋