for just how difficult the first few months are with your first baby? u can read all the books but i found NOTHING really prepared me for ir, it was an absolute killer on all fronts. how did u fair? was it a shock?
2007-09-26 03:00:16 · 16 answers · asked by Serry's mum 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There really isnt anything to prepare you for the first few months of your childs life. The only advice that I can give you is this, sleep when you can, and accept any help that is offered!! And if you are thinking about another child, Please give yourself at least two years in between, any closer and you go crazy, take it from me, I learned the hard way!!
2007-09-26 03:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wass definantly a shock, for me the first few months. Even when I was pregnant, I couldnt believe I was pregnant, than when the baby came I would just stare at my daughter, and think I can't believe that this is my baby. There are some things that book can prepare you for, like as far as what to expect, but actually having to do it, and read about it, is definantly 2 different things when it comes to being a mother or father for the first time. I guess one thing I did read in a book, was to have a good support system, and thats definantly what I had, that made things a little easier for me.
2007-09-26 03:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by Kim C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i didnt feel that way, not at all. I had a great time. I didnt read books or anything. The first three days were horrible, sleepless and hard. I cried every night from exhaustion. But after that I realized that what he needed was for me to be with him 24/7 and to instill in him a routine.
From then on we were fine. It took about 2 weeks before he started adhering to the sleep pattern I had for him, and after 3 weeks we slept all night, and he napped three to four times a day.
Honestly I think it was easy for me because it was all I had ever wanted, and i breastfed and co slept. If i hadnt done those things iam sure it would have been very hard.
It honestly was the best time of my life. I loved it. I cant wait to do it again.
2007-09-26 03:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter will be 5 months on the 3rd so she is pretty close in age with your baby. I had that initial shock when she was about 3 weeks. I woke up one morning and I looked to my left and instead of seeing my boyfriend there was this baby. I remember thinking "Dang her parent's arent going to ever come pick her up!" And that was when the reality set in...this baby is going to be here 24/7 and from that point on my pride for this precious little girl started to grow and everyday it grows a little more. Now that she is almost 5 months, everyday she does something new and the pride turned into something stronger. Its stronger than love and pride. So hang in there everyone keeps telling me that from this point on it gets easier.
P.S Books helped me a lot but I found out that they cant prepare you 100%. And now that I started work my mom has the baby so it gives me that brake that I need :)
2007-09-26 06:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by Gabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was definitely not prepared and felt completely uninformed.
I was talking to my best friend about this the other day, so many women are afraid to look like failures or bad mothers when asked how they are doing so they always give the same generic response "I am wonderful! Having a baby has been the best experience of my life." when reality is "I am tired and physically/emotionally drained." also I hate it when people say "having a baby is easy" because it is definitely NOT easy (although it is soooo rewarding!).
MOMs are HEROS in my opinion!!! We rock- only we can feed, dress, wash, clothe baby while maintaining the house, washing the laundry, cooking dinner, doing dishes and working full time jobs. Let's see a man do that!
2007-09-26 03:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by julie744527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a hard time dealing with the lack of sleep at first, no one prepared me for the pain I would feel when my milk came in (I bottle fed), and the emotional stress of just caring for a baby on my own. I caught on quickly, healed fast, and loved hard! It was an adjustment, but I made it in record time. What worried me the most was the thought of not waking up when the baby cried, but I surprised myself there. So, I don't think any book, class or counseling can prepare you for the beginning, or the middle... end... terrible twos, miserable threes, preschool... any of it. It's all a learning experience, just find good people to guide you!
2007-09-26 03:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by Leigha S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother told me it is the hardest job you ever do in your life 'Bringing up Baby'. She was oh so very right.
I had three. After the first one who unfortunately is the one you use as a learning ground. The others that follow are far easier. I used to worry just about everything with my first. If he was too hot, if his wind was wedged, if he was dry, if the pimple on his nose was something, you get the message.....
It's a wonder first born children don't grow up to be neurotics. With their over anxious mothers trying to be so perfect.
Books are fine, but every baby is different, so books can only be a guideline.
Anyway try to get plenty of rest when you are able and remember they are tough little things these babies.
Joan
2007-09-26 03:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by Sally Anne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..no one could of prepared me. I had a long horrible labor and a even worse stay in postpartum. When I got home I was exhausted. I was having so many troubles with breastfeeding I thought I was going to die. I ended up with mastitis, my baby with thrush, me with a thrush infection on my nipple...it was horrible. I really didn't cope well. I used to fantasies about falling down the stairs and breaking a leg so they would let me stay in the hospital so I wouldn't have to do anything. Around 2 months it all got easier and Im glad I made it through it :)
2007-09-26 03:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by lovelylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing really prepares you. when my daughter was born, 3 years ago, I was completely nervous. We took her home, my husband took a few days off work to be with us. When she was 2 weeks old, he was sent to Florida for hurricane restoration. he was gone for a month. I got a crash course in being a first time mom. let me tell you, I was scared, overwhelmed, stressed -- but I made it through. My advice to you is if someone offers to help, accept it. If you're not in the mood for company, say so. Sleep when you can. Shower when you can & take care of yourself too! The housework can wait. The laundry & dishes can wait. Lounge in your PJ's with your beautiful new baby all day long if you want. Don't pressure yourself to be super-woman.
2007-09-26 03:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by PrincessJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YEP....nothing prepared me and I remember having moments in which I said to myself, AND WHY did I want to have this baby so badly???? I only wish I could have gone back with my first baby and redone some of my more insane moments with the patience and confidence that I had when I had my second baby....I often wonder if he would have turned out a little less moody! LOL
2007-09-26 03:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋