My boyfriend is pretty intelligent, but has very little common sense, or street smarts. I'm kind of tired of looking after him and making sure he's ok. For example, he never pays attention to where he's going and is constantly lost. He knows how to get to where he's going, but just never pays attention to what he's doing. When he goes to the grocery store and uses the automated checkout lanes, he puts cash in but leaves his change. When I asked him about it, he acts like it's no big deal and says that he often times forgets to take his change.
I've asked him to start paying attention to what he's doing but he said that he's been living his life like this for 27 years and that's asking a lot. I wonder if he realizes that everyone he comes in contact with plays some type of role in watching out for him.
What should I do?
2007-09-26 02:58:53 · 10 answers · asked by Not quite perfect 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Not to be unkind, but stop watching out for him. As long as everyone holds out their hands to keep catching stuff, he'll keep dropping it. Next time you find yourself admonishing him, let it go and bite your tongue and let the burned hand teach.
I know you care about him, but he is going to have to experience the consequences of his carelessness a few times in order to figure out how to solve his own problems.
2007-09-26 03:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by Parrot Eyes 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My younger half-sister is the same way.
She is now 42 years old and on her own,we are all surprised she can do anything. My mom took her to the doctors as a young kid to see if she was alright, she doesn't pay attention to things right under her nose and it can make you crazy to see that.
She has been on her own since our mom died and is doing fine,she must have a guardian angel watching out for her.
Our mom babyed her way too much since she was born late in our moms life.
2007-09-26 05:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by Marilyn T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 00:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One problem for people like this is that other people look out for them, cover up for them, and fix their mistakes so they don't really suffer the consequences of their irresponsibility and then learn, change and grow.
I guess you'll have to decide if you want to stay with your bf and be his caretaker for as long as you're together.
It could be he actually has a learning disorder, but it shouldn't be used as an excuse, and my sentence #2 still applies!
I wouldn't be able to tolerate it very long.
2007-09-26 03:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
IF you don't want to mother him than leave him, but its not fair for you to expect him to do everything YOUR way.
It seems like you want to save him, and its not your job,
He doesn't have to see things your way.
He isn't a puppet
Its not your business what others feel their role is,
If you want something long term you have to be more tolerant and accepting of his flaws.
And as for the change, just keep it, why tell him he forgot.
Meg
2007-09-26 03:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think the answer is i the name that you chose for yourself. If you see that you are "Not Quite Perfect", you need to realize and accept that he is Not Quite Perfect, either, and that is OK.
2007-09-26 03:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by The Nag 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He's going to end up getting robbed.
2007-09-26 03:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
next time he does some stupid brain-less act just reach up and smack him upside the head and look at him like "you dumbazz....."
2007-09-26 04:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your in love I can tell by the length of your question details.
2007-09-26 03:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by Screwdriver 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
be patient.....
2007-09-26 03:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋