I dont want to have sex with my girl anymore, I want someone new. Would it be smart to have someone on the side??? I need a girl that is a little less adventorous. My girl that I have now is literally up for anything, but sometimes her fantasies are too much to handle. I want a simple college-aged girl.
2007-09-26 00:53:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't waste the money on getting married. Don't hurt your girl anymore than you've already did. In fact, don't get married for now. Obviously, you haven't meet the woman of your dream.
2007-09-26 01:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by narnia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to end the engagement. Now. Clearly if you're even having these feelings you're not ready for marriage. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, a personal decision made when a person only wants to be with one specific person. And sex really is an important physical aspect of any marriage, but only if it's with your wife, not some woman on the side! It's good that you're having these feelings now while you still have time to back out of the wedding. Trust me, you're not ready for marriage, and that's okay. You probably thought she was the one; feelings change, but you have to tell your fiancee how you feel. She'll be hurt but it'll hurt her a million times more if you go through with the wedding and 3 years from now she discovers you're having an affair. Best of luck, and do the right thing!
2007-09-26 08:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the way you feel, don't marry this woman. Seriously. Don't put yourself through it. Marriage is a whole different ball game and even under the best conditions, it's hard. You will be starting out below the 8-ball, and that's not good. Your girl may be disappointed if you bail out, but that's better than going into an unhappy marriage. Be wise and don't do this to yourself.
2007-09-26 08:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't get married, simple as that, better to cause her pain on a short term scale than on a long term scale by marrying the wrong person and getting divorced however many years down the line.
2007-09-26 10:00:06 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be getting married if you feel the way you do. If the only thing wrong with your relationship is that you think she is too adventurous in bed then tell her that and work through it....but maybe you are just looking for an excuse to break up with her. She doesn't deserve to be treated this way.
2007-09-26 08:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by *Almost ready* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then break it off now, before you get married.
Remember that girls don't stay college aged forever.
Having something on the side is never smart.
Don't get married, you're not grown up enough.
2007-09-26 07:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by nicolemcg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would start by postponing any wedding plans. Tell her this, maybe she things all guys are into wild crazy relentless sex all the time. If you talk to her about chillin' out a little bit, she may be as relieved as you are. Good luck dear. :)
2007-09-26 09:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by BNic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting married if you feel that way?
And why are you saying college-aged? Are you one of those older perverts who only get off to young girls?
2007-09-26 12:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you say that now...then-
In 10 years you will be complaining that your woman is boring and not very adventurous, and that you are looking for something else... you need spice in your life...
...........yada yada yada......
You don't know what you want, so do your fiance a favor and break off the wedding.
2007-09-26 08:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by Rev. Deb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do please dont have anything on the side, it could destroy her. been there, and it came close to killing me. be honest with her, if she is someone you want to spend your life with then you should be able to talk to her about it. it sounds like your not ready, so i would say at least put a hold on the wedding.
2007-09-26 08:29:46 · answer #10 · answered by kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋