This morning we got into a argument about his brother being in jail and me talking with his parents about it trying to keep them calm, he started screaming and tapped me 3 times on the cheek and spit right in my face and walked away laughing. I could not believe he spit in my face much less touched my face.
2007-09-26 02:12:31 · 17 answers · asked by Secret 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave him for awhile and laugh in his face.
2007-09-26 02:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The very strength of a marriage relationship is self respect of each and the mind to respect each other. Here the exact picture is not given. It is hard to believe that when you were trying to pacify your Mil and Fil he became crazy. Definitely there should have some defamatory remarks from your side. Deliberately you hide it. Anyways, from my experience I am saying this. When both the hands are clapping only will produce sound. If he was frenzied why you attempted for an argument. You could have wait till he becomes normal and you could have convince him your ideas in a more soft way. Instead you also started yelling at him and he tapped you.
But whoever it may be if spitting on someone, shows a very low profiled culture. It should not have happened. This you have to say to him in a strong way. Argument and sometimes fighting is common in marriage life because a marriage is a union between two personalities than 2 persons. Since everyone's personalities are unique, there can be difference of opinions, lack of consensus ad idem. Ofcourse due to the freedom of love, affection and care, may be a little physical abuse will also take place. But spitting on ones face is a heinous action. A highly disrespectful action. By doing that he is putting him down himself to the sand. When you are sitting in a normal environment you have to tell him, don't do it again. Nothing is going to loose even if you request him not to do it again. If he is man of self esteem, he will say a sorry and never will repeat that.
See there must have power of tolerance and power to accommodate in order to maintain a healthy relationship. So you have to be more adaptive and instead of criticizer become a problem solver. Then you will get cooperation, love and recognition from the whole family. There you have to sacrifice only your ego and a little of selfishness.
2007-09-26 09:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by Surettan S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may have been very angry about the argument but as u say that is no excuse. spitting is a sign of deep disgust and usually only children spit. i would wait till he gets back an let him know that i felt disrespected and dehumanized and that i expect an apology. the natural reaction he would have is to say u provoked him but dont allow him to drag u back to the morning's argument. let him see that u are serious about getting it right, so don't scream or yell or bring his brother into the conversation.
PS. between a man and his family it is safer to see no evil hear no evil. let the family sort itself out. u may be his wife but there's just something about men and their family....
2007-09-26 09:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by kiki68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can leave him Your husband sounds about like my ex and some of the things that he would do to me. My ex would not have spit on me but most likely have threatened to hit me or made a threat to kill me. Some men can be such big babies. Your husband sounds like he has an attitude problem and very hard to live with. I went through that also. I just got fed up with all of it and we finally got divorced. My ex never showed any kind of respect for me or my children but he could not believe that we had no respect for him.
2007-09-26 09:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disrespecting you was very wrong of him. You need to speak to him immediately. Let him know that you will not tolerate this type behavior from your partner. Give him a chance to make things right. If this is the first time, then perhaps he made a mistake. If he does this to you again or disrespects you in anyway, then leave immediately because he isn't worth your trouble. Good luck!
2007-09-26 09:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey. You need to talk to him about this and fast.
You do not treat anyone that way, much less, your own wife.
Has this been a problem in the past? I imagine his temper and out of control problem did not just start.
This is a huge red flag. If he walked away laughing, it says a lot about this psychotic behavior. It could lead to things a lot worse.
2007-09-26 09:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would pack up my things and the kids if you have any and at stay somewhere else (friend or family) at least for a few days. He cannot think that it is o-kay for him to treat you with such abuse and disrespct...and yes...this is abuse. Being in an abusive marriage I can tell you that if he is led to believe this is o-kay that this will continue and only get worse. No matter the severity, it is abuse.
2007-09-26 09:39:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Disrespect isn't the word for what he's done!! That's sh** you do to a stranger not to your wife and honestly once he hits you it isn't gonna stop!! Next time it's gonna be a FIST to your eye!! You need to tell him what he done was wrong an the next time if it happens you will catch his sorry *** asleep and you will take an iron skillette to his head!! If you don't stop it now it won't stop!!!GOOD-LUCK
2007-09-26 12:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by ajjsdj4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce IMMEDIATELY! Personally I would have spent all morning kicking his assss. This man has no respect for youand you need to go.
2007-09-26 09:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he spit on you, he doesn't respect or love you. Love yourself by leaving and working on you.
2007-09-26 09:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by Tori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to leave.. This is how it starts. Don't waste time with guys who try to dominate you like this. It will only get worse.
2007-09-26 09:21:20 · answer #11 · answered by Big Red 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋