ie- a relationship in which two people agree that they want to be together, but can't exactly promise that they won't see other people too. basically, to have it all: a significant other and the freedom to hook up with other people.
2007-09-24 18:07:54 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I see nothing wrong with the idea.
But... myself?
I am person whom can only give to one person.
I would like my Mate to be similar.
Its all or none.
If you can't give 100% to each other... and stay committed.
Why waste your time?
If you are not sure about your present significant other.
You should be able to figure it out as soon as possible.
And NOT let that decision drag on for too long.
(personal experience)
Those who usually say that they are open... could be too afraid to move on. They know that their mate is "nice", and really... from my experiences... my significant other was merely just taking advantage of my kindness and (how would you say politely?) "lack of balls" to end the relationship sooner rather than later.
I suppose... in summary.
I have learned from this mistake.
This "act" doesn't usually repeat to those who get hurt by this decision.... hopefully..... in my case... this is the last step before finding "Mrs Right"???
we will see?
just my thoughts
W
2007-09-25 02:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by movngfwd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do I think of open relationships? That it is an oxymoron. To say that you have a relationship with a "significant other", but don't offer that person any exclusivity is to say that they are not really that significant.
You won't have it all, you won't have commitment, exclusivity, Fidelity. You will basically have a friend with benefits, or a F**k buddy.
2007-09-24 18:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to have a lot of trust in the other person, and have complete confidence in yourself. I think its great for some people and not so great for others. People who have a hard time with commitment usually do this and if both partners understand that then their relationship could be perfect and last. However its not for me, I like being in one relationship with one person knowing they think the same way!
2007-09-24 18:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by applesauce 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's sure best to be honest about these things if that's how someone wants things to be, so that the other person can decide it that's acceptable to them. In short, as long as both people agree to it I don't think there's a problem.
2007-09-24 18:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by the Boss 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think they are a bad idea. i read a stat somewhere recently that most of the couples seeing shrinks right now fall into two spots. those who had 3 somes (these people are the one's who see the most shrinks) and people who have open relationships.
serious.
2007-09-25 11:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by LS 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind. Both people have to know the consequences of what might happen. If everything is cool. then live and let live. The most important part is to talk about it and make sure feelings aren't being hurt.
2007-09-24 21:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are good if both partners can handle it, you cant own another person anyways. Didnt work for me but that relationship wasnt going to work as it was. But don't fall in love, if its all about sex its good but if it seems like you are actually dating the other person then it will go south real quick.
2007-09-24 18:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by Matt C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally i am not in favor of it because i would not want infidelity in my 11 years of blissful marriage. That is MY own opinion on this matter but i do respect other's view on this. Besides, all we need is respect for each others' beliefs and opinions.
2007-09-24 18:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by pretty smiley 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it's just a relationship without love. that's all. some people stay in them for waaaaaay too long and even have kids. imo, it's not stable.
2007-09-24 22:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I respect people's choice to live like it. But it is not for me.
Ali
2007-09-24 18:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by Haplo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋