& that your "friends" are so because they either feel sorry for you, or know that your a good person even though they can't stand you much?
When I talk to people, they always seem to be the ones to get up & walk away after a few minutes.
I know I have psychological issues about it cos as a child, if I met a new friend, my mother always told me not to worry if they didn't end up liking me, or that they were probably just using me for some reason. I know she did that cos she felt she was protecting me but it has left a lasting impression where I find it difficult to believe that anyone really likes me.
The problem is, although I know that, it still always looks like people want to get away from me, end a conversation early, or look like they are just humouring me because they think it's rude to just leave prematurely.
Everyone has a "friend" who is irratating who you want to avoid...could I be one of those people?
2007-09-24 22:53:28 · 24 answers · asked by Meeeee! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Andre, I'm not ugly thankyou very much.
I do modelling part time so I can't be that much of a minger!
2007-09-24 22:57:42 · update #1
the Boss - I don't usually care what other people think of me - it just gets to you after a long time of having people walk away & sitting on your own.
2007-09-24 22:58:53 · update #2
Maybe you need to please yourself and not depend so much on what people think of you. And from just this, maybe the proper space will be created for you to have good friends.
2007-09-24 22:57:33 · answer #1 · answered by the Boss 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why Do You Care About What Other People Think. Forget Them. Get On With Your Life. Friends...Well I Used To Have Lots Untill I Saw What Friends Do And How They Backbite About You. Dont Learn The Hard Way. My True Friends I Can Count On But 1 Hand. Your Mum Was Right. "Friends" Only Want To Gain. Your Better Of Without Them. Life Is So Much Better Without Friends. Beleive Me. You Will Find Out So Much About Yourself And What You Need To Do To Improve Youself. Go That Way
2007-09-24 23:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by The Sexiest Meditator 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YEAH. i also feel that kind of feeling some times. like your mother, my mother also keeps on telling me that there is no such thing as the word "TRUE FRIEND". my advice? Don't worry its just normal, may be they are just busy, or may be its coincidence that they are doing something during that time or is not in the mood.
*not everyone in this world can truly accept you for who you are, i truly believe, someday, you will be able to meet that ideal friend of yours who will be able to accept you and love you beyond your imperfections. Im sure your not irritating at all, may be the people around you are the ones who has a mistake, because they are not able to see the positive side in you.
just always be confident,and dont let those people make you feel inferior without your consent,and if your looking for some body to be your friend, im just here, always available to talk to you any time.
2007-09-24 23:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by im-a-cute-lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw sweetheart thats a horrible way to feel and all of you jerks out there who are insulting her why dont you go get a life, instead of searching the web for someone to make fun of!!! Your all absolute tit-w*a*n*k*s! and i dont care if i get reported for saying it cause its tru! you lot should go and get a life!!!!
Sweetheart i'm sure what your saying isnt true, you seem really sweet, though very insecure and i'm sure you have no need to be. the funny thing is that your assuming that people are really that nice that they would humour you if they didnt like you, and as yahoo answers clearly showed, not very many people are that nice so chances are they arent just being polite, i dont think they would have been your friends for that long. i think most people feel that way sometimes, we girls can have funny emotional and self-esteem issues sometimes, but dont worry lovey, i'm sure its just a wee bit of paranoia, which yes everyone gets now and again.
AND AS FOR ALL YOU JERKS out there, step away from the computer and stop bullying these people who are asking genuine questions, go back to your porno pages you sad W*A*N*K*S!!!!
2007-09-24 23:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by dom c 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. You could try asking your friends their hones opinion. But better than that is something I was told to try and it helped. If people seem to get up after talking to you for 10 minutes, turn it around on them and make a rule to leave 5 minutes into the conversation. It made me feel so much better and more in control. Good luck!
2007-09-24 22:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by starmoishe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah sometimes I feel like people are only friends with me because they want to use me for whatever reason. This has happened a few times unfortunately, and now I find it hard to believe people want to be friends with me just because. I also have low self confidence and this can sometimes affect making friends because I often think that people deserve better than me. Stupid I know.
2007-09-25 01:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by jembogawa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't enjoy talking to anyone that complains constantly, or is too self absorbed. I always take my time before I trust anyone to be my friend. I have plenty of acquaintances, but very few friends. I have found in life that most people are "fair weather" friends, and not to count on anyone other than yourself when you really need a friend, or you will soon be disappointed.
2007-09-24 22:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I often feel this way myself. I think much of the problem stems from childhood, like not being picked in games, stuff like that.
I am sure that your mother meant well with what she said, but perhaps she could have worded it better, it seems to have given you a complex.
You probably have more friends than you think, so don't worry.
2007-09-24 23:12:29 · answer #8 · answered by cadenza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont be too consumed about no one or nobody's liking you, etc, etc.. Just continue to do nice things to others. Be good. Always continue to help other who are in need. Just continue loving them even if they dont do the same to you.
Attend church activities and you'll end up befriending lots of people of different walks of life. There, they will love you and they will care for you. You'll be blessed.
2007-09-24 23:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by Wobie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because everyone is there own person. my parents allways told me to not listen to what other people think of me that i must be who i am. i have been through allot through life i have lived in three different countries and i had trouble making new friends. you know why because people were afraid just to get to know me. they al ways called me names because i was different. my dad told me this which is very true "they laugh at you because you are different but you laugh at them because they are all just the same". from that day i have been happy and even if i have nobody who likes me i am still happy because i have got something to live for.
2007-09-24 23:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by soldiers99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, even people on here don't like me. Especially, Littleweed, the Happy Murcia, Bob S, Kamran, Lou Lou, Willow. Probably because I keep reporting them for violations. Tee hee!
2007-09-24 22:56:46 · answer #11 · answered by Stella's Helper 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋