We have been married less than 2yrs have a baby who is 5months, and my husband seams to not wanting to have sex lately. We were having sex a lot even when I was 9months preg. I lost all the preg weight, i work out so i look great. I dress sexy for him sometimes i sleep naked, he will give me message but won't have sex with me. We only have sex like twice or once a month for about 4mont. Even when he is in the mood he says he can't do it 'cuase he takes zolaft which makes him not be able to get hard. When we have sex is great but i think once or twice a month for 29 yr old man is not normal im 21. What can I do?Help.
2007-09-26 02:43:28 · 13 answers · asked by Leyla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did think that men are the one who always want have sex but not mine. Also, im the one who does everything around the house lan, cleaning, cooking, taking care of the baby mostly,working full time, going to college full time. Wha tis wrong with him????
2007-09-26 02:46:39 · update #1
VERY common side effects of Zoloft (and most andi-depressants) are a decreased sex drive, impotence, or difficulty having an orgasm. It is most likely that this is the main issue. If this is the case, talk to you Doctor and get him to either switch anti-depressants or to prescribe viagara or cilias.
However, there are likely other issues on the table as well. the only way to find those out are with open communication. Talk to him and consider couples therapy.
2007-09-26 02:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kyle R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a myth that men want sex 24/7. Some do, but most do not. The average number of times, according to "National Opinion Research Center (NORC)" is only once a week, so 4 times vs. "twice or once a month" isn't all the different. However, having sex a "twice or once a month" seem to me to be a low sex drive, since this isn't what you used to have.
If you are truly worried and you and him are unsatisfied and there are no other external issues (like stress) ask him to see a doctor. He may have low testosterone which can be treated. He may still be depressed, even with the Zoloft. Also, according to the prescription information on Zoloft one of the reason to "continue taking sertraline (Zoloft) but talk to your doctor" is "decreased sex drive, impotence, or difficulty having an orgasm." If he is having this problem he should consider a medication change.
I have been on Effexor for quite some time. I did not notice any change in my sex drive. He may ask to try that. Welbutrine is another I have tried without this side effect (sexual side effects are not list in the Wellbutrin side effect information website), but I had a problem with it not lasting long enough. However, these medication work differently for every person.
2007-09-26 02:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your husband genuinely feels that the medication he is on is causing erectile dysfunction, then he should go back to his doctor and discuss the matter. Several medications have ED as a side effect, but there is ALWAYS an alternative solution...For both your sakes, and for the sake of your marriage, he should seek medical advice sooner rather than later.
2007-09-26 03:01:45 · answer #3 · answered by cautious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you may ask him about his oppinion on the jubject, then if he does not change, you may look for a secret lover. If his sex drive is really decreased he cannot help the problem, this is not a voluntary denial. It is good for nothing to torture him with your continuous expostulation. So the solution of the problem that what I wrote. A 21 yo woman needs at least about 3 satisfaction per week.
2007-09-26 04:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are putting the blame for him not wanting sex more often as his choice to do so, when he already told you it is his medication that is inhibiting him from being able to perform as often as you would want him to. Go with him on his next doctors appointment and talk about your concerns with the doctor. Medications such as the one you mentioned do have a way of decreasing a man's sexual performance. Look at this a a problem as a couple and stop blaming him when he has no fault with this. Best of luck to you!
2007-09-26 02:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is normal for you to have a big sex drive... even tho your at the end of your pregnancy it is not going to hurt the baby if you do have sex. It make it easy on you when you go go into labor it help in some odd way it dose help.. I cant explain it but it dose I hope i helped you
2016-04-06 01:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
zoloft is an anti-depression drug used to treat manic depressions among other behavioral disorders. has a doctor prescribed this medication? if a prescribed drug, is he taking the right dosage?
one of the drug's side effects is decreased sex drive as it will try to somehow relax the body. for more info on the drug, i suggest u copy the link i have provided below and paste it to your internet browser. the page will explain more on the drug, how it is used.. and its side effects.
if this drug is not prescribed by a doctor, i would suggest stopping it and visit a physician.
do talk to your husband about this drug and maybe read the site with him.. and then go to the physician together for, probably, better medication.
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http://www.drugs.com/zoloft.html
2007-09-26 03:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by NapakaHilig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 14:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the zoloft makes him depressed and makes him not in the mood, just ask him, if there is an underlying issue, he should tell you.
2007-09-26 02:51:29 · answer #9 · answered by ilovelilPhof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe go to counseling if not the both of you then even just you, that way you can get some constructive tools on how to deal with this from a professional.
2007-09-26 02:58:32 · answer #10 · answered by Michael H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋