who is more probable to be my baby's father?

Question

So man #1 I have been with maybe 2-3 times in the last 2 months, and he "finished off" inside...
man #2 I have been with maybe every 2-3 days but he always pulls out. No BCP or any protection.
Any ideas?? you can put rude comments if you wish, but I will ignore you. Unless you actually answer my question.

Answer 1

It could be either one of them. On one hand, the guy you've been with more often might have climaxed without your knowledge, and any fluids he produced before he "came" might have been enough to do the job. On the other hand, a full orgasm is more likely to have deposited enough sperm to impregnate you. There is really no way to know without a paternity test. If you can pinpoint the day you ovulated and rule out a guy you weren't with in this 2 or 3 day time frame, you might have a "best guess", but this is difficult to do with any accuracy. I have no interest in judging you. I think you at least have some kind of idea about who you WISH is the father. Perhaps you should go with that, but be honest with him. If you hope that he will step up and support you and your pregnancy, you should at least let him know that you have a doubt about paternity. He might be mad now, but he will most likely love his child and do whatever he can to support this baby. I am pro-choice, but I beleieve that giving birth to this child is the best outcome, despite who the father is. You can find this out at a later date, and you can ask for help from the biological father once he is established. The court system will help you. In the long run, there is no way to tell at this early stage of the game. You can have amniosentisis done to establish paternity later in your pregnancy, but it is risky. Your best bet is to wait until the child is born (I hope you decide to have this baby. It is YOUR child, no matter who sired him or her). Paternity is easily established at this point with a simple cheek swab. Even if you aren't romanticaly involved with the biological dad, you can seek compensation from him through the legal system. Don't let people shame you into making the wrong decision. This child can has the potential to change your life for the better. Until a "safe" method of proving paternity exists, you should sit back and put all your energy into a healthy pregnancy and poisitive outcome. This is YOUR child. Who the father is can wait. The health of your baby and yourself should be your ultimate goal. Be open with your OB about this circumstance as well. These people have heared and seen everything, and they will not put you down. You need a support system now. If you want to, E-mail or IM me. I will not judge you. I have been down this road (not with the pregnancy, I was just lucky. I DO know how hard it is for girls to live down the multiple partner stigma. Guys don't have to deal with this). As hard as it might be, just concentrate now on having a healthy pregnancy and loving YOUR child. A positive outcome can be had, even if you never know who the biological dad is. You can find out later, but don't concentrate too much on it now.

Answer 2

This is a tough one. Finishing off inside is not relevant if you were not fertile at the time of intercourse or near the time of ovulation. Man # 2 pulling out is no guarantee as 'precum' (term should be self explainatory) is full of sperm. so the best advice i can give you is get out your calendar. look at when your last period was, go back 14 days prior to that period, mark that date then mark the 3 days before it and the three days after it. Then you need to work out who you were with during that time. If it was both of them then which is closer to day 14. There are a heap of other factors like how long prior to this event with you had it been for them. Sailors that come into shore most often get their wives pregant very easily as they have not had regular sex. If all else fails have DNA done when the baby's born, or if you have to have an amnio test ask for it then. I think you are in a difficult situation and beyond DNA nothing is 100%. Good luck

Answer 3

It isnt incorrect. He have been given you pregnant, and he can take some responcibility in some way. i'm going threw the comparable element. My now ex Boyfriend have been given me pregnant and he doesnt desire something to do with it. So, i'm shifting out, and he might properly be via himself. The least he pays toddler help and he consistently has the opertunity to have a element interior the toddler's existence whilst he needs. Dont sense to blame for the toddler. And dont permit him run away and not pay toddler help! If he chooses to not be in its existence, a minimum of he can help pay for the flaws the youngster desires. as long as you like the toddler, the toddler would be positive. you will might desire to bump into some difficult questions, yet as long as you supply this toddler each little thing, it somewhat is going to be positive!

Answer 4

i would tend to think man # 1 if you were with him around ovulation. but you need to figure out when was the most likely day you ovulated and figure out who you were with the week b4 then. it isn't a fail proof way to figure it out so please be honest and tell them both what is going on and get the test done asap. with my cousin there were 3 possible daddy's one she was with a few months b4 she found out and then a guy she was with the first 2 weeks of the month and her new boyfriend who she was with for less than 2 weeks. so we all though it was guy number 2 but they did the test and it was number 3. but they all knew what was going on so there were no surprises or hurt feelings.

Answer 5

I think you need to be honest with yourself and the two guys and tell them the truth. Tell them your not sure it's going to be less stressful that way too. You cant go by what a kid looks like are when they say you concieved. You did both of these guys without protection now your job as a good mother is to find your baby's real father. goodluck to you sweetie

Answer 6

It really could be either of them. I would expect it was man number one, as he would have deposited greater amounts of sperm inside you. I also have a theory that when you cheat on your partner, your hormones go wild, and make you more fertile (I have no evidence other than jerry springer and maury to back this up). So, assuming that I am correct, then the piece on the side knocked you up.

Get tested for STDs.

After TTC for a year, I really really must say [insert nasty and derogatory comment here].

So there.

Answer 7

the pull out method is not very effective. that is how i got pregnant with my daughter, and now my new daughter who im pregnant with now. first of all a man's pre-*** contains sperm, and there is always the fact he may not be pulling out early enough cuz he's caught up in the moment. so its hard to say. you would have to base it on whoever you had sex with around the time you ovulated. both have a great chance of being the father

Answer 8

It only takes 1 time to get pregnant,
50/50 chance.
Could be either one.
Whichever had the strongest swimming sperm and the most potent.

Answer 9

Wow... This really isn't something you should be betting the odds on. I'd say probably man #2. What's the plan? Rake one guy over the coals while you leave the other one hanging out to dry?

Answer 10

How pregnant are you? (how far along)
The odds are in favor of "the finisher"...
It is possible to get pregnant from just one sexual incident with a pull out but the "finishing" is usually the accepted way.