My husband has been gone 1 month from home. When we get back home to see friends he tells everyone that he is going away for three nights to go hunting. uhhh....news to me. My feeling were hurt b/c 1) he didn't tell me, and 2) i would like to have a lil time with him for a weekend and 3) doesn't he want to be with me too? i'd think he would....he decided not to go after I said something to him. Did he think I would be ok with this? haven't seen ya, then yer gonna spend all day in the woods alone?! I'm glad he decided to stay here and go another weekend, but it still hurts me that he didn't think of what I'd have to say in it. Am I wrong to feel this way? What would you say to him?
Thanks.
2007-09-24 16:08:51 · 9 answers · asked by Kat T. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We women forget that men are not like us they don't think like us.When a men gets married he feels he no longer has to impress us. He gives you a house kids food a warm bed to sleep in what more should you want. Now we want his free time his down time his go out with the boys time. He looks at it this way, you have him why do you want to spend needless time together and to do what. Do you see where I'm going with is. I'm assuming that the month he was gone was work relayed and if so in his mind he has worked all month none stop and all he wants is some down time to go have some fun. His fun and your fun is so different that one has to wonder why the two of you got married in the first place. This is how most men think and feel. We try to change our men into something we want them to be and that's when the resentment come in to the marriage.
2007-09-24 16:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a big deal to me. He wanted alone time and obviously hunting is something he wants to do alone. My dad goes hunting every year....he has since he was a small child. My mom knows this is HIS season to hunt (it's not like hunting is an alllll year thing) let him go hunting and have fun while the season is open. Thats just something he loves to do and you shouldnt' stop him, but I do understand you getting your feelings hurt under in the situation. Just let him go and have fun and have something super fun/romantic planned for the weekend he stays home. It will be worth his while.
2007-09-24 16:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by Blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband LOVES to hunt. His gone almost every Saturday. I figured it like this, BAR OR WOODS!! You know there are so many women out there that instead of their husband going hunting as soon as they got back from some trip they may have had to take [work related] or what ever, their husband may hit the bars with their freinds and stay out all night. At least his not leaving you at home to hit the bars. You didn't mention if he was out of town on business or just out of town for fun so I take it that it was business. It wasn't that he didn't miss you but he just assumed that you would understand that he loves to hunt and figured you wouldn't mind. It was ok for you to tell him how you felt because he needed to know you missed him and he sounds as if he was reseptived to your need so that's good. But you don't want him to be resentful to your feeling on him going hunting. You know he could be thinking the wrong thing here and for arguement sake his not saying anything. But do you want to go to bed every night this weekend and him just role over and go to sleep cause his pisst about his hunting trip? He may think your thinking his cheating or something when he just wanted to go hunting. So I think I would confirm that he understands that I just wanting to spend a nice weekend alone with him and you don't mind his hunting just hurt that he didn't seem to think you wouldn't care if he spent time with you.
2007-09-24 16:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think that you're wrong for feeling that way, I think that's perfectly understandable.
Since he changed his mind and decided to stay home after you said something, I would let it go. It probably didn't even cross his mind that it would bother you; when he made plans to go hunting, he was probably so caught up being excited about the trip and seeing his buddies, that he wasn't thinking straight. Some men have a hard time understanding how their actions will affect their wives.
I say let it go, you explained to him that it bothered you and you got what you want. Don't nag him about it after the fact or he will regret changing his plans to be with you (and next time he won't bother).
2007-09-24 16:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by isaacsprincess79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. I dated a guy that hunted, but I have to tell ya....better to have them out in the woods alone and hunting than be at a bar somewhere. Know what I mean? He should have told you, but some guys are so bad at thinking ahead. When guys hunt....they are so into it that they don't think of much else. Tell him how you feel and that you hope he will be more considerate of your feelings in the future. Remember you catch more flies with sugar than you do vinegar. You are right in how you feel, just explain it to him. He probably doesn't even realize it. Best wishes sweetie!!
2007-09-24 16:18:55 · answer #5 · answered by 2008girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not go out and look for fun for yourself in the absence of your husband? Hunt too for your tough guy in bed while your husband still hunting? You are intitled to be happy not like being at home alone like a prisoner? You will have fun my dear while your husband is not around you?
2007-09-24 16:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he didnt go so let the hurt go.. as long as hes not mad you made him feel he had to stay then you shouldnt be mad... men dont think sometimes about they might be hurting someone.. they think in the moment.. someone wanted to go hunting and he got excited and wanted too.. so let it go and he must love you enough to stay home with you so love him enough to get over it.
2007-09-24 16:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby does this every now and then with fishing.
I point out that we deserve time with him, especially the kids, and if he wants to go fishing we'll go with him.
Most the time its just something that they look forward to doin, especially if they have been away working.
Its not that he loves us any less, he just doesnt think.
Good Luck
2007-09-24 16:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 21:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋