have you cheated or been cheated on by your spouse?( husbands and wifes only please)?

Question

why do you cheat if you have cheating on someone? and if you had someone cheat on you what have you done? i cought my husband cheated on me and try to get other girls to do more if you know what i mean. have you ever stayed with that person? i cant get over it and i think its so over, i just dont love him anymore. im scared and i never thought ever that my own husband would cheat. can you tell me what you guys have done? and tell me your storys? thank you

Answer 1

Never cheated, never asked or suspect if my wife did either. Sorry couldn't help you...actually I'm glad I couldn't help you.

Answer 2

Yes I have been cheated on and it does make you feel like crap, because it comes out of no where. I mean maybe I did see little clues but I thought I was just being silly. Well my husband and I are still together but we still have alot of talking to do because I now feel so insecure. Things are getting better everyday but really it's up to you. If you don't think that you can ever forgive him for this than maybe you do need to move on. BUT if you do want to work it out try to talk to a counselor. We did and it helped. I still have worries that he will do it again but we are trying. It has been good though. We learned alot about eachother. BUT again if you want to move on Dang Girl there are alot of good looking guys out there that would probably really love and care about you. No matter how low you feel now it'll get better no matter what you choose. Don't give up and blame yourself sometimes things just happen. It's messed up I know. Tomorrow is a new day. You'll be ok! Trust me I have been there. Take Care!

Answer 3

Was not yet married. But I am answering anyways. It was my fiance who cheated. We had a horrible fight and I told him to go to his sisters. While there, the very next night his sisters slutty friend came on to him while he was drunk and mad at me and he went for it. He then suddenly thought he was in love with her and all that. It took less than a week for her to send him packing and within the month he was back with me (cause I was still shell shocked and foolish). I think the main reason men cheat is due to low self esteem and that need for someone to want them and adore them in the way you did when you first met. Whereas many women are happy for the love and stability and all that....men need a constant feed of the ego. Don't think you are alone....I bet 99 percent of women think their other half will not cheat. But my sister told me once.....any man will cheat and never think they won't. I stayed with my ex husband more than once after he cheated and with my fiance when he cheated once so far. We are now split recently and I suppose he will go find someone and I will be crushed but time helps some things. Don't EVER let a man cheat and take him back without counseling. EVER

Answer 4

I've never cheated, nor has my husband cheated on me. We've discussed how it would make us feel several times though and we've both agreed we'd have to get a divorce because no matter how hard we tried, we could never feel the same about each other again. A marriage should be built on love, trust and honesty. If those are gone, then there's no point in making yourself miserable. If he cheated on you, it's time to tell him to screw himself and his woman/women and find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve after you're divorced of course. Having an affair while getting a divorce can look bad to the judge, especially if children are involved.

Answer 5

YES MY HUSBAND CHEATED ON ME AFTER 12 YEARS OF MARRIAGE I TOOK HIM BACK AFTER 4 MONTHS OF SEPERATION ONLY BECAUSE HE CHEATED WHILE HE WAS VERY HOOKED ON DRUGS. HE STARTED HANGING WITH A NEW CROWND AT HIS NEW JOB AND WELL HE BEGAN USING. WHAT HE DID IS NOT EXCUSED AND HE IS VERY REMORSEFUL. HE HURT ME DEEPLY AND I STILL FEEL PAIN DAILY ITS BEEN A YEAR NOW AND I STILL CRY AT THE THOUGHT OF THAT TIME IN OUR LIVES. WE HAVE TWO KIDS AGES 11 AND 4 WE DIDNT TELL OUR KIDS WHY WE SPLIT UP AND WELL I CANT SAY IF THAT WAS A GOOD OR BAD IDEA. ALL I CAN SAY IS THAT ITS THE WORST THING IN THE WORLD AND DONT WISH IT ON ANYONE. WHAT GOT ME THROUGH WAS PRAYER AND MY MOM. SHE WAS MY ROCK. I STILL LOVE HIM AND SINCE WE GOT BACK TOGETHER ITS BEEN GREAT, YES WE HAVE A FEW SAD TIMES AND A FEW SMALL ARGUMENTS BUT I BELIEVE WE BELONG TOGETHER AND HE SAYS WHEN I KICKED HIM OUT HE FELT LOST AND ALONE LIKE HE WOULD DIE WITH OUT ME AND THE KIDS. HE SAYS WE ARE TRULY SOLE MATES. MY DECISION TO TAKE HIM BACK WASNT EASY. AND IT MIGHT NOT BE THE RIGHT DECISION FOR EVERYONE. THINK LONG AND HARD AND MAKE SURE THERES STILL LOVE THERE!!!!!!!!!! AND MOST IMPORTANT IS FORGIVE.................IT AINT EASY I KNOW

Answer 6

u can get over this, really u can
give it time, request that he plays fair,
or walk away,for two week, tell him hey i m leaveing
im going to my mothers, you may call, but not visit for two long weeks,
if he hangs around and does change , make new plans.
work out why he cheated, it maybe you , it maybe lack of sex, he may be bored, looking for some fun ?
ive been cheated on , it wasnt fun for me.
but at the end of the day ,were all human ,
so give us a breck , maybe it will be for the best ?

Answer 7

I have been married twice before and both my previous husbands cheated, when asked in court what the reasons were both admitted that they could not refuse when it was offered to them on a plate, and alcohol was involved so judgement was impaired. I moved on with my life.

Answer 8

fake. the way a mom/father feels approximately their significant other has no longer something to do with the way they sense approximately their babies. are you able to hate your mom and not hate your father? actual. So only because of the fact somebody cheats doesnt propose that they seem to be a bad parent. they are able to nonetheless care deeply for his or her babies. In maximum relationships the place a parent is depressing with their companion, will grow to be nearer to the babies. and specific each and every so often misery finally ends up in cheating even nonetheless it doesnt propose they seem to be a bad parent only made a bad decision. i be responsive to that cheating hurts babies while they discover out and it could harm lives yet while a parent didnt intentionally attempt to wreck lives or didnt proceed doing it repeatedly without regard to the babies thoughts in the event that they found out then per hazard they seem to be a sprint selfish and make incorrect judgements even nonetheless it doesnt propose they dont love their babies or that they seem to be a bad parent.

Answer 9

Cheaters, by any definition, are looking for something which is missing in their primary relationship, and usually it has nothing to do with sex, but with a sense of connection and emotional bonding which they feel is lacking.

If you love him, start by forgiving him, though you can wait to tell him that, then seek marriage counseling and found out why he felt the need to go astray, and fix you relationship. People who have strong primary love relationships don't feel the need to look for fulfillment from secondary love relationships.

Learn to communicate with each other...marriage counseling gives you you the tools to start doing that...and remain flexible.

Answer 10

Why cheatings?
Talk to him and ask him to Invite his wishes of girls in to your bed and let's haveparty of threesome in our way, so everybody injoined and no body is hurting!

People who cheats are selfish, and lack of considerations. It's better to consider the so called social lifestyles or threesome, swinging or wife swappings rather cheatings.

Answer 11

Check out the website marriagebuilders.com, it has alot of very imformative article about why affairs happen, and how to rebuild if that is what you want. Both of you have to want to make it work and it will take alot of time to regain back the trust you once had.