Hey everyone, my husband and I just got married about a month ago and have been together for well over a year, we are very happy together..best friends...inseparable...the whole deal but his need for sex is very low. I know I can't judge men by this, but Ive always thought men wanted sex 24/7 and were major perverts all the time but he's not. He is satisfied having sex just a couple times a month! And no he is not cheating and I havent "let myself go" but what is up with that? Can some men just be that way?
2007-09-26 01:29:36 · 31 answers · asked by must<3dogs 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I try to hint around to him cause I feel stupid asking for sex so Ill joke and say stuff like "I forgot what sex is like" or "its been years since Ive seen that!" and he laughs but says and does nothing. Or Ill leave the door open when I take a bath and he'll walk by, smile, and say your so cute. Uhhh..
2007-09-26 01:52:14 · update #1
yes, nag him about it.
Seriously, show a little skin, but don't say anything. while watching TV together fondle his crotch. Maybe try to find out his kink if he has any. Watch some porn. or read some porn together. There are lots of hot stories on the internet.
if that doesn't help maybe see a counselor or just tie him up and rape him.
LD
2007-09-26 01:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
It is a myth that men want sex 24/7. Some do, but most do not. The average number of times, accoding to "National Opinion Research Center (NORC)" is only once a week, so 4 times vs. a "couple times a month" isn't all the different. However, having sex a "couple times a month" seem to me to be a low sex drive being a guy and all, but it is not "abnormal", no matter what anyone else in the answer says.
If you and him are happy with this amount, what dose it matter if it’s everyday vs. once a month. If you are truly worried, or you are unsatisfied, and you cannot find something external (like stress) to explain why his drive is what it is, ask him to see a doctor. He may have low testosterone or be depressed, both of which can be treated.
2007-09-26 01:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some guys are like that. Sex is just not that important to them. If he's been rejected enough, he may have just lost the urge to keep asking. If your sex is basic, with no spice, it may have become boring and humdrum. If you are dropping hints and doing things to entice him, and he overlooks them, there may be another reason.
I think about it 24/7, like most men. If i walked by and my wife was in the tub, I be offering to do the washing and toweling off and 50 other things afterwards. All she has to do is suggest, and I'm panting like Pavlov's dog.
Sex is the fun part. All of the work to set it up, scheduling it and actually making it happen is the hard part.
I do have suggestions, but some people on here would go "Report It" button happy...which I care not to deal with.
Good luck :)
2007-09-26 03:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems way low to me, but everybody is different. Might depend on health, stress, fatigue. Is everything else in the relationship OK? Was he ready to get married? Maybe some activities alone ("inseparable" isn't always a good thing) might make him more eager when he's with you.
The main question is: Is it enough for you? If it isn't, you should feel comfortable talking about it with him, and figure out how to keep both of you satisfied.
(By the way, after 20 years, my wife wishes I would be more like your husband!)
2007-09-26 01:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jack07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 52 and 3 or 4 times a week would not hurt my feelings at all! All I need to do is talk my wife of 27 yrs in to it she is like your husband once or twice a month is good, that's why she was glad when I started driving a truck for living I'm not home bugging her all the time.
2007-09-26 01:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Al 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he working long hours? Is his energy level low? He may be putting too much effort into other parts of his life and not paying enough attention to this part. 2 times a month is really not 'normal' and most men do wish to have sex more often. Also, did he show signs of this before you married? Have him talk to a doctor, get everything checked out first. If all is okay in that department, then you need to sit down and discuss this with him. You don't want this to be the 'wedge' in your marriage that breaks it apart.
2007-09-26 01:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Some men are like that. Could be a medical reason too. Ask him if there is something you can do. I gotta tell ya I was buying uniform pants for work yesterday and there was this nurses uniform next to the register and I started to picture the gal behind the counter in it. Wheww...
Try some different to spice things up and attract his attention.
2007-09-26 01:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by Big Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he like that before you guys got married? I ask because my boyfriend is like that and it scares me because we have discussed getting married next year and I have always had a big sex drive and since we have been together (it'll be a year in Oct.) I have learned to go without it but there are days that I really need it and have had to satify myself. Sometimes I feel like a man. Now I know what men feel like when their wives say "I'm not in the mood, tired or PMS".
2007-09-26 01:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by hispluv 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
gawd gimme strength , I am so tired of hearing their not cheating , I havent let myself go , so many men jump on that band wagon dont they , its always the woman's fault , gain weight and wham your man couldnt possibly want you physically anymore , time for men all around the world to grow up.
Now I'll climb off my soap box , NO he isnt cheating he just has an average sex drive , not all men want it 24/7 I believed that too until I married my 2nd husband he would give it to me once a week if I bugged for it and when I tired of buggen it was once every 2 weeks .Does your husband like cuddling into you in bed and falling asleep cuddled into you? If he does then you have something these other men couldnt possibly give their wives and that emotional attachment beyond sexual needs I know it doesnt make up for his low sex drive but its better then nothing , trust me.
2007-09-26 01:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it is entirely possible that he has a low sex drive, not every man has a high drive....of course it could also be stress or worry or something else. Have you talked to him about this? Say to him that you seem to have a higher sex drive than he does and ask him if there is something wrong....don't bring any babies into the picture till you figure this out and figure if you can live with this.....
2007-09-26 01:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex will drop after marriage and after you two get comfortable, but what you need to do is cook up some really naughty ideas. Then he wont be able to say no!
Sometimes you have the set the mood and experiment with different things to get your husband excited about sex again
2007-09-26 02:04:57 · answer #11 · answered by fYi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋