I'm scared that I'm going to turn back to my arrogant ways....I'm trying to be more low key but, I don't feel as happy this way. I just don't know how to BE. Any suggestions?
2007-09-24 18:03:52 · 4 answers · asked by ~~~Tara~~~ 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm not mean
2007-09-24 18:09:55 · update #1
Thanks Ars and Lor!
2007-09-24 18:12:48 · update #2
hee hee thats funny
2007-09-24 18:15:46 · update #3
Wellm being arrogant and confident are too different things really.
Are you afraid of being too confident that you might feel cocky in some way or people might think of you as such?
In any matter that's usually the first mistake one makes when trying to balance being humble and confident.
Here's a couple Ideas to get you started:
~ Try going outside to your front yard prefably early evening with a boombox and turn up some funky music and dance to it with maybe a friend or two. Turn it up LOUD. (not too much but enough to where maybe someone across the way could hear the music softly to grab their attention). This can help you loosen up your inhibitions about vicitmizing yourself to being so stiff and self-conscious. Let people see you dance to that funky music...and yes it has to be funky music. That type of genre was designed to get people to get up and start dancing. I even did hula hooping to it. This should greatly pump up your confidence level.
~Actively listen. This can help your subconscious realize how humble you really are and it will let the person your listening to notice the same. By asking question and showing that your vulnerable too can really help bring a perspective that hey I may be confident, but I' m human too.
~This is gonna sound funny but watch some college or professional sport mascot videos (yes mascot) Watch how they strut and walk, watch how funny they are, how confident. I know absurd but it can really help train yourself to be very confident and be the life of the party!
~ Lastly, do NOT give in to people who tell you that your too cocky or a ***** (excuse me greatly) In several classes I took, it's been researched that many people feel threatened by confident people especially when they are insecure themselves. Only you can distinguish if your cocky or not and believe me you'll notice the difference because while many think your a humble and confident woman there will be that one individual who will think otherwise.
Being humble and confident can be a balance issue especially when you had aweful past experiences of not being so. The best way to do it is to be an active listener, take a deep breath and let go of your inhibitions, and well just do something because you know you want to and do go and not do it because someone else might think low of you.
I hope those sugesstions help you!.
2007-09-24 19:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by binxdajinx 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Look a little healthy confidence is neccesary. Being humble is not so great. As long as you are consistently true to yourself, do not commit acts of deliberate cruelty or meaness and try to be the best person you can be you are GOLDEN. BTW- You say your not mean, but babe we are ALL mean sometimes. Deal with it.
2007-09-24 18:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Missy 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Being confident is just being sure of yourself, your identity, and your abilities. Being humble is not bragging about those qualities to everyone you meet.
2007-09-24 18:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by ArLorax 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
By acknowledging where all your blessings come from and expressing gratitude every day for them.
2007-09-24 18:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by lds123 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be yourself, be arrogant, be mean- as long as you can go through life alone and not need friends
2007-09-24 18:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋