three hours away. My company is providing a rental car, room etc. He is going to go up to KC in his own car and wants to take our two children to an amusement park. He asked me if I would take my own car and he would pay me all my mileage if I would return on Sunday with our two children so he could then go on and drive an additional two hours to see his girlfriend. I don't know why but this really irritated me because I felt like this was my weekend to concentrate on my professional development and the thought of going to my boss and telling her I didn't need the car because my ex was going to take care of everything. Am I wrong to feel irritated about this? Should I do him a favor? I just felt like he was infringing upon my time when he agreed to keep the kids. If it was for any other reason, example if he had a business trip etc. I just can't bring myself to work with him on this merely because it is for selfish reasons on his part...am I wrong???
2007-09-24 17:07:21 · 13 answers · asked by ooolala 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why can't you just tell your boss you'll be driving your own car because when your work-related activities are over, you have personal plans. It sounds like you're just irritated because he wants to see his girlfriend. I think it's nice that he wants to spend time with your children and take them to an amusement park. I don't see why you need to make an issue of it. He is your EX!!!
2007-09-24 17:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let's set the time line. You are going to KC on business. He is going with the kids. All he is asking, at least to me, is that you take your own car instead of a rental(why you couldn't do this with the rental I don't know since he is paying anyway) and driving the kids home rather than him driving 3 hours home and then 5 hours to his girlfriends. Here is the solution.
He drives the kids up. He takes care of the kids until you are finished and ready to come home anyway.
You take the rental car but HE pays for the extra days for the weekend and any extra hotel days for you.
He takes the kids to the park.
You do your work.
On Sunday, the two of you meet up after you are finished with your work and are ready to come home.
You drive the kids home.
He goes to his girlfriends.
As I see it, the only thing "imposing" on you is to have the kids ride home from KC with you. What is so bad about that.
2007-09-25 00:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really mean of your ex. Are any of your two children girls? If so, that's a real damper on their relationship with their dad. Whatever happened to "daddy's girl"? As a side note, while you're on a business trip, take time to go down to the hotel lounge and meet some guys. Believe me, they will be there, and some of them are usually HOT!!! I've had some success on some trips of my own!!!
2007-09-25 00:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Beth S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong! Tell him that the kids are his and to have fun. You'll be taking the rental car and going on your business trip. Why did this irritate you?? I'm not even you and I'm a little irritated. First, he's wanting you to change your plans to conform to his. Second, he's wanting you to conform to his plan so he can go have fun??? Stick to your plan. Tell him his plan isn't going to work out. Keep your backbone and enjoy your trip! :)
2007-09-25 00:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The only thing that wrong is that you are thinking of accommodating your ex-husbands demands which you don't agree with. I think you are upset about him going to see another woman too. I don't blame you.
You aren't obligated to do him any favors and if this is your weekend without the kids than you should have your weekend. Because he will continue to disturb your life to accommodate himself if you allow it. Good luck.
2007-09-25 00:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by JG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't do him a favor, this is a career trip for you, keep it that way. Let him work it out on his end, It is all about power and control over you...still.
2007-09-25 00:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by 400lbtwins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no tell him youv'e been looking forward to this trip an you aren't gonna change your plans so he can have his fun weekend without the kids they are apart of him too so it's his turn!!!This could the weekend you might find mr. right, so no you aren't being selfish you need time too!!!Take stand!!!
2007-09-25 00:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by ajjsdj4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would let him know that this is business and he need to
do what is best for him. your company sitution should not
be his things. and you are right he is infringing on your time.
trust me if you start something then it will be a problem down
the road. he wont to see his girfriend then do on his dime not
your.
2007-09-25 00:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not wrong. Take time for your own development, let him figure out his end of the deal.
2007-09-25 00:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by AskMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off he offered his idea but you dont have to do it.. you might need that rental car to get around to eat or whatever you need to do.. you do what works good for you..
2007-09-25 00:16:01 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋