2007-09-24 16:23:15 · 18 answers · asked by Lenore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's hard but you have to be willing to let him earn your trust back. You have to be willing to give him a second chance. If you can do that, then let him prove himself to you. Don't keep throwing it in his face every time you fight. Either try to get past it or realize that you can't. If you need to monitor him and ask him ?'s and call all the time then he needs to let you do that and understand. He needs to earn your trust and at the same time you need to be willing to give him another chance. Otherwise you're just making both of you suffer.
2007-09-24 16:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well was it a one time mistake, was it a long term affair that you found out about? If your marriage is to survive this you must be willing to forgive and to trust him. You also have to find out what was missing in your marriage that he looked elsewhere. Counseling is a very important thing. Does he want to stay married as much as you do? Did he love this other person? there are a lot of questions you have to ask.....
2007-09-24 23:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your faith in God. Just set him free for a while. after that try to talk to him and say sorry even if it is not your fault. just forget about your pride. and see if what he is going to do. if he apologize then forgive him and learn to build your trust on him again by appreciating the good things he is doing. and also ask God for the total forgiveness that you can give to your husband.
2007-09-24 23:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by lynxelaine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you've been married and the nature of the betrayal. You know the answers to those questions, and I don't. But those questions will tell you whether or not he warrents further trust.
2007-09-24 23:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by DayinthePark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just leave your past in your past and it should go ok. It may be good to steel keep your gard up and make sure he knows you will be asking questions if you feel uneasy about any thing and he should respect that. If he plan to be in your life.
2007-09-24 23:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by tiana2404 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think time will heal you, he also has to earn your trust by not going to the bar or out with the guys ect.. he needs to pretty much walk behind you like a sad puppy. i think he needs to prove himself to you. goodl uck.
2007-09-24 23:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You wont. It will always be in the back of your mind. You do learn to live with it yet as I am always ask are you really willing to share him. The answer of course is no....but love is blind sometimes.
2007-09-24 23:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't start trusting him again...
I'm very sorry that happened but, once a cheater, always a cheater. You have to just move on. I'm sorry, again. =(
2007-09-24 23:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by Thao Kun 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
communicate. actively listen to why he did what he did. there may be underlyn issues that led to the betrayal
2007-09-24 23:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by noewatugointhru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was it a real betrayal or something else you have not thought about yet!Think you will have an answer to your second question.
2007-09-24 23:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋