If you are not good-looking and don't make a lot of money, can you still get married?

Question

I am 34. I have never had a gf. I am not good-looking. I have a big nose, a skinny face, a long neck and balding. I don't make a lot of money either, even though I work two jobs. Will I ever be married? Or will I be single, ugly, poor and lonely for the rest of my life?

Answer 1

I really don't think there's any reason for you to believe that you will "never get married".

You say you are "not good looking" and you describe some facial features which obviously concern you. No one is EVER completely happy with the way they look, and you may well be your own worst critic. You say you have a skinny face - isn't this better than having a fat one? You say you have a long neck - does this mean you are very tall? Did you know that many women prefer tall men to shorter ones? You seem to be focusing very hard & zeroing in on a few physical features you dislike. Instead, learn to focus on the parts you DO like, like perhaps your eyes, your skin, your teeth, etc. etc.? How about exercising, building up a fit-looking body? I don't know a woman alive who wouldn't find that attractive. You say you are balding, why not just shave it all off? In my experience, bald men can be very attractive. My point is that there are many things you can do, to make changes to your appearance which might make you feel more confident, and at least different & fresh.

Looks aside, there are many things women look for in a mate. You say you work two jobs - this says to me that you are a hardworking individual with a strong work ethic. You say you don't make alot of money, but do you make enough to at least provide the basic necessities in life, such as food, clothes, and a place to live? These things are necessary, the rest are extras. You don't necessarily need alot of money to impress a date, there are many things you could do together which would be inexpensive or even free. Museums, picnics, going for ice cream - all inexpensive date ideas. Just the fact that you've posted here on Yahoo answers says to me that you can probably afford a computer & internet connection - that right there indicates that you do have at least some extra money for non-necessities.

I think you are really much better off than you think, but that you lack confidence and possibly, are a little discouraged since you say you have been single a long time. Work on building up your self-esteem. Whatever work it is that you do, take pride in it and in doing it well. Do you have any hobbies? If so, learn to excel at them. How about volunteering somewhere, helping animals, contributing to your church or community? If you've even a couple hours a week to contribute to a worthy cause, doing so would also make you feel great about yourself, PLUS WHICH you would probably meet new people to network with, and maybe even, meet the girl of your dreams! Focus on the good things and stop berating yourself, and your self-confidence will improve!

Don't be ashamed that you've never had a girlfriend, either. My husband never had a girlfriend before meeting me - he admitted this to me freely when we began dating - and ironically, this was one of the things about him which left a lasting impression & made me want to find out more about what everyone else had missed. : ) He is no Brad Pitt and no millionaire, but we've now been together 7 years.

I really hope some of what I've said can provide you some encouragement. Don't ever give in, I truly believe there's someone out there for everyone. You just haven't met her yet. : )

Best wishes.

Answer 2

Rich women are usually smart women - too smart to throw it away on the likes of you (little troll, I suspect, but let's pretend you're for real.) The best you can hope for is some poor soul with fairly low esteem and little education who will allow you to wipe your feet on her, will work two jobs and do all the housework and raise the kids single handed, and then, when you screw around behind her back, will wonder what she did wrong and post sadly here about how much she loves you. It amazes me, Darwinianly speaking, that a man like you can find a mate, but many do. So don't lose hope.

Answer 3

You can if you're not unrealistic about what you want in a partner especially looks. I see alot of men, even fat unattractive not so rich men, that want this supermodel gf/wife but don't measure up.

I think you need some serious self esteem counseling. Even the ugliest people in the world get married an dhave children. If you're not unrealistic you should be able to find someone.

Answer 4

Something is wrong if you are 34 and you work two jobs yet you still don't have a hefty bank account. I would suggest going back to school getting a masters degree so you can obtain ONE really good job that pays really well. I personally think that educated men are attractive. It wouldn't hurt to work on your confidence either. If you feel you're really not good looking, exercise, work out, buy some Rogaine (it works!). Change your attitude because women can sense insecurity and low self esteem form miles away.

Answer 5

Beauty comes from within, not on the out side and out side beauty fades quickly with time anyway. Treat other people like you want to be treated. Be kind, giving, selfless, patient, tolerant, understanding, slow to anger and quick to forgive. Look around most of the people in this old world are not good looking on the out side and lots of them are married. It's how you behave that is important, not what you look like.

There's a lot of women who aren't so good looking on the outside, but are very beautiful on the inside. Give them a chance.

Answer 6

First of all, you are a hard worker, and the girl that judges you based on your looks is not the one for you!! thats the same thing as wanting the christmas present package, who cares what is inside... first lighten up on your self, you dont need to make tons and tons of money to please a lady, the right one will be please just to be with you, and there are tons of things you can do on a limited budget, you didnt mention where you were trying to meet women, so may i suggest your local church, thats where i met my husband, or by volunteering at local charity functions, i say that because they are not interested in money, they are interested in PEOPLE, how they feel, how they are cared for, they arent the simple minded women of the world, good luck, and look at the positive things you have going for you!!

Answer 7

Looks and money aren't everything, but more than that it sounds as if you have seriously low self esteem. Just look at your SN. The only way you'll be a loser is if you give up on yourself. Becky J, and Truth Hurts aren't helping your self-image any...They're obviously lacking in the only beauty and wealth that matters. Either ignore them or imagine them as the 500 pound, toothless, greasy-haired, desperate, bitter *****es that they are. Be kind, be funny, be loving, be supportive, be honest, be loyal, and be romantic. No girl can resist that.

Answer 8

My mother always used to tell me that although the man you find may not always be good looking or the richest guy in the world, its the love he shows/feels for you and the fact that he is hardworking that matters. A hardworking man will always try to make you happy and will love you like crazy. I totally agree with her.

Answer 9

Well, your attitude is showing... Larrythelooser? seems you already have sealed your fate. Go back to school, man, get a better job, and be more than a looser. It isn't handsomeness that gets the lady, it is confidence, charm, with, and BRAINS!!

Answer 10

there is a good portion of ugly, average and pretty people and most of them seem to get married.

in fact a lot of people fit your description and are cruel yet they end up getting married.

don't be so hard on yourself.