I'm not going to the hospital, it's so early on that if I do end up having one they wouldn't do anything. Anyway I had my first miscarriage two months ago, went to the hospital. At first I just thought it was implantation bleeding, it happened right around when I was supposed to get my period. I had taken a pregnancy test three weeks earlier (it worked!!) and so I had known about the pregnancy for a few weeks and it was devastating. So anyway hubby and I started trying again and I knew I was pregnant just like last time. Only this time I didn't take a test because we thought if I knew for sure it would be so sad if we had another mc. So here I am, the brown blood is back, and my husband doesn't believe that I am pregnant. He said just think of it as a period. I don't know how men work but this feels so awful to me. I'm sitting here in tears and my husband is at work. The bleeding is so slight but the cramps are getting worse. I know in my heart I'm having a miscarriage. Last time I
2007-09-26 00:38:46 · 12 answers · asked by hmm 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
didn't know I was having a miscarriage I just thought the bleeding might be normal. It lasted for about a week and a half and then all the sudden everything happened at once. So now I'm in fear.
2007-09-26 00:39:35 · update #1
Didn't I say already I wasn't going to the hospital? Screw you guys. You're no help. Most women don't even know they're pregnant before their missed period and wind up misscarrying thinking it's a period and life goes on. Jesus. Do you ladies like to visit the doctor, need a little extra attention or something? Christ. Nevermind on this question.
2007-09-26 01:07:14 · update #2
p.s~ we waited three months to start trying to conceive after my last miscarriage.
2007-09-26 03:35:07 · update #3
brown blood is old blood and doesn't necessarily mean a miscarriage...my wife had 2 miscarriages this year and is pregnant again..over a week ago she had some very dark red spotting - we feared the worse but went to the hosp the next day...and heard the heartbeat...the spotting stopped that evening...so it's doesn't mean that it's going to happen...as for your husband not believing your pregnant...that might be his way of dealing with it...he doesn't want to hope that you are to be upset if another miscarriage happens...talk to him+take a test+good luck!
2007-09-26 00:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by Frank 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through, I have been in a similar boat to you... it's not easy to deal with, and my husband dealt with things differently to me also and it makes you feel like he doesn't care, but i'm sure thats not the case, men just deal with things differently to women is all. I miscarried 5 years ago, and have only just lost twins, the first one I lost at 5 weeks and the 2nd one I lost at 8 weeks... I can say I know how you are feeling right now and it's a dark horrible place to be in, but there is definantly light at the end of the tunnel, it may take a while but the days seem to get easier. I have 2 healthy daughters which I think made it much easier for me to deal with this time... it has still been a long hard road to go down, and somedays I feel like I am alone in my grief. I would suggest going along to see a doctor just to make sure that no baby products have been left behind as it can cause quite a nasty infection... good luck, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
2007-09-26 01:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mel J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie I am so sorry to hear that, trust me I knwo how it feels, my husband and I tried for over a year to get preg and I would know that I was preg and then about 2 weeks later I new that I was having a miscarriage.
You are going to have to let your body heal for a bit before you try again or you are going to have the same problem over and over again, your body is still scard from the other one and can't carry yet.
I knwo it is hard to wait when you are wanting it so bad but after waiting for about 4-5 mths I ended up preg, I had alot of bleeding and cramping and thought it was my endometriosus and went into the hospital and found out that I was preg, and man was I shocked.
You will make it through this and I no you hurt right now and my heart goes out to you.
Just give your body time to heal and then try again and maybe you will have better luck.
Good luck
Christy
2007-09-26 03:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by christyisme2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 09:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go to the doctor never assume anything. and take a test. your husband could be right.
no two miscarriages are a ike and they all need to be seen by a doctor
please for the sake of your own life and possibly your childs. if caught early enough in rare cases miscarriages can be stopped
please call someone and go to the hospital now
you came on here and asked us when we thought we answered you the right way and you get nasty. grow up seriously before you have kids. by the way i have had two miscarriages both completed on my own but i still saw the doctor you never know when something can go wrong. you could bleed to death.
dont have kids you arent ready. being pregnant means lots of doctors visits and so does having a baby they get sick and have to have monthly check ups until age two. you need to grow up and mature a lot dont lash out at the people who have tried to help you. that shows a lack of maturity on your part
2007-09-26 00:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only real way to know is to go to the hospital so they can take blood etc. you really need to do this if you think you have misscarried as there could be a problem for the future.
2007-09-26 00:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right they will not do anything..... However I would call your Dr. And let him check you. Some women have to have d&c after they misscarry. You dont want to get an infection.
Try to rest as much as posible and hope for the best. So sorry your dealing with this.
2007-09-26 00:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by tammer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to go to an OB/GYN specialist to check out that you are actually carrying real live babies and not just empty wee sacs. I dont remember the name for this syndrome, but it can happen whereby the egg gets 'fertilised' and the whole thing starts to happen, but it comes to grief fairly quickly because its not actually a REAL pregnancy and the hcg levels cease to rise and the lining of the uterus starts to shed.
Shivers, I cant for the life of me remember what that particular syndrome is called.
Anyway, get your hubbys fertility checked out - sperm count etc, and get a check up on your own reproductive side of things.
2007-09-26 00:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am here for you. Please go to the hospital. If you are miscarrying you need medical help to make sure you get through it okay. Then consult with a
doctor to find out why you can not carry a baby
to term. Please don't go through this alone. Get to a hospital asap. My heart is out to you along with a hug.
2007-09-26 00:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by Precious Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not confirmed your pregnacy then your husband could be right in saying that you may not even be pregnant, this could just be a period, however if your convinced that your pregnant you should be going to the doctor.
2007-09-26 00:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋