getting mom to like boyfriend?HELP!?

Question

im 17 and my bf is 18 and weve been going out for almost 7 wonderful months! But i dont think my mom is still used to me having a boyfriend. Im the only child AND indian so this complicates things lol. Im getting my licence/car in about a month so i can drive to see him and vice versa and im getting a job.I maintain good grades in school but i dont think that responsibility is convincing my mom. What should i do? thanks!

hes indian as well and he wants to go to med school so hes not a total bum lol

i also get along with his parents i love them too

Answer 1

am an indian too and i know where you are coming from! What you need to do is take ur bf and ur mom together out for dinner and give them a chance to know each other better. I am sure he can impress her if he tells his future plans and stuff.
good luck!

Answer 2

Don't try too hard ... if you over try, it'll seem suspisious, like for some reason you expect her not to like him. Just let her get used to it ... I'm not overly-familiar with Indian culture, but I'd expect that means that your mom is fairly conservative and traditional ... it'll just take some getting used to. Be sensitive to the fact that your mom is having difficulty adjusting and your being responsible (and, in a sense, not needing her as much) is probably not helping as much as you would think ... it may be making it that much harder because it's emphasizing the fact that you're not her little girl any more.

So long as things don't get too radical, there's no real reason to worry. Be patient, and don't push anything. Let your mom adjust at her own rate, and don't worry about her not liking your boyfriend as a person because, unless he's a deadbeat or something, that's probably not even the issue.

Answer 3

You can't force your mom to like your boyfriend. If he is truly a good person then she will learn to like him in spite of herself.
On the other hand, consider that often parents, or other people, can see something in others that we can't because we are too emotionally involved. She may have a legitimate reason for disliking him that you are blind to at the moment because of being involved with him.

Answer 4

Total ineptness from the beginning! My babe sure does know her way around too much duty....I am so proud. Have you researched Common Law Alimony? I'm just sayin' cause I think you have to be paid to get unemployment from being fired as team mom.

Answer 5

You only said things that would make your mom like YOU, not your bf. Aside from him not being Indian, ask her what she doesn't like. You might see she has some valid points. I would also ask other people what they think about him. People should have valid reasons for not liking someone and you need to ask before you can "convince" them of anything.

Answer 6

I think that you mom somewhat likes him. Or She would not let you see him. And you just have to give it time. And pretty soon your mom will see how happy you are with him and start liking him more to. Just be patient and see where it goes.

Answer 7

Be patient and remember she worries because she cares.

After a time, she will see that he is good for you and relax a little (or not and tense up more).

A lot of people adore sons-in-law they hated as boyfriends.

Answer 8

what i did with my mom when i was in your shoes is Me and my boyfriend sat down with her and talked about some concerns she had and also some things that we felt that was important.. Trust me she will begin to trust you, the more she See's that your not going to do anything the more she will realize she can let go... Good luck.. if you need more help email me..

Answer 9

you cant force your mom to like anyone
but HE has to show her respect and prove he is worthy enough to date you..
he needs to earn her liking him

Answer 10

let your boyfriend show her the good things abou himself.