What age would you want your teenager to start having sex ( if atall ) ?

Question

Say they was about 14 h0w would you react ?

Answer 1

im 15 and have 3 kids and have had 3 miscarriages. i take online classes when they r sleeping and have them during the day. My boyfriend is 16 and we have our own appartment and get along fine. He works after school (he gets out at 11) and gets money for us if you ever wanna talk [e-mail]

Answer 2

In the USA, in order to keep within the consent laws of every state, a person should not have sex before the age of 18. However, this is an ideal, and hardly a reality. I place a great deal of importance on proper sexual education, both physical and moral. I also believe in providing proper education to children about adult responsibilities, as in obeying the laws of the land, how to work, how to pursue a good education and career, the importance of honoring commitments, finding a good boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife, how to be married, how to care for children, etc. I would hope my child would take these lessons to heart and apply them to their decisions about love, commitment, and sex. I would hope my child would wait until he or she were in a loving, responsible, and committed relationship before having sex, and I would certainly hope my child were at least sixteen years of age. Again, all of this is probably my personal ideals, but nonetheless these ideals are my hopes for any children I may have in the future. At least I will know I will have provided my children with the education necessary to make good decisions. Whether they do or don't will be up to them.

Answer 3

I don't believe it's really a matter of age, but maturity. I have a 15 YO daughter and 13 YO son. I know that neither one of them is ready to have a sexual relationship. I don't know a single 14 year old kid that is mature enough to decide they are ready for sex.

I don't "want" my children to have sex until they are in a serious, committed, healthy, loving relationship. If I knew or found out that one of them was having sex, I would be heart broken. I don't want my kids hurt and that's usually what happens when teenagers have sex. They get hurt, emotionally. But I would make sure they were protected and healthy, physically. Condoms!

Answer 4

To be honest this is a hard subject to answer. Parents are unable to control the age at which age children start having sex unless they are permently confined and not subject to any form of media containing sex, which i find will only will corruct the childs development & later will only make the child unaware of the obsticles in life. Most children have there inner secrets & are having sex behind your back without you unaware. My belief is that I hope my children have there heads screwed on and don`t make the mistake of getting pregnant at a early age.

Answer 5

I do not condone to teenagers having pre-marital sex but if at all, I will say 21. Not a teenager then but thats me. If she is having sex at 14 and I found out about it, someone better call 911 coz there will be a chance there may be a case of homicide in my house.. lol.. funny but i really am thinking of it if it does happen in the future.

Answer 6

We can't really watch our daughters 24/7 but we can teach them morals and contraceptions. We are living in a 3rd world country and like in some other countries, teenage sex here is rampant also. I thinks it falls under the responsibility of the parents to teach their children how to avoid unwanted pregnancy. Talk to your daughter and explain to her the pros and cons of sex including unwanted pregnancy. Don't be ashamed or hesitate on details because the moment she made a single mistake she could blame you for not telling everything. Have her take the pill as early as her first menstruation.

Answer 7

16

Answer 8

Opposite sex? No younger than 16-18. Same sex? Any age.

Answer 9

Around late 15 to 17

However I would want a good year of dating, kissing, making out, most likly realtioships breaking up and forming though first love is ok. tears, joy, then advnacing slowly the way thgouh everythign that can be categorised as second and 3rd base. All the bjs, fingers, licking foreplay, strip poker games etc etc

ideally for 2 years or so so when they start to go 'All the way' they are far better able to deal with the emotional aspects and be confident and more sure of why they are with etc etc.

I wouls want them to be going fully sexaul aideally around 16 so they would have a couple of years still with me as parent to turn to, for advice, help, learning to deal with all askpects of full sexaul realtioships with a safe home to do it as well.

So the idea would be more puppy love till 14 then developing dating and second base and third base over 14-16 so delaying things.

But that is the ideal.

Unlike others the kida and I would havge been preparing this like they do in Holland from the age of 5 every year with hundreds of lessons and complete openess.

There would be no need to come here for answers as itwould have been pre taught over and over.

Said kid would be an expert in all forms of contrception, emergency contraception, abortions and other birth control and stds long before age 14.

Being realistic said kids would be on hormonal contrception before 14 as us parents would ensure it was taken, with condoms supplied by us

Plus self defence lessons.

So whilst not perfect all that could be put in place to avoid problems, pregnancuies, stds and emotionalupset would have been there pre 14 so a lot less worried.

We would hopefully see it comming monitoring dating etc.

And explained why it was better to wait but understand emotions and desires and love gets in the way hence us sorting out the contrception.


Im realisitc... Dealing with the teen problems here has taught me waht to expect. Studying the successful Dutch and other european countries policy on sexaul education has tuaght me how to deal with things and reambering teen years and behavour of others is reality


So from 14 maybe 13 would expect sexaul activity but hopefully not full sex till late 15 and then when they were ready not pushed into it

Answer 10

I would hope that I gave my child enough morals, and brains to know the difference between right and wrong,and what could ruin your life. I would hope that my child would wait until they met the person they were going to marry and then got married before they started sex. When you start that young, sex is no longer special, and if you are a girl , you ruin your name, and have a high possibility of ruining your life. As a boy you could end up loosing your life by getting Aids, or some other nasty disease. I would hope my child would be smart enough to wait until marriage.

Answer 11

when she is old enough to be responsible and use protection, however i know that aint going to happen , but i know i will get alot of thumbs down for this but as soon as my little girl starts her periods i am putting her on the pill, i can not stop her from going with boys ( well i will in my house) and i cannot watch her 24 hours a day ,if she is going to have sex nothing i say or do will stop her so i will at least try and prevent any unwanted babys.