2007-09-26 02:15:08 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I don't. I think it will result in eventual problems and jealousies.
2007-09-26 02:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Not a wise choice. I think in fantasy land it sounds exciting and you think you could handle the decision. But in reality your significant other is touching and being touched by another person in the most intimate way. Jealousy would come into play and then possibly an issue with trust and insecurity. What if the person was in better shape than you? More exciting? Would they ever get together without you because you were so open to begin with? I think the most people would end up with problems because of the decision. Keep it a fantasy and its much safer and better for your relationship.
2007-09-26 03:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think it's ever a wise choice to bring a third party into an intimate relationship. However, it's up to te couple concerned to make their own choice, and accept whatever consequences there are as a result of that coice. I do think couples who consider a threesome need to consider every possible outcome ...i.e., it may be a once-off experimentation with no negative fall-out for any of the three people concerned; it may lead to jealousy from any of the three people concerned; it may result in one partner of the couple deciding to break away from the relationship to be with the third party; the third party may become emotionally attached to the couple or one of them;.....there are endless possibilities in terms of consequences. Only when all have been considered and will be accepted is it wise to make ANY choice in the matter.
2007-09-26 02:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by cautious 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if they agree, then yes. If they want to do it, wisdom is irrelevant. However, you will find one of the partners will be nagged or pressured into it. Also, they must have the proper mindset. A "threesome" is not a relationship. It is a sexual encounter. Generally, whenever you add too many voices into a relationship, they enter into competition with eachother, rather than harmony.
If the couple, and their "third", can accept that it is what it is, then there's nothing wrong with having a threesome.
2007-09-26 02:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by cjc1127 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, get beyond the common "it wouldn't work for me so it won't work for you" attitude prevalent here.
It depends on the couple. If they are secure in themselves, secure in each other and in their relationship, and they both have the same 'sex with more than two people' fantasy than it can be a wonderful experience for them that (contrary to popular belief) can even bring them closer together.
If they are missing any of the above, or it is fulfilling one person's fantasy but not the others, than it is not a wise choice for it will cause resentment and problems down the road.
2007-09-26 07:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can think about, dream about it and talk about it all you want, BUT, I recommend you don't try it. I've never done it but I have given it serious thought. If it was another guy, I would get jealous. If it was another women, I would love it, but feel guilty as hell just guessing what was going through her mind.
Either way, the next day, things will be different, be sure of that. It will be on both your minds and you will never stop wondering.
Keep your marriage strong and stay together during sex. Inviting a third party might be fun for a few hours, but it will have consiquences beyond your imagination.
2007-09-26 03:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for something like this to happen, first off you need to make sure you have a VERY STRONG MARRIAGE (if your married) or relationship.
I don't care what anyone says, I have heard from other people their experiences about threesomes, etc.. Jealously will creep into this!!
I personally don't approve of threesomes, swinging..etc. I feel you chose your partner to love honor and cherish .. which means a lifelong commitment. Doesn't mean to me, if your bored with him/her, add another person to the menu.
Their are too many STDS out there to consider, HIV/AIDS.. is a "fling" worth a death sentence??
But this is only my opinion.
2007-09-26 02:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by linda_c_44 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've answered so many of these questions! Why don't people know about the lifestyle?
There is an alternative lifestyle that others live--gays, lesbians, people who have fetishes such as bondage and people who are swingers, which is the category a threesome would fall under. See my references below.
2007-09-26 03:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It totally depends on the individual. If all 3 are happy with the threesome then there would be no problem!
2007-09-26 02:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by Scorps 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could go bad or good. it could feel good while the act of the threesome is taking place. but afterwards when part of the threesome decide to go without the full party.
still don't see how infidelity is accepted. but when you agree to it, its ok.
2007-09-26 02:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by ||Methadon|| 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubts it's not a wise choice. A 3 some involves some pretty challenging emotions and unless you're very sure of your own feelings about it, don't do it.
2007-09-26 02:19:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋