we have three children together. we been together for three years and i love so much. we both want to stay together.but he know this women before me. please help. he went to jail because of me before and he use that all the time.
2007-09-24 19:00:27 · 21 answers · asked by Seanice W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he do take care of the kids but i work and bring in the money.
2007-09-24 19:15:17 · update #1
no he don't have kids by this other women.
2007-09-24 19:17:55 · update #2
he say's he need time to think about what is happening. He say's he love his kids and want them to have their real mom and dad. he realy love me the most and the other women is some one he love from talking on the phone. what should i do. i don't want to leave him.
2007-09-24 19:25:26 · update #3
he has to make a choice for his sake and yours not to mention this other woman! three is a crowd. You deserve someone who love you whole hearted
2007-09-24 19:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by fatbrat64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, sweetie. This is going to be tough, but I have nothing but love for you, so listen and listen good.
I know you love him. I know you've been together, but he's using you and he's using his jail time to keep you under his thumb.
Tell him you want him to marry you and give up this other woman, and if he doesn't do it you dump him on his butt.
He is using you and playing you like a bass fiddle and you are enabling it. He doesn't love you all that much or the other woman would be history.
I feel very sorry for your children; they need at least one adult parent, and if you can't do it you need to give them up to someone who can.
It's time you told him to fish, cut bait or get out of the boat.
Then find a decent and caring and honest man. There are at least a few out there, and there are even some who would take on a woman with three kids.
2007-09-25 02:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's look at this one up close.
Fact, You are a mother
Fact, You must teach your children right from wrong.
Fact, He is cheating on you.
Fact, He is cheating your children out of their father.
Fact, He doesn't want to stay together when he is with her.
Fact, He went to jail because He broke the law.
Fact, You did not force him to brake the law, He chose to.
Fact, Every prisoner I have ever met believed that they were not the one responsible for their action but family, friends, enemies, finances, police or anyone else but themselves were to blame. They were all wrong.
Fact, by allowing this behavior you are teaching your children how to behave.
Fact, You need to look at the facts and make some changes. No matter what you think you want or need your children must come first. You have got to protect your children from everything you just wrote to us before it is to late.
You need more than good luck, you need self worth, and even more than that you need your children's worth to come into focus.
2007-09-25 02:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by noyoungun 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like he is using you for everything he can get from you. You need to stop waiting for this guy to get his act together and show him what he's missing out on! If he can't "FIGURE IT OUT" after 3 years and kids, honey, he probably won't! I know you love him--and you probably always will--but he should love you just as much or he's wasting your time! And as for him using him going to jail--PUHLEEAZE!!! What did he go to jail for? Are you with someone who is not safe for you and your kids? You are letting this guy play you, sweetie. And you deserve better. Either you put your foot down and let him step up or kick him to the curb!
2007-09-25 03:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by Gorgeous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he uses a story to manipulate you in any way, or if he tells you something just to make you feel guilty to stick with him, then Sweet heart, he doesn't love you. He may love the idea of you being there, but he doesn't love you. And just to let you know. If he is seeing this other woman.. or has seen her at any point while he has been together with you... drop him. If he can't commit... let 'em go. You don't want seconds.
2007-09-25 02:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by sasperilla23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is constantly blaming you about you causing his time in jail he isn't worth it.
If he loves another women besides yourself he is apparently not worth it.
Don't stay in an abusive relationship just because you love him.
Its the a worst way of getting yourself stuck in a situation that you don't need to be in.
2007-09-25 02:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop chasing him and trying to figure out whats going on with him and take care of those kids. damn what he wants and the three women he say he loves. sweetie apparently he dont love you enough to take care of those kids. you are putting to much power in his hands. let his sorry behind go and you focus on those kids and you. you dont have time to worry about what he doing and with who. life is too short for this non sense. let go and be with the other women. you need to get a grip and focus and it should not be about him in no way. GodBLess
2007-09-25 02:06:19 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't love this man; you are hangin' on because you don't know what to do by yourself - he doesn't love you because he has another woman (and another and another ad nauseum - GET RID OF HIM)! Oh, and I for one, am GLAD HE WENT TO JAIL! STUPID MF, he wants his cake and eat it, too! R you really going to let this go on and on? take stock, be proud, put your energies into maintaining good, loving relationships with your children!! this jerk is not worth the time of day...ps - get a free makeover in a department store, lose weight if necessary, buy new clothes - and one day, look into the mirror and see "victory"! not heartache - good luck, i have been there, too (except no kids )....take care, andra
2007-09-25 02:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by Andra J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u both believe things r ment to be then go to a theripast...u need good communication, if he keeps bring up old news just to throw it in ur face u need to find a way to get through to him
2007-09-25 02:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by kelso 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhh your kinda vague on the deal with the other women. What exactly is he doing with her?
2007-09-25 02:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by DCfromMTZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋