What does this sound like to you?

Question

I asked my feance(however you spell it) tonight what he thought about me moving in with him between the middle of Oct and the 1st of Nov this year. He was like I don't know if I can afford it. I base all my bills on using my pay roll check. I don't count my gas royalty check that is like $400.00 to $600.00. Due to in Oct and Nov they always cut me back or I don't get it. He said that he can pay all his bills with his income leaving him about $300.00 a month for gas and interment. He then said sometimes no one is home using the bills. I would have to put you on my lease..I stopped him and said that that would be find and it would not keep me from getting my S.S.I check which will be an extra $373.00 a month. I told him with that extra money I could pitch in and help, but it will take a few months to get because I have to wait on it to come into effect and two I have to divorce my husband who makes to much for me to get it.

I explained that if I moved in with him that he would have to cover my utility bills for a few months and that when I got my money I would help him out. I told him before then I will get $150.00 in food stamps a month to help out on gro and thats an extra $150.00 a month he has in his pocket to pay my share of the bills, I don't think my cost of living there would be that much. Again he saids I don't know. He said that the gro. was not the problem.

I asked him if he would feel better if I had my S.S.I check before I moved in and he said yes. I told him again I could not file for it or a divorce before I moved in due to my old man would kick me out. He was like well I do know. I really wanted to wait until the first of the year so I could try and save for a better car. My car and truck need repairs.

What does this sound like to you?
Also he sends like $200.00 a month on fast food why not put that on hold to help me a few months? I will cook for him and yes he likes my cooking.

I can't live on my own I am disabled and I don't make enough to pay my own bills. Thats the government for ya they don't give a rats butt about us disabled people.

Answer 1

This sounds like a detailed math question and it doesn't add up. I'm not sure why he can't afford for you to move in - usually two people living in 1 space is saving money.

You really need to sit down and talk out your finances and what's really going on with your relationship.
His excuse is Bogus - where are you going to live when you get married?

Answer 2

You still live with your husband? And you want to know if you should move in with your fiancee?? Are you kidding? You live off of food stamps? You need to be on your own and get a good job. When you do that then you can contribute to a healthy relationship. You have issues that need to be addressed. Good luck!

Answer 3

1. You shouldn't have a fiance if you are married.
2. What do you plan to do when you get married to this guy? Are you not going to move in then?
3. That was really his excuse? You would be raising the utilities.

You should really rethink the whole getting married to this guy thing.

Answer 4

best thing to do is to split half of the bills with him. this will make him more secure and comfortable to live with u. unless he is a sissy. no guy want to have a free loader live with him

Answer 5

Your in the middle of a divorce. Put yourself in his shoes...I'd be trading carefully with you too(no offence)

Answer 6

don't bother moving in - he doesn't really want you to, and all you want is to jump from hubby's bed to boyfriend's
get a life before inflicting yourself on others
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Answer 7

wow you are a busy woman be single for a while