2007-09-24 17:02:06 · 24 answers · asked by mr. mr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is your name Cas? I'm on the other END of a relationship like that---I am the woman involved with a married man who, although he's been wonderful to me for the past 9 YEARS, he still loves HIS wife as well. The problem here is that I am in love with HIM but he will NEVER EVER leave his wife... and the only person who is really getting hurt in this relationship right now is ME.... you have to make a choice....and to be fair to the sexual partner, you HAVE to be honest with her and tell her that you still love your wife.... and then, you have to do SOMETHING to change your relationship with your wife or else you will fall right back into the arms of the next woman who comes around and gives you the attention you aren't getting from your wife.... you STRAYED FOR A REASON... figure it out and either FIX it or move on... My relationship will end soon because HE was lucky enough to take up with a dying woman....he can go back and play the dutiful husband and never hurt the wife and never EVER let on that he had a relationship with me because I will be gone. Thing is, MY heart is empty because all I get is a few visits every few years (he lives several hours away) and weekend chats on the computer and phone calls now and then.... the good parts of HIM have remained HERS... before anyone condems me for being "THE OTHER WOMAN"... don't unless you have been IN MY SHOES.....I'm only giving out my information here in the hopes of helping this guy make up his mind and do the right thing.... Someone always gets hurt in these affairs....and someone always pays a price...it can't be helped.
2007-09-24 17:11:41 · answer #1 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have one bit of love still truly left for your wife you will get out of the affair immediately. Have you stopped to consider what or how your wife would be affected if she found out on her own? You married your wife, you accepted her in good and bad, you know the lines. If you do not want to be with your wife you should just tell her so that she isn't living with a lie. At least respect your wife enough to leave the other woman alone. Put the shoe on your foot and seriously think how you would feel about it. Probably not good. It sounds like you are lust with one and in love with your wife. Do the right thing.
2007-09-24 17:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so unsure of your feelings for your wife? Were you having problems before she got pregnant, or is the idea of being a father so "daunting and scary" that it's making you want to run? If it's the former, you need to talk that out with her. If it's the latter, you need to get a grip. But either way, stop telling yourself you "can't stop" what's going on with the other woman. Of course you can. You just don't want to. But if you want any chance at a decent resolution to this situation, even if that means an amicable separation, then you need to get yourself off this path you know isn't going anywhere good and focus on your marriage for now.
2016-05-17 23:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the relationship with the other woman. If you still love your wife, why are you having a sexual relationship with another woman? You should STOP. It'll cause problems.
2007-09-24 17:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by cat_heros@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still love your wife. why the hell did you start a sexual relationship with another woman/ Dump her right now before your wife finds out!
2007-09-24 17:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kyle 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It does not sound like you love your wife, because cheating on her is not a loving act towards her. You have to stop one committed relationship to start another one. You can't make a decision about your marriage without your spouse being involved. You are prohibiting her choice in the matter. Let her know what's going on so she can make a decision because you have clearly made your decision.
2007-09-24 17:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by diki_smothers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand how you could love your wife but be sleeping with someone else. Is your wife not fulfilling your needs? if yes tell her this but dont cheat thats horrible to do especially to your wife. Be a man and face up to what you want in life and do it, dont hurt others in the mean time.
2007-09-24 17:04:52 · answer #7 · answered by babydreams 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is common.
You'll be consumed by guilt until you break it off and tell her about it. Hope to gawd she doesn't find out from someone else. If you can't bring yourself to tell her, break off the affair anyway and try to enhance your sex life with her: Look into Tantra, Joy of Sex, roleplaying, anything to spice it up.
I don't know what kind of person your wife is, but if you think she can handle it, talk to her about open relationships. She might be bored, too.
2007-09-24 17:07:26 · answer #8 · answered by Roadpizza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love yourself! Not your wife. Be a man for once and tell your wife since you are still in love with your her.Yeah right!
2007-09-24 17:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by JG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u really loved your wife, you wouldnt betray her.
Anyway, there's only one thing for you to do if you want things to get right before it gets too late; Leave the other woman!
Trust me, i had a similar situation, though not married, only committed. It coulda gotten a lot worse if i hadn't put a 'control' over my desires. Trust me man, trust me...
2007-09-24 17:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by tenZ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋