I'm asking b/c my husband who recently confessed that he wants a divorce cuz he has a gf, does not want me and the kids to come to the house at all. Does she know about us? Or is he trying to hide us?
2007-09-24 19:00:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-09-28 18:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say this is a 50/50 type situation. She could probably know and doesn't want to see his kids at all. So she has him so whipped that he is forgoing his parental rights. So if you get a lawyer you might be able to bring that up in the divorce process. But really if its not the case and he has just been lying to her the whole time, then I say that is seriously on him. Because I'm sure she will find out soon enough from someone that he is married and leave him. And if he divorces you he is out two women and his kids. I don't know how long you have been married but he isn't worth the years you spent on him if he would treat his family this way.
2007-09-25 02:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By now, it really shouldn't matter if she knows or not. The main thing is... he want to leave the marriage and the kids. You should be trying to get a divorce, alimony, child support ect... If you hit him with all of that, she will know, because he won't have any money to spend on her. I would say go to the house when everyone should be home and make an entrance. You have him right where he need to be. Now get what's yours. He does not want to be married anymore. Why push him? OMG! that's great Peggy. Do what Peggy said. Get the bastard where it hurts. In his pockets. I wished I was there to help you. Keep your head up.
2007-09-25 15:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry that you're going through this. I know how painful it is. I guess the only thing I can offer you is that it doesn't really matter if she knows or not. He is going through a selfish phase where he is throwing away the things that should matter to him most. You could always hire a private detective to determine if the g/f knows or not. You could show up anyway without the kids and confront the both of them.
No matter how hurt you are or how badly you need to know the answer (and believe me, I understand the need to know the answer), make sure you protect your babies.
2007-09-25 02:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was you i would just ask him..if you guys are getting a divorce anyway then what does he have to hide??? and the answer to your question is yes..most of the time the other woman knows that the guy has a family and just doesnt care for some wierd reason...but yeah i would just ask him or go to the house anyway and introduce yourself to this new woman because if she doesnt know then she has also been lied to and might want to know that....
2007-09-25 02:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey at this point it doesn't matter either way. You're husband has said its over and now you should look at getting your life in order and prepare for this divorce. Use his new gf against him to keep custody of your kids (if you have any). Good luck and I'm sorry to hear this.
2007-09-25 02:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have been betrayed. The best thing you can do in this situation is gracefully bow out with dignity. (I read that in a book). Get the child support and cut ties with your ex as much as possible because it will be easier to move on. Acceptance is the final stage of the grief process. (Read that on the net ). Press on to a new life by meeting new people.(Joyce Meyer ) Pray as much as possible during this time in your life. If you are not saved, get saved. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-09-25 02:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe they know.
My husband refused to let me come to his house or even tell me his address when we were separated. I found out later he was living with her. She wouldn't let him tell me because she thought I'd do something weird. yep, i might have done if she didn't live in a secure apartment complex. ;-) LOL
If you want to get to know the other woman from their point of view (not yours specifically, just in general) then try this website: TOW.com
T.O.W. stands for the The Other Woman. They've created a whole website of forums and discussion boards to console themselves. you'll need a strong stomach though, some of it makes you sick.
2007-09-25 02:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by sass24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just depends if the guy will tell the other woman that he is married most of the time they don't. But some of the time they do know but keep doing it and those are called w*h*o*r*e*s or s*l*u*t*s. SO tak eyour pick and seems liek she doesn't know if he doesn't want anyone of your family getting close or talking to her. If I was you just to piss him off I woudl tell her. Maybe she will dump him and you will divorce him and he will be left with no one.
2007-09-25 02:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was in this situation I wanted to blame the other woman. It took me a long time to understand HE was the problem, not the other woman. He is the one you should be angry with and blaming. Not her. It could very well be that in the beginning she didn't know he was married and then when she figured it out she was too far into it emotionally to quit. HE never should have started it. Focus on him. Not her.
2007-09-25 02:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by heartinholland 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say he's been lying to her big time as alot of men do, so no sometimes the other woman doesn't know the guy is married.
My ex was telling his online girlfriends he has been separated for two years and here I am still in the house and yet to move.
2007-09-25 02:09:22 · answer #11 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋