I want a baby?

Question

I am a senior in high school (17) and have been with my bf for two years now. I really really want a baby. He knows how much I want one too. Everyone says getting pregnant as a teen will ruin your life. I want to go to college and pursue a career, but I want to get pregant so so badly. Can they kick you out of school for that? Everyone at my high school will think I'm a total sl*t, but that's fine with me. What should I do?

Answer 1

Just don't do it. Wait until you are out of college, or at least most of the way through. If you want to take care of a baby, then babysit for someone you know who has one...I am sure they would be willing to let you take care of the baby for a while...then maybe you will see how much work they actually are...besides all the work a baby takes, there is the issue of money...if you are in high school how are you going to get a good enough job to take care of a baby? Who is going to be stuck taking care of your kid while you are working and in school? Babysit twins (since that is a possibility..what if you had twins, or triplets, or more??)

Answer 2

I was a senior in high school when i got pregnant. No I wasn't a slut, my bf and i had been together a long time, in fact he was the only one i had been with. The pregnancy wasn't planned, it was just not prevented. I did graduate, Valedictorian, in fact. Long story short, we got married and a year later i got pregnant again. Now we have 2 beautiful girls.

But everyday is a struggle. I work 40+ hours a week at a job I hate. Both me and their father are in college ful-time (but it took 2 years to get here). For the last year and a half we have lived with our parents because we can't afford to support ourselves. Because of the stress, me and their father have separated, which only makes life more stressful.

I am only 21 now, so its a little early to say it has ruined my life, but i certainly do not recommend it.

Let me ask you a question. Why do you want a baby so bad? Is it because you don't feel loved enough?

My suggestion is to find a way to give to a child without the lifelong commitment that comes with having a baby. Find a charity or organization or a cause and do something good, instead of contributing to the problem that is teen-age pregnancy. Do yourself a favor. Research the statistics on teen pregnancy, on the likely-hood that you will raise your child in poverty, never attend college, struggle your whole life.

Answer 3

Well honey I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now and I don't see what the big deal about having a baby is. I mean I know its something I can't quite understand now but I probably will when I graduate from college. It won't necessarily ruin your life but you more tha n likely will have a heck of a hard time trying to finish what you most want to do like go to college, etc. They can't kick you out of school for being pregnant, in fact some high schools' counselor programs actually help you through your pregnancy, which I think is really cool. I'd say wait a little longer, at least once you get into college and see how your relationship with your guy goes. If you decide thats what you want in the end then go for it. Don't even worry about what other girls think about you, they don't understand (I know I can't say that I do). Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Answer 4

How do you plan to pay for this baby if you have one?? Do you have that good of a job already that you can buy diapers, formula and clothes for a baby as well as furniture for the baby and pay for a babysitter so you can finish high school. I didn't know after school jobs paid that well these days. My daughter can't even afford a car with her after school job so I don't see how you would pay for a baby. Also what about the medical bills? Remember if you have a baby you have to pay for ALL of the expenses for the next 18 years. How do you think you will be able to pay for college and a child and who will watch the child while you go to college and study? Remember a baby is a 24/7 job for 18 years. There is NO time off from this......................never. Before you get pregnant think about how much money you currently make per week and then go price diapers, clothes, formula and car seats etc and be sure you have a clue what is going on. Also call some day care centers to see how much it will cost you per week or month for day care while go to school or work etc.

Answer 5

I think it's great that you want a baby. But timing is very important. I remember being at a hospital with my grandmother when I was four years old and I saw a new baby going home. I wanted one so badly. (I've had three now but the timing then was very poor!)
If you get your college education, get a good job and then marry your boyfriend, you'll be much closer to the right time to have a baby. You'll have an education, a career, a husband, the money to have a nice home and be able to afford all the things a baby needs.
So, good things come to all who wait. You will be glad if you do things in the proper order. Be patient and set the stage for success in all you do.

Answer 6

You really really want a baby for what? A trophy? (Look what I got!) A milestone (I'm old enough) or to keep the bf (now that I have a baby, we're bound together for 18 years, no matter what) or because you think they're so cute and adorable (so are Webkinz and toys are cheaper)? If you want to go to college and pursue a career, why are you wanting to have a baby at 17? (11th grade, right?) You need to look at your motives because it's not for love and nuturing. If it was, you'd want to have a committed partner, a nice home, a secure job and the time and money to devote to raising a child properly, not claiming you want a baby just because.

Answer 7

no matter how much you think your ready for one...the simple fact is that at 17 years old YOU JUST AREN'T! its a responsibility that requires age, wisdom, a very firm set of relationship skills only acquired over time, a LARGE income and a lot of patience. there's no way you could make enough money with ONLY a high school degree to support a baby and niether could your bf. not to mention guys don't mature enough to have babies until they are well into their 30's. its a life commitment that will replace all of your goals and aspirations you currently hold like going to college, ect. by having a baby now you would miss all the life experience that things like college bring you...not only would you be missing out but your bf would be too! that's not fair to rope him into! you need to wait until you and the guy you are seeing is ready for a baby both emotionally, financially and mentally. the baby deserves to have the best life you can give it and right now you just can't give it absolutely everything it deserves. think about the other lives at stake here for once instead of your own wants and needs because when it comes right down to it being a good mother is strongly undermined by the ability to do what's best for others...NOT yourself.

Answer 8

Definitely wait. I had to put college on hold because of my current pregnancy. Luckily my family is being really supportive of my decision not to terminate, though they weren't at first. Still though, even with everyone's support, it is going to be really hard to pay for a sitter while I go back to school.

They can't kick you out of school for being pregnant, but I don't think it's a good choice for anyone so young anyways. I still think that I'm too young for this sometimes (20)!

Because of the financial constraints, I am back home living with my parents while my bf and I try to save up $. If you are determined to do this at such a young age, you should at least get out there and work and save every penny you can. My pregnancy wasn't planned, but if it had been, I would have waited until I hat AT LEAST 5k saved in the bank.

Everyone says babies are expensive, but you really have no idea until you have to try to fund one yourself.

Answer 9

I'm sure you would love a baby very much but have you thought about the cost of a baby. How would you support your child and what about medical insurance. Welfare will not give you type of money you will need to really raise a child. Ask anyone that gets it it really isn't enogh to live on. At your age I don't see you getting that good of a paying job or one with good health insurance. As far as going to school who would you get to warch the baby. Chances are you would have to pay for that also. Of course girls have went to college and had babies but them and their babies have to sacrafice a lot to make it work. Would it really be fair to bring a baby into the world on purpose until your really able to give it everything it needs without needing other people to help. Think about how it would effect a baby to bring it into the world right now. If your going to college your not going to have the time or money for a child. You will have plenty of time to have a baby later.

Answer 10

Are you willing to give up partying with your friends? Are you prepared to live in your boyfriend's basement and raise a child after your parents kick you out? Are you ready to give up your life and all the fun you used to have, for a baby that can wait a few more years? Why would you do that to your future kid? You can't think of just your wanting to have a baby because they're cute, well guess what? Babies are a full-time job. Diapers cost hundreds a month. Think about your future child. Can't you be mature about this and wait a few more years?