2007-09-24 15:55:45 · 32 answers · asked by necie82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sorry that you are in a position to ask this question. I truly understand. No one can tell you how soon you can date. Every person, every situation, every relationship is different. When you are ready you will know. Only you will know what is right for you. Some people wait years, some months, some never date again. You know where you want your life to go, you know what you are ready for, you will know if you are ready. Any more there is no real set time. When you feel ready go for it. Just remember to be careful, take your time, follow your heart. Live and be happy!
2007-09-24 16:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by bkdrm41897 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the key question to ask would be .....
Have you closed the chapter with your late Husband. No I am not saying you should forget about all the memories with him. But rather are you ready not to live in the past memories ...... yearning and longing for what you used to have with him.
When you are ready to start anew and create new memories ...... that I believe is the time that you should start dating.
There is no need to feel guilty in wanting companionship; all of us need this. So there is really no timeline to this.
The more important element is the ability to let go .... so that new things can happen.
Francis
2007-09-24 16:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by francis&dorothy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No- one else can tell you this. There is no poltically correct time that you have to wait until it is acceptable (although dating after a week might seem a little rude!).
Only you know when your grief has had time to settle and you feel ready for it. I think 2 years is a long time and plenty of time for it to be acceptable socially. My mother met her partner after his partner had died only just 1 year before. They are still together after 12 years. No-one thought it was terrible that it was only a year.
take care of you and stop worrying about what other people think - they have not lived in your shoes or been what you have been through,
2007-09-24 16:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Olivereindeer 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Date when you feel you're ready to move on. My wife was widowed in late 2003 and we met about a year later. She still sometimes has feelings of guilt for loving me as if she's somehow betraying her deceased husband's memory. I've done everything I can think of to try to help her remember him in a positive way, and feel our relationship is better off for it. It's something you may never completely overcome, but life goes on and you have to go on with it.
2007-09-24 16:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being widowed myself, my husband has been deceased now for a little over a year. 2 years is very good to have collected yourself and now you are ready to date again. I SAY GO FOR IT.
GOOD LUCK YOU DESERVE IT.
2007-09-24 16:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by applehctud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is totally up to you. Are you ready to meet someone else? Will you try to compare them to your husband and be disappointed? Are you ready to love someone new? These are all things you need to consider before you go out with someone else. I think the amount of time you wait is a personal thing.. no one can tell you when you are ready, only you can know.
2007-09-24 16:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by greyskymourning82 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to wait until you are ready. If you don't think you are ready yet then don't start dating someone. If you think that you are mentally and physically ready then you may put yourself back on the field. Sometimes people are never ready. It is just a question one has to ask ones self.
2007-09-24 16:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by animal luver 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your ready now then there shouldn't be a problem. Of course sometimes family members don't always like it but you need to start when your ready. Two years is enough time to heal.
2007-09-24 16:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your ready to date again you might want to try it your husband probably would have wanted you to be happy and move on with your life your not replacing him your just trying to be happy your probably always going to love your husband and if you get a new guy he should understand that
2007-09-24 16:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by ashkat93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been long enough if you are ready. Your husband would want you to move on and find happiness, if your ready go for it.
2007-09-24 16:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋