I have a fear of sex,
Fear of intimacy too.
How do I get over these?
any sex or/and any intimacy
Thumbs up for any answer!
= 1 point!
thx
2007-09-26 01:28:30 · 8 answers · asked by vim4you2 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Some people experience intense anxiety — even panic — at the thought of any sexual interaction. Others feel fear, terror, or disgust about a specific kind of activity, such as sexual intercourse or contact with genitals. While some of these people enjoy hugging, kissing, and similar touching, others find that their feelings of revulsion or anxiety extend to all physically intimate contact.
For men and women who were sexually abused, raped or otherwise traumatized, fear or disgust may be an understandable reaction to being violated and hurt. At the same time, they may now want to create a healthy relationship, including sex with someone they care for. Their continued sense of anxiety, along with their desire to be close to their partner, can be confusing and frustrating for both.
Others who are fearful or averse to sex have no history of trauma, but may have learned negative sexual attitudes, heard scary stories, or have frightening images relating to sex. These fears may intrude and prevent them from enjoying a healthy sexual relationship.
Diagnosis and Treatment of Sexual Aversion, Sexual Phobia and Fear
The diagnosis of sexual aversion is made by a health care professional when someone describes avoiding genital sexual contact with his or her partner because of disgust, queasiness, fear or shame. Some people with severe aversion may experience panic attacks with faintness, breathing difficulties or dizziness and feelings of terror.
The sex therapist works with each person who is averse to sex in an individualized manner, beginning with a discussion of his or her personal and sexual history. Treatment includes setting goals and doing at-home exercises individually and, when appropriate, with their partner. Clients move at their own pace, staying in control, and taking as much time as needed to become comfortable and reach their own goals.
2007-09-26 01:33:06 · answer #1 · answered by cLaReBeLle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't honestly think anyone is perfect when they have sex for the first time. Its something that you and your significant other can both learn and experience together. I think that for your first time it should be with the person your married to. Its a relationship between two that is immaculate and spectacular. Don't worry about what people might say about you if you don't have sex with your girlfriend. They are most likely jealous and want details. Don't ever allow another person to make you feel as if you need to do something that you are not ready for. You saw the movie the 40 year old virgin and yeah it was funny but it happens. Take your time and be patient. Life is not about sex! Its about being able to live in a great world surrounded by spectacular privileges. Adam and Eve are perfect examples of right and wrong, if they hadn't ate the fore bidden fruit and was cast out of the garden then we wouldn't be here, that was gods plan for them and he has one for you too. You must trust that giving yourself because of peerpreasure is the lamest excuse ever. I'm sure everyone is scared of intimacy and of allowing another person to be part of that personnel space. Give it time and lots of faith and you will see that your ready when your supposed to be. Hope this helps.
2007-09-26 11:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by amanda b 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not an easy thing to do, but you just have to get yourself to understand that there is really nothing to fear.
Make of list of what your utmost fears about sex and intimacy are and counter those fears with reasons why the fear is unjustified.
Good luck.
2007-09-26 01:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by Rick R , Super Duper Samurai 侍 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your fear of sex, its all about being ready to take that step and really give up your virginity, wil lthe person stay or go? Wil the person think im bad? Will i regret it? So many little things running through your mind. Dont worry about being afraid, you are just not not ready, thats all it is. When the time is right, you will know and it will happen naturually
2016-05-18 23:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to find someone you're comfortable with and may have feelings for, then just ease into things, not moving too fast so you can ease out of your fear.
2007-09-26 05:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by Trish 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try em out. that is the biggest way to get over your fear. Confront it.
2007-09-26 01:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by Endex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont afraid of sex....
choose a boyfriend which you are sure about heath...it's very dangerious....cough,,,,cough ,,,
yeah beware,,,,about sex
by the way i can help you more....youknow...
ahmad_lovesyou@yahoo.com
2007-09-26 02:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by A.B.Ehtesham 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there must be some other specific aspect that you actually have issues with.
2007-09-26 01:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋