My mom just packed up her stuff and walked out the door. She has been cheating on my dad and I need advice from people who have been through this. I feel so lost right now and any advice is welcome.
2007-09-24 16:20:44 · 7 answers · asked by Slacker 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
while it's hard to not let anger on you or your father's behalf get in the way, please try to let your mother know that you still love her even if you don't agree with what she did. it's not a betrayal of your love for your father to still love her, nor would is it telling her that what she did was okay. support him, help him out more around the house than usual and be caring towards him in general - his heart is hurting in ways you can't imagine. but as hard as this sounds, this is between them and you need to step back and let them work it out their way, whether it be breaking up for good or fixing it. you have no place in the equation, it was a betrayal of their marriage not of their roles as parents.
keeping a journal may give you a good outlet for your feelings right now. write when the mood strikes, write what is in your heart, write until you feel spent. it will help you work thru your flying emotions and not let loose a flood of anger on everyone around you.
my parents went thru this when i was a teen, and ultimately they divorced, but it was handled in such a way that they are still friends and in the long run it did not affect my relationship with either of them in a bad way. it took time for my anger to fade enough to want to spend time with my father, but i'm glad i didn't hold a grudge. he is my dad, i love him and recognize that no one is perfect, no one is undeserving of forgiveness.
peace.
2007-09-24 16:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by sleepycatz1972 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really do feel for you..I experienced something like this when I was 12. My step father walked out the door and abandoned my mother with 6 kids. I am not sure if you are a teenager or an adult....but your parent's problems have nothing to do with you. Is there someone that you trust that you could talk to? Keeping your anger in isn't healthy and you can find healthier ways to deal with that anger.
2007-09-24 16:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear. Anger is normal, anger is a strong emotion. It's how you deal with anger that is important.
Experts claim, under anger is depression, under deppression is anxiety. Deppression and anxiety go hand in hand. When I am angery, upset, etc... I pray and tell God how I feel and then ask for His strength and help. Good luck, God Bless.
2007-09-24 16:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
cope anger
2016-02-02 06:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Courtney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont take sides.
Its not going to be easy, but you need to be there for the both of them but make it clear that you dont want to be dragged in the middle of their arguments.
There are alot of reasons why people cheat and at the end of the day it is between your parents.
Just let them do what they have to do, there will be alot of tears and arguments, but it does get easier.
Talk to your school counsellor....it will help.
Good LUck
2007-09-24 16:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know we don't pick our parents but love your mom anyway she made a mistake and it hurts. But sometimes grown ups don't know when to grow up. Keep your head up little one.
2007-09-24 16:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by b n real 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Support your dad. Forgive your mom.
2007-09-24 16:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wait and see ...............................
2007-09-24 16:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by Rimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋