When the ones close to us die why is it that we die a little too?

Question

even though we are still alive physically why is that some of our spirit dies with them? Have you ever experienced this and if so how did you deal with it?

Answer 1

One thing to consider is the fact that you are looking at your own mortality. Besides the fact that you miss them so much. Grief is one of the strongest and longest lasting emotions we experience. And the closer we are to the person the harder it is. It is also much harder on the younger set. I would say 8-18 years old.

I have lost many people in my life. I am 55 years old. The hardest was my teenage son.

The next hardest was my mother in law.

When you are young, you have your whole life to live and when it is taken away it makes no sense. And if you are young and lose someone young it is even harder because young people are supposed to grow old. They are not supposed to die.

Each time you lose a loved one, you do lose a piece of yourself in that the pain never completely goes away. But look at it as a good thing. If you do not grieve, do not morn, then you are nothing. You might just as well be a dung beetle. They do not morn either. This is just part of what makes us human. The ability to love and feel loss.

And how did I deal with my losses? I still deal with it, every day of my life. I still love and miss them all. And it still hurts to think of them as gone. But if I were to ever let them go completely I would no longer be human, I would certainly no longer be me. I would like to say that time dulls the impact and it does get better. But it never does go away.

Answer 2

Well when we become close to someone we invest feelings in them ,we have experienced things with this person and felt they understood us. You form a connection with them and then when they die all of that is suddenly broken and the feelings remain but the person is no longer there as an external stimulus to satisfy you. The best way to deal with it is to make sure you don't have a lot of free time start running or working out use all that pent of emotion for something constructive

Answer 3

People close to use help build our hearts, spirit, and mind. We share each other's feelings, thoughts, and actions, so therefore they are 'part of us'. I'm not sure if part of us die, but certainly we feel like we have lost it because the person we shared with has move on.
I can't say I have experienced someone that close, but I did have a family friends who was 19 years old and passed away from cancer. Which is very upsetting :[. She was in a very righteous and healthy Christian family.

Answer 4

When one dies it touches our hearts in such a way that it feels as though a portion of our soul has been stripped from us. I have seen many die in my life--many while I tended to them at their bedsides at time of death. I have served as a facilitator for mostly women, married or single, with families' permissions to guide them to their next realms. I have found that mothers linger longer because they have instincts where they won't surrender their lives so readily unless they are given permission to pass by their loved ones, particularly children or husbands. My father also died in my arms, and as a child I experienced the death of my mother when I was 9. Death is a natural act, a cycle of life. While I do miss them, I do rely a great deal on my faith in God to handle situations such as this. I believe that death is not an end to life, but a new beginning in another realm.

Answer 5

I don't believe a part of our spirit dies when someone we love leaves this earth; the pain of loss comes from missing the company of that life and spirit that was closest to us, that knew us best, that accepted us as we are, that cared for us even when we were in the wrong, that loved us, that now has moved beyond us.
The consolation (for me) is that I was so blessed to be able to share my life for a time with those I loved, and that I carry their memories with me so long as I am able to remember, and that being with them enabled me to see and understand the good within myself that they saw, and to become a better person.

Answer 6

I don't believe that. I think that's just how it feels in the short run. Eventually, you're life feels more enriched by the memory of them. Just because you will never have the same type of relationship with any one else doesn't mean that you won't have a different kind of relationship later in life that has been made better because of your past experiences.

My mother died two years ago and I don't have that close of a relationship with anyone anymore, but her spirit helps me to feel confident in myself and to be more self-relient than in the past. That would have really made her real happy to see me this way now.

Answer 7

We carry around inside our heads a memory "aspect" of everyone we know. This "aspect" lives inside our minds, so when we bump into someone we know or love, we recognize them instantly, and the more you know someone, the stronger that "aspect" becomes in your mind.

When someone dies, we know that we'll never see them again, so that "aspect" which is part of our minds begins to die as well...the memory begins the fading process...and so we grieve...and grief hurts...

Answer 8

Those little threads of humanity that transcend borders and boundaries..it is part of life and you cannot explain it that way..if such a thing exists as you suggest..I may not not be here at all.

Answer 9

We're all in a constant state of decay.

It's much slower than an apple or a plant - but it's happening.

We grow older, become slower - wrinkles & grey hair let us know that death is near.

We're always dying.

Answer 10

because they were a part of us in the emotional, and the emotional is the human spirit